No!? For one thing ..he isn't your boyfriend for another..what kind of question is that?
Do you want to cause more harm then there already has?
Are you that desperate that you're jump back in the lions den and hurt yourself more?
Seriously Girl..take a breather from this relationship shedded skin...and keep lust out of the situtation.
That's how i would look at this situation regardless if this is just a question or real time problem
you are so right. there is no reason why you should have any kind of sexual relations with a guy that is not good enough to be your boyfriend. there was a reason you broke up just remember that.
I don't think she meant that. I'm pretty sure it was just a question.
But yes, I would. Only if he didn't hurt me though. And I'm usually the one doing the hurting because I don't want to get hurt. (which is why now I'm wondering why he would even want to have sex with me if I hurt him....?)
i don't think you should even if he says he knows he did something wrong and he says he's sorry.
if you two are over and you had your reasons why like if he wasn't treating you right or whatever then you should not hook up with him again and NOT have sex with your ex even though it's hard for you.
I had sex with my ex-boyfriend already 3 times... We broke up 6 months ago and it happened out of the blue...and he has a girlfriend for a couple of months now, so I don't know what to think
it's a bad idea, but still there's the familiar feeling, attraction and the history between you...
Before you do it, just think of it like something fun, but not serious, so you won't get hurt
I'm still trying to figure out my situation now, so it's better you don't do it to save yourself from all the pain it can cause...
I did last week =] I call that win. We would always hook up and get close, but never that far. I was still ridiculously attatched. Long story why, but we never slept together when we were together but now we have its given I think both of us a lot of closure and now we are closer than ever emotionally and best friends. I know it sounds like Ive totally been used, but Im happy so whatever, lol.
I think its fine, if we are both single, though things between us didn't work out fine as a couple, we still have needs!... and if the relationship with him is very deep (not romantic) as friends, there's the trust and so, I can see no problem; as long as none is emotionaly attached, means it is "just sex"
i agree 100% im actually going through this right now. and i was the one who got hurt, i was very attached to him, and sex for me was instant closure. we both have no romantic feelings towards each other, but like she said, we all have needs!
Is it tempting maybe depending on your feelings towards him and if its for rebound after you just broke up and your still attracted to him sure.For me personally the ansewer is definately no as far as im concerned once its over and done with its over and done with. My advice no matter how tempting it may or may not be in the long run it would just create way too much unwanted drama, stress and confusion so your better off saying no.
Maybe. It depends on the reason for the breakup (maybe a long distance relationship didn't work, or one or the other of us were having emotional issues we had to settle ourselves.)
I mean, if I still have feelings for them, and they never actually hurt me (why does it have to be a given that I was hurt, and that's why we broke up?) then I don't see a problem.
i have honestly thought about it. because i know him so well and i wouldnt want to sleep with some random person. but i dont think i ever will. its over and i dont want him to think anything of it. i dont like having sex with someone unless i am going out with them
NO! Bad idea! someone is going to get hurt, it's just not right. better to have sex with a total stranger, no strings attached, at least you are on the same page and you can get it out of your system. i know it sound a little promiscous but out of the two evils i think this is the better one:) a cold shower and a good didlo might do the trick too lol
If you both are mutually agreeing that you're just having sex with no attachments, then yes by all means have sex with your ex. You've dated him before, you know what he's like in bed, so it makes it not awkward. Plus chances are he knows what you like, you know what he likes. It works
I think it depends on how you broke up. If it was a really bad break up (and/or he's a complete bastard) then probably not but if you broke up in a good way, due to something like the relationship going dead, then it would be fine.
If the ex were not involved w/ anyone else and things between us were decent & cordial... and we were both up for the sex w/ an ex, then I surely would have sex with an ex.
I have, I do. It's not that big of a deal to me, because the relationship wasn't serious to begin with. Though, I would never sleep with an ex that meant a lot to me.
NO NO NO i would never do that, my ex's are either some of my best friends and that would just complicate things sooo much. OR they are my worst enemies... the one who i can't even stand tried cheating on me and the ones that i'm really good friends with are like brothers to me now.
anyway if a guy wont be in a relationship or you won't be in a relationship with him why would you want to have sex with him??
me and my bf broke up mutually, hes leaving for the army,
i love him still so i did hav sex with him a few times
but like someone above said,
think of it as more of a casual thing and u dnt get hurt,
and im still on the look out for other guys, he aint gonna stop me and i dnt care wat he thinks :)
and im as happy as can be :)
I agree with a lot of things on here - if it's agreed and you acknowledge in youself that it's only sex, nothing else, then it's fine.
