Question
I cheated on my boyfriend I feel absolutely awful about it because I really am madly in love with him. I was really drunk at the time and was talking to my guy room mate who I have had a tiny crush on for a while, we just let our emotions get the best of us and we ended up kissing which lead to other things. I'm still absolutely in love with my boyfriend and I don't want things to end with him and I know if i tell him he will end things right there and never talk to me again. My room mate is moving back to his home town after this semester so I'll probably never see him again, but like I can't stop thinking about that night with him and my feelings for him are a little stronger and it scares me because I don't want to have these feelings for him, I have a boyfriend that loves me and tells me a I'm wonderful and beautiful why would I have these feelings for my room mate who doesn't have those feelings for me at all, to him we're just friends that took things a little to far. the other thing is I feel guilty about cheating on my boyfriend and I feel guilty about having these feelings for another guy. what do I do? Should I just let it go and forget it happened or should I tell my boyfriend the truth?
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My philosophy on cheating is -- if he could find out, then tell him; if there's a good chance he couldn't, than don't.
For your situation, it sounds like this other guy moving away and you forgetting about him and getting back to just having feelings for your boyfriend is the best thing. Like I said above though, I wouldn't tell him about the cheating.
1. It was a mistake, you didn't do it because of a problem in your relationship with your bf, it just sort of happend.
2. If you tell him, then you're clearing your own mind so you can forget about it, but you're leading him to second guess not just your relationship but every relationship with every girl he's going to be with after. If you keep quiet, than the guilt will keep you from forgetting about it and making this dumb mistake again whilst letting him keep his peace of mind.
Seriously? I'm sorry, but shame on you for cheating. Alcohol is no excuse. You obviously had these feelings for your roommate which is why you cheated on your boyfriend. Be fair to your boyfriend. Tell him exactly what happened. You owe him that much! I'll be surprised if he stays with you, but he might. If you don't tell him, then you're being selfish. Cheating is major betrayal! You can't build a relationship on lies this big! Little white lies here and there won't hurt. But THIS....
I hope he dumps you.
Don't listen to these people who are being mean. Sometimes things just happen, and you just need to look at yourself and try and figure out what the best option for you is. If you think that your bf deserves to know, tell him. If he ends it-you were meant for someone else. But if you think that it was just a one time thing and you want to spend the rest of your life with your bf-don't tell him. Just love him for the rest of your life to make it up to him.