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Help my sisters! I met this guy through a friend and we started to talk. He was a really nice guy and it was as if we could talk about anything. I didn't think the relationship would go beyond friends but then he told me that he liked me and he could see himself dating a girl such as myself. The more I started talking with him, the more I liked him too. He asked me out, so I decided to go on a date with him, we went to lunch on Friday and had an okay time, kept up conversation and had some laughs. But when it came time to say goodbye... something didn't feel right and it was a bit awkward. We hugged and then went our separate ways. The next day I texted him to tell him that I really enjoyed spending time with him, but he didn't reply until late saying that he was at work. On Sunday I just didn't say anything to give him some space. Now it is Monday and he still hasn't contacted me, which leaves me feeling strange because we went from speaking everyday, whether it be through IM, text or talking to absolutely no contact at all.
I really regret not kissing him or making a move on Friday, but I think for the first date that was okay to not 'make a move.' I feel as if I confused him and now he doesn't like me or worse, doesn't want to talk to me at all. But, it confuses me because he told me that he liked me and would have a relationship with me! He is a really nice guy, so I don't think he would flat out blow me off, but who knows, people can change. Should I call him? Leave him alone to come to me? Does he still even like me anymore? I'm very confused! Please help!
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Well I like to use this little trick my best friend gave me. Text him once, if he doesn't reply, wait 2 days. If he still doesn't reply, try texting again. If this goes on for a week or so, IM or Email (or Facebook) him, and see what's going on. Make it a casual message, giving the vibe that you haven't really been thinking of him, but you have. Start the conversation with "I've got a question." or "So my phone broke..." to kind of break the line of usual communication. If you're going with the quesiton one, think of something semi-important. If you're going with the broken phone one, ask if you could have his phone number again, because your phone is broken but you got a new one.
I went through something very similar myself recently and i can safely say talk to him - we say men are insensitive eejits but they can get as confused as we do when it comes to going from a friendship to a relationship...... the only way is to talk to him but dont rush it - ye know each other but it'll be totally different on an intimate level and he could just be worried about what will happen if it doesnt work!! give him time and if its right it will happen.....
hope it works out for you
I would just text him and he be like hey, haven't spoke to you in a couple days, I've been busy, so just dropping by to see what was up I and was thinking about you! ...But I'm always a very blunt open person in relationships..If I have a problem or I think something is up I will come right out and ask him or tell him. You don't need to be wasting your time so just text, call, whatever and see what the deal is.
I would wait and let him respond to you first, if he really wants a relationship-he'll respond.
He didn't say he wanted a relationship, he said he wanted to date you. He went on a date with you once, if he liked you beyond that he would let you know. He was very upfront about his intentions from the first few times you two "connected". Let him come to you, don't be a puppy for a male, they should be drooling over you.
Thank you for all the advice my loves! I'll keep you posted on what happens! Thank you so much!!!