He might be tired of having sex all the time. Though we are taught otherwise, most guys don't think about or want sex ALL the time. And sometimes, they don't like it when the entire relationship revolves around it. They may think that it is nice every once in a while, but if you do it all the time, it'd start getting boring. And, although you say you are the one "initiating the act," let's face it, unless you are doing something otherwise, the man does most of the work during sex. Sure, they like it, but men secretly and honestly want to feel loved. And to them, I don't think that sex is that thing that most men see as a way to show love like women do. Also, he might be feeling like you are using him for sex and only sex, since you talk about it and want it all the time, at least in his eyes. That might be what is going on.

i am going to share something that my psych professor told me. there are two kinds of love: passion and companion love. the beginning of the relationship is filled with passion and excitement. things like butterflies in your stomach and elevated heartbeat are common, but we as humans cant maintain that "excited" state forever. we will wear ourselves down so the passion needs to cool down. giving your heart a chance to relax for a bit so to speak. people seem to think that when the passion disappears the love does too when it could be a sign that the passion love is turning into something more. you are stepping away from the physical aspect of the relationship and move into a place were you are happy being with someone, comfortable to be with them.

my professor worded it a little differently but that was the main idea.

I hate to say this but there is a chance that he could be cheating, now I don't know either of you so I wouldnt be able to say deffinativly but from my experience if a man stops desireing sex all together, never talks or initiates things they are 70% of the time cheating. i would say watch his behavior and stop asking him for sex, see if he starts to ask for it or initiates anything, see if his schedule changes, if he ignores phone calls etc. then make your decision to confront him or not.

i thought the same thing... cheating... i know it sucks, but it could be highly possible,, i know from experience, i'd totally talk to him about. not that a guy is going to say "yeah, im cheating" but tell him about your suspisions in a non accusative way or you could just end up with one hell of a fight! Keep your eyes and ears open. Listen to your intuition its built into all of us ( psych 101) to tell us when somethings not adding up! let the sex go for a little while, too much of a good thing can be a bad thing.... sometimes it can just get boring.... but if it's sporadic and unexpected, and occasional, it can be that much better! so give it a while and one night light some candles get some lube (LOL) and whisper into his ear how you want to try something new and crazy you read about in cosmo, or maxim, that should get him going, and if it doesn't... hun, something is seriously wrong, if he's not cheating, you should suggest he go see a doctor!!!

I've been going through this problem recently too. I confronted him about it and he said he didn't know why he wasn't interested anymore. It could be lowered testosterone levels, depression, or just plain 'ol stress. I know after a hard day I sure don't want to get down to business for more activity and men can be the same at times. I was really honest with him and told him how it made me feel (in a calm way, not yelling or whining or attacking) just saying, hey, ya know I noticed our love making isn't what it used to be. X amount of time ago it was great, now it's kinda not there anymore...what happened? It makes me feel like you're not interested in me anymore.....can we at least TRY to do it once (or 2-3) a week at the minimum where you are really involved too? I used pretty much the same lines when he just wanted a 5 min quicky all the time and not taking the time to pleasure me or make me interested.

Guys are complicated on that topic. Beacause naturally all men do is mate with girls to save the human species. So, if a guy has sex really often with a girl, he might get bored a little.
Try out new things together or put on nice, new underwear. That does the trick. Do roleplays, whatever. Just don't let him get bored.

this sort of happened with my boyfriend... but i talked to him about it and first of all the problem was that i was trying to save my virginity for marriage but i couldnt wait. after a couple weeks he didnt really want it anymore and he said that he had waited so long that he kind of got out of the habbit. he also said he doesnt want it all the time because he does not want the relationship to revolve around sex and that it could ruin a relationship. and he never makes a move because he likes it when the girl takes control....

i'm going through this too. well we've been together a little over 2 years and we had sex ALL the time when we first got together and now we live together and sex is rare. unless he wants it. mostly i have initiate it, and that usually still doesn't work. by then i just get upset, and feel like i'm not good enough so i roll over and go to bed. [i have a lot of problems with my body and with myself as a whole.] whenever i do try to talk about it he either ignores me or he jokingly turns it on me saying i always fall asleep and what not. so usually i just forget about it, let him watch tv all night and then i end up falling asleep and we end up going weeks or months without doing it. it might have to do with his recent obsession with porn [recent being all the time as opposed to like, never..] which makes me uncomfortable. so i dont know how to help you but i hope all of us going through it can figure something out!

ohhhh boyyy!!! this is kinda scary as i am to get married and start living with him where sex is gonna be regular.. Reading all these comments makes me wonder if things might change in time... we both love sex, wonder if actually we or rather he would get fed up of it?

Wow, I couldn't imagine that. My fiance is not to watch porn, if I knew he was I'd drop his ass quick. However, I know what your going through, but I understand that after working all day he doesn't want to come home and do most the work. I don't believe his is cheating on me as nothing else has changed, he never ignores my calls or whatever.

I'm in a very similar boat except, he said from the beginning that he didn't "need" sex all the time but, now we haven't had sex in over a month even when i do try to initiate it, i KNOW he isn't cheating, we live together and are rarely apart for more than a few hours unless one of us is working, but he has been watching gay porn and i knew from the start that he was bisexual...could it be that he is drawn more to men than women? what should i do?