just ask him. if he rejects you there are other fish in the pond.

just ask him. if he rejects you there are other fish in the pond.

Well I can't really tell you how to get over it but all I can tell you is that you will never know if he likes you if you never ask him to do something with you. You could try to find something that he really likes and couldn't say no to so that you can hang out with him. Find acommon interest or put yourself out there and try to find something that he enjoys that you could enjoy too.

Stop flirting so much with other guys, just flirt with him :)

If you're nervous to ask him out straight away, talk to him about stuff, find some common ground, i.e. if he likes movies, find out what kind and then ask him casually to a film or something, make sure its just the two of you so none of your other friends try to butt in and get involved.

I had the same problem when I first moved here, and I had a crush on this guy for 2 years .. I finally got up the courage to ask him out and he said yes :] and we have been dating for almost 2 months now. I have a major fear of rejection as well, but I got over it and asked him. And he said yes. So maybe he will say yes, maybe he will say no. Either way, at least you tried. And even if he dose say no, there is always other guys out there.

I have the same problem, and that led to me missing out on the guy! I understand how hard it is to get over that fear, because it's absolutely horrifying when I think about what might happen. But when I finally got over it, (which took at least 8 months) the guy had started dating someone else.
I really think you should go for it! And even if he says no, go eat ice cream or bawl with a friend. Anyways, if you're worried bout a movie or something long, why not fries or some random neat snackfood spot in town?

Flat out ask him. Honesty and being bold does catch their attention and if he rejects you at least you took a risk.. most people have a crushes on others for years and dont say a word. so thats a two in one!

take time to think about this. could have, should have, would have. what's it going to be like when you dont have the opportunity anymore and in the future you think back and you could have asked him but you didnt. you should have asked him, the worst that could happen is he says no. and the worst part about looking back is that you would have asked him if you could go back in time and have that chance again. you're most likely not going to be with him for life, but while you are with him you need to make it count. if you ask him and he says yes, in the future even after you break up, you'll be able to look back at the great times you spent as a couple. if he says no, you tried and it was his fault he didnt make it happen when you wanted to. in that case, he'd have the coulda shoulda woulda regret, not you. my boyfriend explained this to me before we were dating when he wanted to know something that i told him i wouldnt tell him, which was that i like him, and i ended up telling him and now we've been together 4 months :}

You should just go up and ask him on a date.
If you guys are truely friends he isn't going to be rude or tell you flat out no.
If you see he isn't really into you though and eventually tells you he doesn't like you like that, just FLIRT! Mmkay, yeah it helps a lot because it gets your mind off him and it's harmless(:
Good luck!

I had the same fear back in high school and found out later that the guy I liked was into me but too shy to act on it as well. You will regret not getting an answer and that will last a lot longer than any embarrassment or hurt you may feel if you get rejected. Remember being courageous isn't the ability to do something, but doing something even though you are afraid. :)

Just ask him. If you don't have the courage to do it face to face, right him a letter or something. If he is not interested, don't stress about it because that just means he's not the right guy for you. I used to have a fear of rejection with guys too, then after getting dumped a number of times I realized I was still alive after rejection, and that I was one step closer to finding a guy who would appreciate me. Rejection is not easy, but it's better knowing if someone wants to be with you or not, than it is spending the rest of your life wondering "what if I had tried and just asked?"

This sounds EXACTLY like a situation that i was going through in High School.
What i advise you to do is some how get across to him that you like him! drop subtle hints, and stop flirting with the other guys all together and only flirt with him. it will make him feel special, and he might start to pick up that you're into him.
i know it might be hard to put yourself out there, because i'm the same way! i have always feared rejection from people... especially guys. It has always held me back.
But if you don't do it, you will definitely regret it later.

I have liked this guy ever since my freshman year (it's been four years now... i just graduated), and all that time i have been wanting to tell him that i liked him... but i was afriad to be rejected.
So about a couple months ago, we were hanging out, and he told me that he likes me and that he has always liked me... and i eventually admitted my crush on him. so ALL this time, we have liked eachother, but didn't know it! and i regret SO much that i didn't tell him earlier, because now we're both going off to college, and it's too late to start a relationship.
i really do regret it more than anything.

