Question
How to get over my ex? I dated this guy for 2 years and we had our ups and downs. I loved him with all my heart and we had made vows that we'd be together forever. We broke up a year ago and I started dating this other guy two months ago. He's amazing but...I still think of my ex a lot. I heard he's moved on which hurts me a lot. He hates me because I'm dating someone else now and doesn't even wanna see my face. Yesterday we bumped into each other and he said he still loves me. It brought back so many memories. I miss him so much! I don't know what to do!
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If you're still thinking about you're ex alot more than normal, then you're probably still not completely over him and ready to take on a new relationship. The same thing happened to me when I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years and he left for the military. While he was gone I got into another relationship and I thought I was moving on...until my ex showed up for Christmas and all of these old feelings came back and I ended up cheating on my boyfriend at the time. It made me realize that he was a rebound and I wasn't ready to be in a new relationship. I was in it with this guy just to be in one because I was used to having one for so long. One never means to have a rebound relationship and you don't even realize that it was one until later.
give sum tym 2 urself....itz really hard 2 forget thngz bt.........move on.........
A breakup is always hard especially when you've been with the person for a long time and thought that you'd spend the rest of your life with him. I think it's completely natural to have feelings for your ex come back especially after seeing him and hearing that he still loves you. However, you need to think back to the problems that you two had. It's much easier to remember the good and forget the bad especially when you loved a person. It sounds like your ex may still have feelings for you but that doesn't make up for the new guy in your life. You need to think about what it is you really want in a relationship and from a partner.... it may be your current bf, your ex or you may find it's neither.... And just know that no matter what everything ends up the way it ought to be :)
depends on why u broke up. was it somthing silly in the heat of the moment? where you both having a hard time? or was it something worse? maybe if it was something small, it would work if you got back together.
but what about the guy ur with now? none of this is fair on him. if your not over your ex, then your not ready for another relationship.
if you descide not to get back with your ex, then u need to make more time for you. go out have fun, its not all about being in a relationship. one thing that helped me was thinking, yes they were a part of my life, and i enjoyed it, but i can live in a memory. the past is nice to remember, but lonely to live in
He's moved on, but said he still loves you? How do we get to be so fickle...
Move on, don't trash the relationship you have now because of something that happened then! If he really wanted you, he would not be seeing someone else, and he should not have let you go in the first place.
I agree. I'm in the same sort of situation at the moment with my new boyfriend. I still see my ex a lot since we have some of the same friends and even though we're both with new people, we lapsed two months ago; we cheated on our current partners with each other. Though I regret the act, it's only fortified my resolve to stay with my current boyfriend.
I do still think of my ex and get twinges of jealousy when I hear about him and his new girl but after that incident, I know that it will never be the same as it was in the good part of our relationship.
I'm not completely convinced that you need to be fully "over" your ex to move on. I think what you need to be in convinced and certain that it is indeed over and that you MUST move on. I think that perhaps we put too much emphasis on being "over" our exs and think that just because we still think of them that we shouldn't be dating again. I don't think its an all or nothing situation. I think that every day that we move along in our lives--be it doing things with friends, alone or a new partner, that that moves on further away from a situation that "was" and into appreciating what "is" now. (-:
i totally understand. i got into a relationship 3 months after my ex cheated on me. and the new bf only lasted a month for many reasons. i wasnt truly in love with him and i didnt give myself enough time to heal. but thank god were able to stay real good friends.
if ur ex and you broke up because it was just bad timing then give it another go. but if u broke up because he did something that made u unable to trust him then continue on with ur life.