maybe you should get time for your self only... think about things..... you can also jot down things you like about those two guys.... just write what you feel about them dont think too much.... then if you're done... you'll see who you really love....

Whoever treats you and your son how you should be treated. ie whoever treats you two better. That usually means they'll stick it out with you in the long run even when it gets tough.

this is a rough one. I am a single mom. I use to only date men with no kids. I felt it was unfair to mesh children from 2 separate families 2gether. I found out men with no children do not know how to relate and causes many difficulties. I am dating a man now with a "blended" family already and adding mine 2 the mix. He has a general love for children and a family setting which is real life with children. Most men with no children are aiming for the adult alone time and look as children as an interferance. Don't get me wrong, my situation will not be without it's ups and downs. But there is a big difference 4 me & them, a noticeable improvement.

this same thing happened to me exactly only difference is that neither of us had kids. But i was with his guy for 2 years and a half and i was so in love i could see myself with him for the rest of my life he was perfect but the after 2 years that feeling just seem to get less and less i started seeing faults in him and he just didnt make me feel the way he used to, i dont know if it had anything to do with this other guy i met but i just seem to like him less and less and the new guy more and more. in the end i finished it woth my boyfriend of nearly two years and ended up with the new guy. we have been together for 3 years and has just proposed!! =) he is perfect and even tho in the beginning i still loved my ex it all went away when i realized my fiancé (!!) is perfection! =) so really you should be thinking about your kids best interest but also how you feel, if the fires gone then i dont know how you get that back...you will always be wondering what if with the other guy.
i hope this helped

in the same situation, except without kids. Been with my fiance for about 4 years, but we just aren't compatible, we have had a lot of bad things happen (for reasons I really don't trust him for at all.... and without trust, everything feels so strained).
And ex of mine that I have always loved recently came back into my life, he's always been crazy over me but couldn't talk to me when he was dating because it wasn't fair to his girlfriend. He always has wanted me back and I'm finally at the point where.... I'm tired of the bs and the name calling and the hiding stuff from me from my fiance. I love him but it's been nothing but emotionally straining me and damaging me. I have about a month to mull it over... I'm not going to cheat (I never would), but I am going to see where my heart leads me. Just listen to your heart-- it will tell you where to go. I am heavily relying on mine. I hope you chose correctly too sweetheart.

Well, this is why they call it the dating scene! you don't really have to commit to anyone, and get to try things out before you plunge into the marriage with children journey. Eventually, your kids are going to be out of the house, so, are you going to marry someone(eventually) who is best for them, for you, or for everyone involved?
deciding that a guy who doesn't have kids wont appreciate yours, is kind of unfair. there are plenty of adults who are great with kids, but can't have their own. (for instance, I am great with kids, but can't have my own, I came from a large family!) and guys aren't any different.
if they are not into kids, they will let you know! (LOL)
good luck to you, glad you have two suitors! some women aren't even lucky enough to have one.

I got this advice from someone else..... "Always choose the second one because If you really and truly love the first guy in the first place, you wouldn't even be loving or liking this second guy.. " It makes sense right?

My fiance has two kids from a previous relationship, and I can honestly say that as much as I care for them, (and I do) sometimes I wish it could always be just me and my man. It's tough enough to begin a new relationship with someone, and I've learned it's something else all together to also jump into a "parent" role. Fortunately for me, my fiance understands lets me in without pressuring me to give any more than I am comfortable with. His kids didn't ask me to be their step mom, and I certainly never asked to be a step mom at my age (I'm in my early 20s). I'm good with kids, but it's a whole new dynamic trying to be a parent to children that arent' mine. Basically, what I'm trying to say is, I'm not specially emotionally attached to them. I have male friends who are, or who have been, in similar situations. If the love is real, they stuck it through. If it wasn't, they left, because it wasn't fair to him, his woman, or her kids.
So basically, I'm reiterating what everyone else has said: follow your heart. Do what's right for you AND your kids.