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posted by: Anonymous
at 12:41pm on: December 20, 2009
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My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. Lately we've been arguing a lot. But the question I want to ask is when is it a good time to "shack up"? We have a child together already, but I don't know if we're ready?






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at 12:49pm on: December 20, 2009
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If the arguments you've been having lately are productive (a/k/a bringing you closer to one another), then the proposal of "shacking up" might be a positive step for your relationship. Howver, if the arguments are because you are getting on each other's nerves and are fighting over silly things, living together will only make things worse and may ultimately destroy the relationship.

at 1:01pm on: December 20, 2009
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My boyfriend and I went through this same thing. We have been together close to 6 years now and have recently moved in with one another (due to age we wanted to wait until we both felt comfortable.) Moving in together was one of the best things that has happened to us, we are closer then ever and are able to talk more than every before. One point I will make is how important it is to wait until you are BOTH ready, it took him longer then it took me to realize I wanted to live together but by waiting until we were both ready neither of us regrets or blames the other for moving forward to quickly! Good luck in whatever choice you make!

at 3:15pm on: December 20, 2009
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Only move in if it feels right. In a lot of cases, you will end up arguing much more once you move in. His habits around the house may piss you off, etc. But not all guys are like that, just the one I moved in with. We moved in after a year, broke up after 3 years total. If you have been together long enough and it feels right to move in together, I say go for it.. but keep in mind that if you think you will ever, for any reason, want to leave him.. it will be much harder to do so.

at 3:45pm on: December 20, 2009
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the thing i can't get over... you have a kid and your not really in a stable relationship. IE: living together. and if you fight all the time i dont think it will get any better even if you do move in. and your saying that your not ready to move but you have a child...??? should have really thought it through a little huh???

oh well - only one way to know really.

at 7:33pm on: December 23, 2009
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I think the decision to share genetic material in a new life form would be a BIGGER decision. But I digress. No sense in making the child's life stressful with letting him/her watch you fight.