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I was dating a guy who was...rather large. We aren't together anymore and I'm very nervous about having sex again...I feel...stretched out and that it won't feel good. I do kegels all the time but I don't feel as if anything is changing. Any other ideas?
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Ummmm, have you had any kids? Having a kid does way more to stretch out your Vagina than any man could do. No matter how large he is. I'd suggest that instead of needlessly worrying about what might happen, just go for it with another guy. I'm certain you will be pleasantly surprised that it will feel good -- and sex always feels better with someone you are "in love" with no matter what size they are. Your other option would be to ask a guy what size condom he fits before engaging in sex :) If you are partial to X-Large, then just add that to your list of "requirements" for finding a man. They do exist!
the vagina is designed to stretch so i dont think u have anything to worry about....do some research if u dont believe me
Look honey, the vagina is a MUSCLE. It's supposed to stretch out or in to accommodate. Give it some time, don't worry about kegels. Sex will be just as awesome as it was.
Look honey, the vagina is a MUSCLE. It's supposed to stretch out or in to accommodate. Give it some time, don't worry about kegels. Sex will be just as awesome as it was.
You haven't got anything to worry about. The vagina is designed to expand to accomodate things as large as an infant's head.
I'm assuming his penis is not as big as a baby. After having a baby, some women do kegals, sure it helps tighten things up, but thats after a baby! Don't worry about it girl! Your woo-hoo is designed not only to stretch, but it also contracts. If it didn't, you'd be wearing adult diapers! And if thats the case, well, I don't know what to say!
I really don't think that you can get stretched out permanently from a penis, no matter how large, even if he stayed in you nonstop for a couple of months. Having said that Kegels are always a great idea, not just after having children. I've given birth to two big babies, and I was really stretched out from that, but with the Kegels I think I'm almost back to where I was. Not quite, but almost. Maybe I'll get there one day.
You have nothing to worry about. Especially if it has been more than a month since you have had sex with your "rather large" ex. When you have sex again for the first time after a while of not having sex, it is almost like losing your virginity all over again (but not quite as painful). Trust me, I know, my husband is in the military, deployments are long, and the first time after he gets back is always amazing but it also feels like his penis is 10 times bigger than I remembered it because your vagina will contract back to its original state.
Get back in the game, don't worry about "down there." If things are right with another guy, just go for it! And please for the love of God, take advantage of being single and having the opportunity to have sex, I have been abstinent for my husband going on 5 months right now.
Best of Luck!
not bein funny but i dont think u would have stretched ur fanny i have a kid n it is bacj to normal!
god, get over it girl, pushin a baby out is alot more stretch then a knob!
No worries! Kegels are good exercises for any woman (they not only tighten your pelvic floor muscles, but they help keep you in shape for when you DO have children, and they can enhance your sex life, because the muscles are used to being worked!) but they're not NECESSARY to make sex enjoyable.
If you're not ready to have sex with other men yet, try out some new sex toys! You can shop online if you want to do so discreetly, but looking directly in an adult shop can help you get a better idea of all the sizes, shapes and options that are available. Experiment with those for a while - I think you'll find that you're much more flexible than you previously thought, and you might even come up with some new ideas for when you are ready for sex with a new boyfriend. :)
what are kegels?
Kegel exercises help strengthen and tone the pelvic floor muscles. Wikipedia article: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise
Mayo Clinic's guide to how to do kegels is a good starting place if you've never worked with your pelvic muscles before: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/kegel-exercises/WO00119
Give yourself time. That should get things back to there place.
I have had two babies one was over 10 lbs and sex is as good as ever, I think its a total myth and a lie that women should stop perpetuating that having babies will leave you with a floppy Vagina!! If that was the case, there would be no need for birth control after one ( or two kids) would there?
As for a large Penis I highly doubt you would be stretched out like a piece of old elastic- Mens Penises don't remain permanantly "stretched" or floppy after one erection do they? The Vagina is designed to cope with entry and exits of various sizes!!
Okay, i'm only twenty and i had a baby ten months ago and my little flower is tight. very tight. i didnt even do kegel exercises, and im still as tight as i was before i gave birth. a guys cock, no matter how "big" cannot compare to a 6lb9oz baby so, sweetie, stop being negative nancy and exhaggerating. if you truly are loose as a goose, and i mean like throwing a pencil down a hallway, then definitely do more kegels. it wont help you overnight, but over a few months it definitely will. and like the rest of these women say, trust me, your body is meant to handle a mans cock. every girls vagina expands and contracts and there's no permanence in any of it, get over it and just enjoy sex and LOVE YOUR BODY. confidence exudes from your face and thats the biggest turn on for a man, so be fierce! there must more to you than your vag.
Was it necessary to be so graphic in your response? She's not exhaggerating, she's worried. And telling people to get over their worries never works - you have to help and support them. That's what this site is about, not calling people a "negative nancy."
It's ok if your just not ready yet to have sex with anyone. You shouldn't be worried about being stretched out because the vagina does go back to being tighter over time. When my BF for 4 years broke up with me I went buck wild, I slept with a lot of guys the summer of 06. One in particular was amazingly huge and I didn't think I was going to recover from it, but I did. I don't sleep around anymore but I don't regret any of it either, I always used protection. The Kegels are just good to do anyways not just for sex reasons. Keep your head up and don't worry to much about being stretched out your vag is made for different sizes going in and out
to be quite honest, that was very dangerous, you could have an STD by now.
She said she used protection. On average, using protection severly decreases your chances of getting an STD..
how do you do kegels?
i wanna know to
my last bf was as you said "rather large" too and me and my current bf have no issues regarding sex at all. as everyone else said, the vagina is a simple muscle that expands and contracts so theres no worries at all about stretching it out of shape
naturally it should reconstrict on its own... just try not to be self-conscious about it!!!
I was worried about the same thing! But it turned out alright and it was fine. I went back to a smaller, average guy and it felt just fine! You have nothing to worry about!