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posted by: Anonymous
at 5:30am on: January 10, 2010
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year. I consider this grand since he has been my first kiss, boyfriend, etc. But I feel he's starting to pull away, and of course this concerns me. He told he has "things" he needs to sort out, but when I ask him what, he always avoids the question. I don't want to pressure him into telling me because I don't want to seem invasive. Is there anyway I can get him to be happy when he's with me without getting him to focus on his problems, even if just for an hour or two?






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at 5:43am on: January 10, 2010
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I think you need to be patient with him as hard as that may be for you. We all deal with things differently and as long as he has reassured you that it's not about your relationship, I think that the best thing for you to be is supportive. If you really want to try to take his mind off of things perhaps plans a night out for the two of you - not sure about your budget but even something like going to a movie or even renting his favorite one could be a good little escape for him.

at 8:24am on: January 10, 2010
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months and the same thing just started happening to us...so if you find an answer, please share the solution!!

at 12:06pm on: January 10, 2010
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My fiancee and I went through the same thing, but ours ended up in breaking off our engagement. I was hurt that he felt he couldn't talk to me. Now that we're trying again to make it work, he said it was just fear that he would hurt me in the future- maybe that's your guy's problem? Just tell him you love him and that you're there for him when he needs you. That's all you can do. He'll come to you when he's ready.

at 9:28pm on: January 10, 2010
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Well, in my case, i'm kind of the one who is saying that. In my case, there are a lot of little, hurtful things that he has done to me. The thing is that it was really hard for me to finally stop pretending that everything was ok, and realize that the longer you wait to SPEAK UP, the deeper will be the wound. So, I talked to him, and told him what I wasn't comfortable with. The problem was, I never thought that the hardest part is not talking, but AFTER talking. Everything should be ok, since I've finally gave the step... I realized that I needed to forgive, but he was expecting me to forgive AND to forget, which is wrong.

I think that you should invite him to a cup of coffe, sit down, and have a meaninful conversation. Start by saying that you dont like to be on a limbo, and that communication is the base of every relationship and avoiding the problem wont get you anywhere. Don't let him act so cowardly.

If he doesn't have the guts so tell you what's going on, then he doesn't deserve you. When one's in love, that's really hard to see... but it's true. good luck.

at 8:37pm on: March 10, 2010
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its been a year. you two should be able to talk about anything..good luck hope he tells u sooon