i think you either feel ready or you don't, in the end its up to you, but you want to leave it long enough that you know he wont just disapear after....

Second date. it worked for me ! It doesn't matter how long you wait if they only want sex then they will disapear once they get what they want however long you wait.

Honestly you don't have to wait til you're married that's the opinion of others. Whenever you feel ready to have sex with your significant other is when you have sex. But make sure that that's what you want b/c I made that mistake with my ex. I should've waited for the guy I'm with now.

As the first poster said, wait until you're ready. Whether that means 2 days or 2 years, it's up to you. Make sure you're being safe and taking all the necessary precautions, and make sure you know the guy well and that he won't be a jerk after (I've never seen it happen to anyone I know but it's always a main reason why people say to wait). Don't let yourself feel pressured; if you're not ready, DON'T DO IT. If he won't be with you because you're not ready, then he doesn't deserve to have you. And vice versa; if he's not ready, give him time (this has happened before: I had to talk to my friend, because she was pressuring her boyfriend when he wasn't ready and he was getting uncomfortable).

I've had boyfriends where we never once had sex, and we dated for 6+ months, and I've had sex with boyfriends within a month. Don't stress about having sex- it's supposed to be fun!

I've been dating the guy i'm with just now for about 2 months now and I felt ready really early on, we started sleeping together about 2 weeks into it and he claims to be completely in love with me lol.

Don't do it until you're ready, you'll really regret it afterwards if you're not ready. Just be sure you're both comfortable with each other sexually before going the whole hog so to speak.

Good luck x

don't put out till you're married

I think that a woman should most definitely be ready.

However having been a woman who tends to give in rather quickly and was always ready. I am beginning to realize the correlation between a man's value of you and how easy you are.

If you sleep with a man on the first night, second night, or rather quickly he will consider you easy and think that you would do the same for other men.

Lastly it's my new theory that if a man truly has to work hard to attain your body, he will have a much better appreciation for it. Furthermore if sex isn't added to the mixture right away it will give both people far more time to get to know the other person mentally. The relationship aspect of the partnership will be much stronger.

It depends on the guy, like someone posted earlier if dude into it does not matter how long you wait... Every dude thinks differently. I waited 4months with one guy, and it lasted a good amount of time. Some guys I did it much earlier and still lasted a good amount of time.

i've been married to my husband for five years. we have two kids. and we had sex on our first date.

I aware that what I'm about to say doesn't aply to every guy out there, but from what I've observed, most men appreciate things a lot more if they had to fight for them. Making him wait forces him to take out of him what he considers to be attractive for women, and that allow us to recognize if his behaviour is real or hipocritical. Sex is not the most important thing on a relationship --even when it matters a lot. Meaning, give yourself some time, make him conquer you.

Sorry for the bad english xD

Well for my first time I only waited a month and 2 days into the relationship, mainly because I have a high sex drive and I wanted to try it. The relationship only lasted another 3 months, and he wasn't my true love (I knew that from the beginning, I don't kid myself) but I don't regret it, because I trusted him and knew he cared about me, and really as long as you are sure of those two things and are ready emotionally, what more do you need? With my current boyfriend, I only waited 10 days, but we'd been getting to know each other for 8 months before that (including the 4 I was with my previous boyfriend) and I've fallen deeply in love with him, so it felt right for both of us. So really, there is no answer to your question - just do it when you feel comfortable, but if you're doing it quite early on, make sure you know he doesn't think you're easy or anything, and that he's not only after sex. Other than that, go with your instincts! :)

Me and my boyfriend waited about 4 months into the relationship to start having sex, and we've been together for almost 2 years now. More in love than ever! :]
It really all comes down to when you're ready. Talk about it with him, make sure no one feels pressured.

so what if im going to my bfs place soon... and im goin alone. but i dont think i am ready to have sex i just dont know cause i dont know how pressureing he is... i am pretty sure he will respect it, but what if he doesnt what should i do?

Lucky for me, my boyfriend and I had the same views as far as when to have sex. We were each other's first. Neither of us had planned on having sex until we were married to someone for then we would know we lost it to the right person. We fell in love really crazy fast and did it after only about 2 months. I don't regret losing it to him, because I know now that he is the one I want to be with forever, but I do wish we had waited a bit longer. I started feeling bad about not having sex when he wanted to. I feel like if maybe we waited a bit longer I would have matured more and realized I didn't have to feel bad. I was just so into making him happy because it was so early into the relationship. So maybe when you feel ready, wait a bit longer. Because if it does get to be hard to say no, you'll wish you waited. Good Luck. Hope I helped.

well i say it depends on both of you, and the time and date. i've dated my boyfriend for 9 months ( about to be 10) and we haven't had sex because we aren't ready. i say at least 9 months or a year is good but it really depends on what you want.