Also, what people have been saying about the comfort and knowlege between the two of you, it's true.
i LOVE having sex with my ex. Neither of us are involved with anyone else, we both know that it's over and that we're a train wreck as a couple, and we know we have awesome sex with each other hahaha!
Although i think we have a very unique relationship, and i'm sure it's not a good idea.
I have a friend who is still sleeping with her ex - she wants him back and there's constant hints that he does too and then he goes silent and ignoring her again... it's breaking her heart.
So it all depends on the situation and the individuals involved.
There's just two real life examples :)
If you're mature enough to realize that it's just sex and not getting back together as a couple, then go for it.
I slept with a guy for 3-4 months that, although it was never officially a relationship, it may as well been. We both knew what we were going into once it started, and it never got too emotional.
Do what you think you can handle; if you can't handle just sex, then don't do it(literally).
I've done it before. It was one of those things where we dated for a bit, but didn't have sex, broke up, time went on, we remained friends, although I still always had a thing for him (he was my first real boyfriend. What can I say? Lol). And then one drunken night, we had sex. It ended up being no big deal. Neither of us felt any strings attached, and if anything, it HELPED me move on, although all his friends were saying he should go for it. LOL. We're still friends, I have my own boyfriend, while he has his own girlfriend. We don't get that awkward feeling or anything like that when we hang out. So I guess it just helped us realize we were better off as friends, so that's what we are. But it's different for everyone, so I guess just make sure you keep your emotions in check, and don't get you're hopes up too high. I think it's one of the worst feelings to get them crushed, personally. =/ Just be safe about it. :)
I do all the time. lol. He's a pain, but I love him and believe someday we're meant to be together. It's better than sleeping around... I dunno. I don't mind it. But you both have to be mature and ready for the other to be with other people.
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No!? For one thing ..he isn't your boyfriend for another..what kind of question is that?
Do you want to cause more harm then there already has?
Are you that desperate that you're jump back in the lions den and hurt yourself more?
Seriously Girl..take a breather from this relationship shedded skin...and keep lust out of the situtation.
That's how i would look at this situation regardless if this is just a question or real time problem
you are so right. there is no reason why you should have any kind of sexual relations with a guy that is not good enough to be your boyfriend. there was a reason you broke up just remember that.
I agree with them. You broke up for a reason and when your in the middle you'll remember that reason.
I don't think she meant that. I'm pretty sure it was just a question.
But yes, I would. Only if he didn't hurt me though. And I'm usually the one doing the hurting because I don't want to get hurt. (which is why now I'm wondering why he would even want to have sex with me if I hurt him....?)
I have done, not a mistake a plan to make again. It made getting over him impossible :(
i have. not something i would recommend, ever
i don't think you should even if he says he knows he did something wrong and he says he's sorry.
if you two are over and you had your reasons why like if he wasn't treating you right or whatever then you should not hook up with him again and NOT have sex with your ex even though it's hard for you.
I had sex with my ex-boyfriend already 3 times... We broke up 6 months ago and it happened out of the blue...and he has a girlfriend for a couple of months now, so I don't know what to think
it's a bad idea, but still there's the familiar feeling, attraction and the history between you...
Before you do it, just think of it like something fun, but not serious, so you won't get hurt
I'm still trying to figure out my situation now, so it's better you don't do it to save yourself from all the pain it can cause...
Personally I think it's a bad idea. I mean surely there was a pretty lijit reason that you broke up in the first place, right?
Its easy to have sex w ex. but its reallly bad idea to do that. Its will become hard to get over w the ex. Need to move on.
I did last week =] I call that win. We would always hook up and get close, but never that far. I was still ridiculously attatched. Long story why, but we never slept together when we were together but now we have its given I think both of us a lot of closure and now we are closer than ever emotionally and best friends. I know it sounds like Ive totally been used, but Im happy so whatever, lol.
To be honest, you shouldn't, but no one hears it and believes it. You have to learn it for yourself, unfortunately. Good luck.
I think its fine, if we are both single, though things between us didn't work out fine as a couple, we still have needs!... and if the relationship with him is very deep (not romantic) as friends, there's the trust and so, I can see no problem; as long as none is emotionaly attached, means it is "just sex"
i agree 100% im actually going through this right now. and i was the one who got hurt, i was very attached to him, and sex for me was instant closure. we both have no romantic feelings towards each other, but like she said, we all have needs!
