try and meet someone new. i'm the same way, i won't be able to get over someone for a reallyyyyy long time. the only time when i really do is if i start liking someone else :/

Have you tried actually going out with GUYS?! Because it seems like you've tried about everything but that. Another guy(s) can get your mind off your ex and you can start to realize how other guys are and what they can offer you and even fall in love again!

try to meet new guys and just try to have fun out wit your friends so you can just get away from it, even for a little bit. it's going to go away sooner or later but you just have to be patient and try to date other guys. hope this helped. good luck (:

try just letting your mind and heart soothe itself. let it go, slowly though, take your time. if you have the will power you can make it :) try to look at different guys, they can help lead your broken heart away. for example, look at all their good qualities and even day dream. try making new friends of all sorts, male and female. don't force this all on yourself so hard though, it's a natural process.

I have the same problem.... all I can say is find someone else better who treats you like the sun shines out of your ass... involve yourself with them and don't let your heart talk your brain out of it.

I too had to deal with a broken heart from my marriage ending over two years ago. I cried for three months straight thinking I'd do anything to get him back. Then came the guilt wondering what I did wrong to cause the breakup, and this from a marriage where I was told I was nothing and couldn't make it on my own. I even joined the army to get away from it all, thinking that by hard training and work I could beat the broken heart out of me.
There is no quick fix to a broken heart or special magic formula or I would gladly share the secret with you. All I can say is in someway all girls go through this and one day we wake up and realize without us realizing that our heart has moved on and we can start to live again. You will always miss him hon, anyone with a heart miss the past loves, but you will be able to eventually put it behind you. :)

If you aren't getting over him, have you talked to him about this at all? Have you tried to get his input of a possibility of getting back together? If not...then you should start dating new men. Don't let a heart break BREAK you.
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I agree with the above post. If you have a heart, you will always miss him and he will always be a part of you, but isn't that a good thing? Let yourself see it as a good thing, and go on to find your next good thing even though right now it seems like that doesn't seem possible. The next Mr. Right is out there witing for your love and you will fall in love again. It may take time (alot of time, maybe) to heal from the past, but you will recover and you will move on and be happy again. You may even be happier than before. I was married for 22 years and it ended. We never really stopped loving each other, but we never really got along on many issues either...it just wasn't mean't to last. We had 2 great kids, so I'm glad for what we had, but I need more and he wants something other than what I want. I'll be happy with someone else again some day, and I am out there looking after 4 years of seperation. I have a good time being with other guys on dates and some day I'll find the one who meets my needs and makes me happy. I don't like living alone, but there is no rush. That would be a mistake. I needed to be happy being me before I could be happy being a couple again.

Get to the root of why you miss him by digging below the feelings to the mechanics that cause the emotional response. Be really honest with yourself about who and where you are. Get happy and accept what you have and who you are. Decide what you want in a guy and why you want those characteristics.
Once you get happy with what you have and where you are, you can begin to pursue or find your passions with freedom from emotional baggage. The person who wants to be with who you really are will come into your life. If not, you will continue to meet new friends who add to your life and pursue your passions.
Everything in life happens for a reason. Embrace what you have been given and attempt the things you want to learn. Turn strangers into friends and friends into family. Live. Thrive. Let the rest take care of itself.

Stop giving yourself such a hard time, there is no set time limit for getting over a broken heart....
How long were you with this person? My 7 year relationship ended 6 months ago and I can honestly say the first 4 months were the most horrendous of my life, but since then things have started to get easier. My ex and I moved 200 miles away from home cos of his job and we still have a house which we cant sell at the moment so I am stuck here away from all my nearest and dearest and it has been so so hard doing most of this alone....
The point is, you will get there, no matter how bleak it may feel. But you really need to think about your feelings. I have no doubt you love him but is there any chance you get some comfort from wallowing in the memories of your relationship? Cos I know I did, and on some days I still do...its scary starting over but you can do it.
My Nan has always said the following words.....they are words to live by
Happiness is like a butterfly, the more you chase it the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things it comes and sits softly on your shoulder....
Thats helped me a lot, I hope it helps you too...good luck

i have the same problem too :'( its been 4 years since i fell in love with him and we've been on and off many times the max we've been off was 1 year and a half. and now we are completely done. he always wants me back but i know that he doesnt change. even though he has cheated on me and done me wrong many times, i still loved him, and i never truly forgave him. i lost complete contact with him for 2 months and it's been very hard for me, i always think about him: it's like withdrawal from cocaine and u always think about it when u dont get that dose. i tried everything.. sometimes i think i got over him, but whenever i really think about it, i never did. I even cry myself to sleep when i think about the things he has done to me. I was always the one to break up with him but he would always try to talk to me again, and it was hard for me to stay mad at him for a long time. Im not a softie kind of person with other people though. but i dont why i always ended up forgiving him. but now i learned my lesson, and im in a process of forgetting him, and i really hope i can do it this time.

it sounds like you could be depressed. talk to your doctor, the breakup may have triggered this