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at 7:20pm on: December 16, 2009
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How could I make my conversations more interesting? I know confidence is a key to a lot of things, but I feel like my conversations can be dull, especially when I'm talking to a guy and if I'm interested in that guy. I always feel like I'm boring! What can I do?






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at 8:20pm on: December 16, 2009
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I always say something weird and quirky so people have to think, that way it breaks the ice and I also get to see if I am talking to a person that I even want to talk to! Who cares what they think about you, make it known that you're the one who should be entertained in a conversation :)

at 8:45pm on: December 16, 2009
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lol lately i have been going on "imginary journeys" with the guy i like through texting
lol i start off saying something like "i wanna be somewhere but idk where"
and idk use your imagination
XD
^ i think it works best if your texting late at night

at 8:49pm on: December 16, 2009
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Play the question game. Sometimes it works as a good conversation starter.

at 9:43pm on: December 16, 2009
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what is the question game??

at 1:48am on: December 17, 2009
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The question game is just a game where you ask a guy (or whoever, I guess) random questions. Then they have to answer, and have to ask a question themselves right after you.

at 5:49pm on: December 17, 2009
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Yeah, this is a great for filler conversations. My boyfriend and I play this when we can't sleep, or when we're bored in class via text. It's great fun, really. Questions like "What's your favorite marine animal?" and "Would you rather eat Indian food or Mexican food for the rest of your life?" are fun, and care-free questions that require some thought, and often have unexpected answers. You can really learn a lot about a person.
A way to increase the number of things you can have a conversation about is by reading the newspaper, reading interesting blogs (boingboing.net is a favorite of mine, because of the variety they have), making sure you're always reading a book (make it a challenge to finish at least one a month), and watching more obscure movies. Just having that sort of information in your mind will give you back-up plans in case the conversation starts to die down. I find that guys prefer to talk about more hypothetical things, or events that are not necessarily directly effecting them. Many girls prefer to talk about other people they know, or things that directly effect them, in my experience. So if you're having problems with guys in particular, just gear your conversations towards something that's going on in the world, a scientific theory, music, literature, etc. Ask hypothetical questions, or perhaps ask if they have a theory behind some trend. If it starts a debate, even better! Just remember not to take anything too personally; unless he is directly attacking you, he doesn't mean anything by it.
What I would say, though, is that if you are passionate about what you're talking about, it's not going to be boring. Talk about what you want to do with your life (particularly your career), and having a storage of random memories from childhood is nice.
But you hit it spot-on. It's about confidence a lot of the time. I find that many girls are not confident in talking with a group of guys, especially. A fear of judgement is a big one. But if you gain the confidence, you'll gain the credibility that makes you immune to judgement (to a certain extent).

at 9:49am on: December 17, 2009
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play 20 questions. you guys take turns asking question and they can be about anything you want. talk about things they like. make them laugh. tell them all the things you like to do. ask him about himself. point out things around you to talk about. but really just be yourself. if they truly like you they will like how you are without you changing yourself. good luck

at 6:28pm on: December 19, 2009
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Find something interesting and just go with it. If its a starter conversation, try not to prep too much. Comment on what he's wearing, his cell phone, whatever is in eyesight. Ive also found it amusing to walk up to a complete stranger(usually in a public place) and draw his attention to something funny going on a few yards away. Just point out whats going on and ask something like 'why on earth would someone dress like that this time of year?', if he's interested, he'll go with it. Dont force a conversation, and try to pick out the interesting things about YOU, so youll always have something to fall back on. if in a store, ask his advice ie "im picking out a birthday/xmas/kwanza etc, gift for my brother(brother in law), and im totally lost. he's into this, that and the other(make it up if you have to), what would you like as a gift if you were him?", if in a coffee shop, 'what are you drinking? that looks good'. Go with your gut, if you end up feeling or looking dumb(in your own opinion), well, no love lost, it was just a faux paus, and you learned from it, right?

at 5:59pm on: December 28, 2009
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss

at 12:47pm on: January 10, 2010
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I have ur same problem gurl but da thing is dat I have lots of male-friends nd lots of female-friends. Which i'm surprised at. But seriously just talk about anything. Talk about what happend that day. Talk about how u feel. Anything! And if he don't like what your saying move on.