Its probly nothing. I dont care if my bf hangs out with another girl, but he feels the same way you do, and doesnt like it if i hang out one-on-one with another guy. Just give it a trial run and see how things go. If you still feel uneasy, get a group of friends together and invite her along.

I think that if he wants to hang out with a "certain one" more than others, that might be a danger sign. Also if he wants to hang out with that one more than you.
You could maybe try suggesting that the three of you hang out, or that you all hang out in a group. You could even double date! (Or something...)
But most of all, you need to get him to understand how you feel. Explain that you do not suspect that he will cheat on you (Do you?), but that you feel that it may send out the wrong impression or whatever.
Compromise is important, but so is sticking with your beliefs.

maybe you should consider hanging out with the two of them so that you can see how they act around each other. if you figure out that theres nothing between them and you trust them both, youll feel better about letting him hang out with her. its not fair to him for you to not allow him to hang out with his friends. sometimes one on one is just more fun, and i dont mean that in a sexual way. i just mean that if he loves you, which youve been together for a year so i hope he does, then nothing will happen and everyone will be happy.

it's not him that its the other girl thats making u uncomfortable..is what im assuming, most men will understand that. trust him if he hasn't given you a reason to mistrust him then let him. but be weary of this other women . if they've had a "past" together just becareful and remind him you dont hangout with other men. and that if u wanted to he should be ok with it. make a plan to hangout with a guy friend that day and see his reaction if he gives u a bad reaction then u guys need to really talk....its a tough situation you are in believe me but you have to trust him and trust he'll be faithful =).

I usually ask to meet the girl first. If I meet the girl, then I know that I can either trust them together or not. I'm a relatively good judge of character. I say trust him, if he has a lot of female friends maybe suggest he hang out with a group rather then just one on one. It is probably nothing. if he hasn't given you reason not to trust him, then trust him. Until you feel you truly have something to worry about. But if you ask to meet her, that shouldn't be a big deal. He should like the fact you want to get to know one of his friends.

i think that everyone needs their space ... n i agree with anonymous ... if they'v had a past ... i'd be careful cuz that tends to bring back old feelings. even if ur boyfriend IS in love with u ... sometimes .. shit happens and u shud try to find out if he's okay with u hangin out with ur guy friends cuz if he isnt .. then he shudnt expect u to be okay with him hangin out with that girl!

watch that. your guy might just be innocently hanging out with a friend but that girl might be trying something. this happened to me and eventually i talked to my guy about it and he addmitted he had started having feelings for her. i mad him choose, and he chose me but it was really hard on the relationship. you should talk about it with him, and keep an eye out for anything fishy

Is this a new girl he's just met or an old friend? If he hasn't been hanging out with her one-on-one before I can see how you'd get upset, but remember, he has told you he would like to, not that he just will, which means he's keeping your feelings in mind. He is respecting you and your wishes.

Meeting her would definitely help ease your mind, if you haven't already, but it's really absolutely nothing to worry about. My boyfriend meets up with his female friends one-on-one all the time for coffee, and before his best friend moved away, they actually had an allocated night of the week to spend together (Thursdays because they watched Skins together). You need to understand that he loves you and is with you.

Plus, it's a little bit harsh on you to not see any male friends one-on-one that you may have seen one-on-one before you started going out with your boyfriend, even if it is by your choice. I hang out with my male friends all the time, one-on-one. It really is no big deal and you need to establish trust here.

I can understand what you are going through, when i was with my ex i was exactly the same (he was very popular esply with other women), but since we've been split i hang out with my best friend (male) a lot, sometimes with his girlfriend - i've him for as long as ive known my ex (if not longer!) and he is a brother to me always been there for me in difficult times and i feel for him the same way i feel for my very own blood brother (plus i always say he is my brother from another mother), i can see in some/most cases it is probably right to be paranoid, but sometimes its not always the case. Meet her, if you get on with her and still don't trust ur instincts invite her on a girls nite out and introduce her to your friends - sometimes an outside perspective of someone who knows you might help rest your mind.

For me, it's no problem at all. My guy hangs around with other girls one-on-one all the time. I don't care, I trust him. I've been around a few of them and they're just buddies with him.

I'm not really the jealous type anyway nor do I care if he "looks." I look, but that doesn't mean I want the merchandise. But I also believe you have to have that trust in order to keep your mind at ease. I have let thoughts sneak into my head a little, but I know my boy won't stray.

I hang out with guys one-on-one, so I can't deprive my boy of the same with girls. I'd seem overbearing if I did. He has his friends and I have mine. I like knowing that he's getting out and having fun.

My husband and I came to the agreement awhile ago that we could hang out with the opposite sex, but we share everything so when I hang out with my guy friend I tell him all about it and visa versa. We don't mind it cause we know that at the end of the day we will go home to each other and fall alseep in each others arms. He is the only one for me and I am the only one for him. If I have a problem with the girl then we talk about it we go from there. The choice is up to the both of you and if you don't feel comfortable with it you have to let him know so he knows how you are feeling.

well, my best friend is a guy, and he has a girlfriend, im not sure how she feels about it, but she knows that weve been best friends for a while, so im pretty sure shes okay with it, and shes never said anything to niether of us. so u should be fine with it

The fact he has mentioned it is a good thing. From experience, the guy-if he is cheating-won't mention that he wants to hang out with her. If he isn't, then he might. Of course theres no real way you can know, but ask if you can all spend time together, get to know her, after all you might then gain a new friend, who can give you inside info on what he's upto, and thinking, and someone you can talk to. Plus, if he WAS thinking about cheating with her and you've made friends with her, then she is far less likely to go along with it, because she respects you. If he doesn't want you to spend time with her and him then that would ring alarm bells. It might be nothing though, I really hope it is nothing that you are worrying about! Good luck :)

This is a matter of trust. Do you trust your man or not? It's okay to be old fashioned to an extent, but realize that our world is changing rapidly and a lot of stuff changes with it. It is possible that he is just friends with her and I think the fact he talked to you about it shows his main focus is you, which is important to remember. If you're that worried about it, maybe you should just hang out with both of them at the same time.

But I wouldn't worry about it. Stressing yourself out over it won't help you and it might cause issues between you and him. Cause asking your bf to not look at another female is kinda odd, no offense. I mean, girls are everywhere and it's kinda impossible to ignore them all. Same goes in reverse. I think you should have guys friends. Just because you have friends with the opposite sex, it doesn't mean you're being unfaithful. Relationships are about a few major points. Trust, Communication, Love/Affection. These are all important things. There are other points too but these always come up the most.

But you also can't impose your views on other people. It can be seen as controlling (not saying you are or anything but there are people who could see it that way). It's like how people who have been wronged by someone shouldn't automatically impose their ex's onto their current partners. It's the same. I say take a deep breath, let it out slowly and consider which is more important to you. I hope this doesn't come off as too rude or anything, this is just how I see it.

rida-

can you answer this for me please?

my guy always said its fine if i hang with guys one on one. i dont like him seeing his exes one on one either. wat do you do in this situation?

first off, I know exactly how you feel!!! and really I'm not sure, I suppose if you know this girl and how she acts and if its nothing then don't worry but like someone up there said ^^^ she could be really into him and he could actually be into her :( so it's all how you feel. and really you should let him know, if he's not up to dealing with how you want things to be, then I guess he's not in for the long run.

Litmus test: Suggest inviting her over or out for dinner. If they are just buddies he probably won't hesitate.

I'd let him...ONLY if I knew that they were JUST friends, no hesitation. But if they may have at one point been 'friends with benefits' or dated, I'd ask him not to.