So PLEASE learn from my mistake and TELL HIM! Make sure he knows that you like him.
Because later on, you will most likely regret not doing it!

yeah, fear of rejection is a common thing..i deal with it all the time.. but, it is better to just
go ahead and put yourself out there and ask him.. worse case scenario.. he will say no..
but, that's ok.. it will be his loss.. there are lots of guys out there that will like you for you..
he will come along when you least expect it.. but, I'm thinking, he probably does like you..
but, he is also afraid of rejection..give it a shot.. you might be pleasantly pleased...

just ask...you will never know unless you do it...you don't want to look back and have regrets and have to wonder what if. the worst he can say is no...its not that bad!!!

dont be nervous!!
the worst they can say is no! (:
thats what i got taught! :)

Never let the fear of striking about keep you from playing the game...and remember that you gotta be willing to risk a now if you ever want to hear a yes!

i know xactly how you feel!!!!!!!!
i have missed out on a really major guy that way.
we were friends first but then i think there was some sort of chemistry.........and then he moved away and i was totally sad and he didnt write to me at all and then over facebook i find that half a year he has a girlfriend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but ive moved on.......but sometimes im still sad.
well atleast you can flirt with guys!!!! so if he doesnt like you others will like you too ;)
you should stop flirting with other guys. and then just talk to him and like show that you are interested in him- but in a casual way. like show him that youve noticed him. i bet then he will react in some way.

Think about it. Why is this guy spending so much time hanging out with you, just you, if he doesn't like you? If he likes you enough to hang out with you all the time, chances are he definitely likes you enough to at least give dating a chance. No need to make it sound like a big deal. Start out with no pressure, just make sure he knows you like him. Subtle hints appreciated, extra long hugs will get noticed, that sort of thing. You will know soon enough whether he wants to be more than friends. Maybe ask him if he wants to grab a burger after practice.

If you're seriously afraid of out and out asking, why not try an open ended comment. Like if you guys are talking about a movie that's coming out soon, or already in theatre's you could say something like "I really want to see that, but I hate going to the movies alone" OR you could say to him "We should go out for coffee sometime" There's no real rejection that you need to worry about from those types of things and if he's into you, he will hopefully take the bait!

I think you should just go for it - you've got absolutely nothing to lose and maybe something lovely to gain - you obviously get on. Don't live with the "what if's" as life's just too short for that - grab every opportunity that you can - it's the only way to grow and learn.

i can fully understand your situation...i NEVER approach guys,i find it difficult just to smile at them to show some sort of interest. For me to even show any interest i usually have to get blind drunk first,and then of course only the w@#kers come running. Whats funny is...i have been talking to a new guy friend (who is absoloutely gorgeous) and he tells me that most guys have a bigger fear of the women than what the women have of them...think about most relationships...its usually about the women, and for most marriages too =p
i think you need to work on yourself first to be honest, thats my game plan anyways, obviously you have an issue that holds u back from being able to even ask friends to come along to a social gathering. cliche i know but confidence is everything....i have 2 friends...1 very pretty and the other one quite average...BUT the one thats not quite as pretty usually gets all the boys and lots of numbers...why?because she is one of the most confident people i can see when we're out, sometimes being shy can come accross as being snobby, as ive been told personally quite a few times...so im trying to make myself happy first so that i truly dont care about what anyone else thinks

i can fully understand your situation...i NEVER approach guys,i find it difficult just to smile at them to show some sort of interest. For me to even show any interest i usually have to get blind drunk first,and then of course only the w@#kers come running. Whats funny is...i have been talking to a new guy friend (who is absoloutely gorgeous) and he tells me that most guys have a bigger fear of the women than what the women have of them...think about most relationships...its usually about the women, and for most marriages too =p
i think you need to work on yourself first to be honest, thats my game plan anyways, obviously you have an issue that holds u back from being able to even ask friends to come along to a social gathering. cliche i know but confidence is everything....i have 2 friends...1 very pretty and the other one quite average...BUT the one thats not quite as pretty usually gets all the boys and lots of numbers...why?because she is one of the most confident people i can see when we're out, sometimes being shy can come accross as being snobby, as ive been told personally quite a few times...so im trying to make myself happy first so that i truly dont care about what anyone else thinks

i know exactly how u feel! first just see if he likes you. youll be able to tell by his body language and how he talks to you. then u show him that ur interested. try to stop flirting with other boys and hang around him more than u already do. then either he'll ask you out or you'll ask him out. the worst that could happen is he says no. then you go find someone new it that happens

teehee i know exactly how u feel! im the same way!

Ask him, before its too late!

Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. I too am cursed with this fear of rejection.

Unfortunately, I was recently head over heels in love with this one guy. He was handsome, intelligent, funny. And, he seemed to be as into me as I was into him.
Then came college.
I stayed in High School, and he went away. We didn't stay in touch, since our feelings for eachother were kinda foggy. I think it was awkward on both of our parts.
Im finally able to spend time thinking of things other than him, but I will always regret that I never asked him, or made my feelings more clear.

Just ask him go 4 it, i did same recently. we didnt get together but we r better mates n nw i know where i stand