well it honestly depends on the guy. some guys are more straightforward than others.

how is the guy so far?

There are many different kinds of signs, some obvious, some more subtle. Does he make lots of sexual references/innuendos during conversation? Does he actually make conversation or just want to make out? Does he pay attention when you talk or is he just giving the appearance of it? Did you meet him in a bar or club? - usually not a great place to meet guys who think about more than one thing. Some guys who are only after sex start acting better once they know thats not what you want, whereas some guys fall out of interest. Usually it's a case of trial and error i'm afraid. There's only so far the obvious signs will take you. It annoys me coz im attracted to naturally cheeky (not crude) guys, so I never know til i find out. You just got to try not to get too attached til you find out if they wanna date. Yeah its a pain in the ass and hard work lol. Hope that helps.

Try to actually have deep conversations with him. If he's really interested in YOU, not just your body, he'll be more comfortable opening up to you. If all he wants is sex, there's a good chance he'll just talk about simple things, or not talk at all.

If he's quick and smooth with his "moves", like casually putting his arm around you on the first date, or trying to go any farther than MAYBE a hug, there's a fairly high chance he just wants in your pants.

Also look at how he acts ! If he's nervous and shy, it might mean he's scared of what you think, meaning he cares, obviously. If he's cocky and arrogant, he doesn't think very highly of you, and therefore doesn't care.

A good test is to try to get close to him emotionally before physically. If he's more than grateful for that, and doesn't make any suggestion he wants more until you're ready, then obviously he cares. Make him wait at least a month, just to make sure. If he's trying to get you in bed with him within the first week, there's a good chance he's just after a piece of ass.

Good luck hun ! ♥

what if this dude is your bf ? and he tellss you hes not happy with you and that he is only around because he has nowhere else to go. then turns around and says i love you please dont leave me.... should i still want to be with this guy or say see ya later dude??

See ya later!!! You deserve more respect than that from a guy. Like you said, he's clearly stated he's only about because its convenient for him, and as soon as he thinks you're off to find a more deserving man, he comes out with the "i loves you's".
You can do so much better that this honey. Go out and have some fun. If you can have fun alone (with your girlfriends), then Mr Gorgeous and Charming will come out of the woodwork when you least expect it...and he'll want you for you...not for the convenience of it all.
Good luck sweetie :)

A true guy will get to know you casually and not try to "invite you to his place" quickly. Normally, if a guy is a creeper but wants to come off as normal, will gain your trust fast. He will make you feel very secure about yourself with so that you will "want" to get intimate with him fast. He may even say flat out that he doesn't want to force you into anything-could be true- but a creep will let a small amount of time go by to ease you into it.
I also agree with Iva-When I first started to really bond with my now boyfriend, I talked about my future goals for a career and what motivates me. That is what he says he likes about me the most :)

i met this guy and hes amazing great guy.. sober or after a few drinks.. i met a few of his buddies that really have nothing bad to say about him.. he told his best buddy and his gf about me... but at times i feel like he doesnt want to date.. and we have gotten pretty close on the past few dates..

You should read the book 'hes just not that into you' it truely opened my eyes. To keep this short, if a guy truely likes you and wants to date you, he will make major effort to see you, talk to you, hang out with you, impress you, etc. If a guy just wants to get in your pants, well its pretty easy to tell. He's the guy who texts you late at night, doesnt take you out on formal dates, or just kinda stops talking to you when you havent slept with him in a certain amount of time. if a guy really likes you, he will be willing to wait until you are ready to have sex. if he just wants the sex, and you tell him you want to wait 'x months' before you get physical, he will give you all the signs you need to know that was all he wanted. A good guy is hard to find these days, and relationships take work. But there is no need to sacrifice your body because you want a guy to like you. Dont make any extra effort if he isnt.and dont sleep with him just because you want him to like you more, in all reality, he will just come to not be able to respect you. sad, but true.

or you could just ask? its actually not that hard to do