Is it tempting maybe depending on your feelings towards him and if its for rebound after you just broke up and your still attracted to him sure.For me personally the ansewer is definately no as far as im concerned once its over and done with its over and done with. My advice no matter how tempting it may or may not be in the long run it would just create way too much unwanted drama, stress and confusion so your better off saying no.
I would never do that. When it's over, it's over.
Maybe. It depends on the reason for the breakup (maybe a long distance relationship didn't work, or one or the other of us were having emotional issues we had to settle ourselves.)
I mean, if I still have feelings for them, and they never actually hurt me (why does it have to be a given that I was hurt, and that's why we broke up?) then I don't see a problem.
i have honestly thought about it. because i know him so well and i wouldnt want to sleep with some random person. but i dont think i ever will. its over and i dont want him to think anything of it. i dont like having sex with someone unless i am going out with them
it ain't even close to being wort it. trust me.
NO! Bad idea! someone is going to get hurt, it's just not right. better to have sex with a total stranger, no strings attached, at least you are on the same page and you can get it out of your system. i know it sound a little promiscous but out of the two evils i think this is the better one:) a cold shower and a good didlo might do the trick too lol
If you both are mutually agreeing that you're just having sex with no attachments, then yes by all means have sex with your ex. You've dated him before, you know what he's like in bed, so it makes it not awkward. Plus chances are he knows what you like, you know what he likes. It works
I think it depends on how you broke up. If it was a really bad break up (and/or he's a complete bastard) then probably not but if you broke up in a good way, due to something like the relationship going dead, then it would be fine.
If the ex were not involved w/ anyone else and things between us were decent & cordial... and we were both up for the sex w/ an ex, then I surely would have sex with an ex.
I have, I do. It's not that big of a deal to me, because the relationship wasn't serious to begin with. Though, I would never sleep with an ex that meant a lot to me.
NO NO NO i would never do that, my ex's are either some of my best friends and that would just complicate things sooo much. OR they are my worst enemies... the one who i can't even stand tried cheating on me and the ones that i'm really good friends with are like brothers to me now.
anyway if a guy wont be in a relationship or you won't be in a relationship with him why would you want to have sex with him??
me and my bf broke up mutually, hes leaving for the army,
i love him still so i did hav sex with him a few times
but like someone above said,
think of it as more of a casual thing and u dnt get hurt,
and im still on the look out for other guys, he aint gonna stop me and i dnt care wat he thinks :)
and im as happy as can be :)
I agree with a lot of things on here - if it's agreed and you acknowledge in youself that it's only sex, nothing else, then it's fine.
Also, what people have been saying about the comfort and knowlege between the two of you, it's true.
i LOVE having sex with my ex. Neither of us are involved with anyone else, we both know that it's over and that we're a train wreck as a couple, and we know we have awesome sex with each other hahaha!
Although i think we have a very unique relationship, and i'm sure it's not a good idea.
I have a friend who is still sleeping with her ex - she wants him back and there's constant hints that he does too and then he goes silent and ignoring her again... it's breaking her heart.
So it all depends on the situation and the individuals involved.
There's just two real life examples :)
NO WAY! ive been there few years ago and done it and seriously it will mess u up n f**k ur mind up for a very long time please dont go there x
no, find someone that deserves you.
If you're mature enough to realize that it's just sex and not getting back together as a couple, then go for it.
I slept with a guy for 3-4 months that, although it was never officially a relationship, it may as well been. We both knew what we were going into once it started, and it never got too emotional.
Do what you think you can handle; if you can't handle just sex, then don't do it(literally).
I've done it before. It was one of those things where we dated for a bit, but didn't have sex, broke up, time went on, we remained friends, although I still always had a thing for him (he was my first real boyfriend. What can I say? Lol). And then one drunken night, we had sex. It ended up being no big deal. Neither of us felt any strings attached, and if anything, it HELPED me move on, although all his friends were saying he should go for it. LOL. We're still friends, I have my own boyfriend, while he has his own girlfriend. We don't get that awkward feeling or anything like that when we hang out. So I guess it just helped us realize we were better off as friends, so that's what we are. But it's different for everyone, so I guess just make sure you keep your emotions in check, and don't get you're hopes up too high. I think it's one of the worst feelings to get them crushed, personally. =/ Just be safe about it. :)
I do all the time. lol. He's a pain, but I love him and believe someday we're meant to be together. It's better than sleeping around... I dunno. I don't mind it. But you both have to be mature and ready for the other to be with other people.
No, but that's mainly because I want horrible things to happen to my ex