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Am I alone on this but does anyone else feel like sex changes a relationship for you but not for guys? I feel like I become so much more attached and that the guy doesn't.
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Am I alone on this but does anyone else feel like sex changes a relationship for you but not for guys? I feel like I become so much more attached and that the guy doesn't.
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yes it does change a relationship some people think that sex is nothing too important but when you have sex its like a new level of trust in a relationship, and also with us girls we have sex for love which can make us really attached to a guy, but guys just have sex for pleasure so they wont come attached at all. just think what do monkeys do the male sleeps around basically because he wants his genes to live on, so that could explain a bit more about it really i no it sounds stupid relating it to monkeys but we are descendent from monkeys lol
i agree with you. Most guys mainly have sex for pleasure and nothing else whereas "us" view this love making as a step in a relationship where you feel you can trust someone
My boyfriend would seriously disagree that he only has sex for pleasure and nothing else. We've had this discussion and he honestly says when a guy really cares about a woman sex for the guy is just as meaningful as it is for the girl. Now I can say sometimes its more "meaningful" than others. But to make a blanket statement that its ONLY for pleasure.... that's demeaning to all men.
Sex does change a relationship, but it does depend on how u want it to be changed, because all of the relationships i've seen that involved sex just made it complicated and they soon ended after 2 months of the first time of having sex.
I don't know how other girls feel, but this is definately the case for me!!
with my ex's i felt it did make a difference, but with my current b/f not at all as we were friends for a long time before we got together and i think that can make a BIG difference
My boyfriend and I didn't know each other for a very long time before we got together, but it didn't really change our relationship when we started having sex.
It depends on the guy honestly. In a previous relationship I had sex with a guy and HE was the one that got attached - not me, which was kinda weird. Now with my current boyfriend sex meant a new level of love and commitment to one another which has been and continues to be great
Some girls get attached based on sex, some don't. I think it's a situational thing. And as for the idea that guys just have sex for pleasure, I think that's a misunderstanding. Sex doesn't have to be for love (and if the guy is just really horny, even if he loves you, it's just about letting off some steam, and keeping his balls from being bruised, to be honest). But it can and often is about love. There's a difference between (excuse my language) fucking and making love. One is physical, the other is the meeting of physical and emotional.
My answer? My boyfriend feels closer to me after sex. I don't necessarily. I do, however, feel closer when we're cuddling. He got really attached after we started having sex. I didn't feel much different. I mean, my love has grown for him, but it wasn't due to the sex.
we women tend to attach emotion to everything that we do. guys do too just that they wont show it.
we women tend to attach emotion to everything that we do. guys do too just that they wont show it.
I have to disagree. It brought my boyfriend and I extremely close to one another. We have been together for almost 3 years.
Guys want the chase. They will do whatever they can to get into your pants, even say 'I love you'. Once you let that man into your pants he's all set. He's gotten what he was chasing after and if you make yourself available at all times afterwords he will drop you like a bad habit. Most young guys don't want to be in relationships they just want to get you naked.
When you meet someone worthy of your love he won't run away. If you want a guy to stick around just be his friend first. Wait for him to really fall for you. Wait until you trust each other and feel safe.
Unfortunately you have to kiss a lot of stupid frogs until you get to a decent dude.
i once heard that the reason girls get attached to guys after sex is biological. a certain hormone is released in your body and this hormone creates a bond with the other person. this hormone is released during sex and childbirth i think.
I seriously disagree. It does make girls attached. They even release a "cuddle hormone" called Oxytocin afterward that makes them want to cuddle! But I've had many relationships (and does sex matter to me emotionally), but the GUYS get WAY more clingy than I do in most of the relationships I have a had. It's ridiculous and I feel like a heart breaker, because I've had so many guys that started getting possessive and needy after sex. They needed me to spend the night or hang out with them more than three times a week and it became a turn off. And this has happened a lot and made them not attractive anymore. It was a great insight to how clingy girls turn off guys, but it definitely disproved the theories that guys are heartless heart breakers! They seem more emotional than girls when the do get emotionally attached after sex!
idk.. maybe you should tell him how you feel..
idk.. maybe you should tell him how you feel..
It really depends on the person. I get somewhat attached when I have sex, but my current boyfriend (I was his first) got extremely attached and clingy. However my ex didn't get attached at all. It really just depends on the person.