Hey, If you TRULY love him it wont matter, go for it girl!<3 everybody deserves a second chance!!!!

Honestly, I think that if you can't get over issues that the two of you had, don't be with him. Everyone DOES NOT deserve a second chance unless YOU believe they do. and, from the looks of it you don't.

I went through the same thing. You may feel like you love him but really you probably only like the feeling of having someone there. Its been about two months since i ended it with him and i still think about him often but i know that i will never want him back because of the way he treated me. Now i feel free to date a great guy who wont treat me badly and im happy. Its best not to get back together with him. Just be strong and with time you will heal.
"Sadness flies away on the wings of time."
-- Jean de La Fontaine

I'm in the same situation, on and off and he says its officially over but we just keep going back to hugging and kissing again everytime we see each other. I trust him but its my insecurities and paranoid that keeps us arguing cuz he doesnt understand. If it's love then you need to have a serious talk with him (if he is interested to get back with you) to see what you could suggest to help get over him cheating on you, if it's not, it'll take time to get over him as you were with him for so long. You could go out with girl mates to keep your mind off him or find a new guy to talk to and text to replace it being him texting you.

i think you miss him .. may be because he doesn't call or this thing anymore you loved his attention and you don't miss him the person .. you miss the time .. you were with him ... just go away anything will make you remember him .. and you aren't over him because ... he is far away from you

You just miss the idea of him, but you don't miss HIM per say. I went through the same thing last year, and I'm still hurting a bit to be honest. I think you just miss having someone so close to you that's yours, and the fact that he might be seeing some other girl is driving you up the wall. The feeling is completely normal, and you need to give yourself some time to regain strength. Hang in there chickadee!

I used to have the same problem with you. He cheated on me twice with 4 different women and slept around with them. Initially i felt irritated with him too. I took 2 mths some might even take up to a year to try to cool down and sort my feelings out. In the end, i forgive him and we are back together. I'm not trying to ask u to do the same. Just to take some time and sort your feelings out yourself and you will know eventurally if its love

It's really normal to miss your ex after your break-up, after all you guys have your times together and maybe you're just used to him being around. but think really hard, if you really think and feel that your relationship is not working anymore and you don't want to get hurt by him anymore then you made the right decision. sure you love him but does he really loved you back? you said he cheated on you do you want that to continue? is he really worth the pain?

oh forget him. if you can just handle being lonely, you'll find the right person. a nice person. who won't cheat on you. want to forget him? go out with friends. enjoy being single for the time being. this doesn't sound like love- it just sounds like you're lonely.

I wouldn't go there again, by the sounds of it, he's not worth u getting hurt again and there iz sum better boy out there sumwhere :)

I'm going through this exact thing right now....I broke up with the love of my life last night so that he could take the time he needs to sort his life out. It's gotta be the hardest thing I have ever done, but I know somewhere in my heart it was right. I'm truly hoping that when he gets his life sorted out he and I can get back together but until then, I just have to stick it out...there's no one I can imagine being with but him and it tears me open to think of him dating anyone else...I know that sounds selfish, but I don't care...anyone have advice? PM me....

get away from him, move on to someone better.
or if you dont have a backbone just stay his friend and fall into the same loop of not wanting to be around him but feeling like you want to be around him >.>

I had a boyfriend that I went out with for a while but it wasn't really working out so I broke up with him. I missed him and felt bad about breaking up with him so I got back together with him. I had the same problems and felt even worse when I had to break up with him a second time.

I was in a relationship for 7 years with a guy that I had started dating when I was 15. It was a very emotionally abusive relationship for me. After I finally said it was over and stuck to it, I missed him a lot. I even thought about going back to him from time to time, but I began to realize that I missed the good memories we had together, not the bad ones. Unfortunately you have to be able to accept the "bad" along with the "good" in people, because trust me, nobody is perfect. If you just can't do that then I don't think it's worth it. Even if you think it might be love.

I went through something like this myself. I had a very nice long distance relationship for 9 months, but I didn't feel like it was working out. My mum suggested I make a list of benefits I was getting from that specific guy being my boyfriend and a list of the benefits I would get from just having a boyfriend in the first place. Surprise surprise, the first list had nothing and then second list had everything. It really helped me figure out how I was feeling and that I needed someone who would be able to fill in stuff from the first list and the second list. So, I'd suggest you try to make a list yourself.

just like a few others on here i went threw the same thing. me and my boy had been on and off for about 3 yrs he cheated as well but i cared about him and he could always talk himself back into my life ..everytime something bad happened i thort this is the last time it will happen, and we will work now but then anva obstical comes along...it made me lose all my trust and i started snooping and doing all sorts of paranoid stuff its not worth making urself feel like that just for some guy. its a very hard thing mentally 2 get past n could even involve professional councelling 2gether.....i do belive if some1 is deeply sorry for a mistake they deserve a second chance but if they do it again then no more chances..... so i reckn if its ment 2 be it will work out maybe not now but in the future wen ur both more mature. take a holiday away and think about what you want remember you have ur hole life ahead of you theas more than enuff time 2 get married off ...make a list of pros and cons about him then you can see with your own eyes. the negatives may outway the positives. gud luck with wat u decide hope it works out for the best.

It's your choice if you want to go back or not. You'll know you love him if you want both of you to be happy with each other but if it's just about your own feelings & satisfying yourself by having him around you, it's not really love. Love is not just about yourself and what your partner makes you feel. It's about what you want for both of you, especially for your partner but that doesn't mean you should disregard your own feelings even when you're getting hurt already. Honestly, though, if a guy has the courage to cheat on you, would you still think of that as love?

i cant tell you what to do but i really think you love him but loving someone and being in love are totally different things! i was in a situation similar for 4 years sweetie run....run as far away as you can and just be yourself. yes i know that you are broken i was broken for years after my ex but you have to fix yourself he cant fix your hurt because if you go back you will feel empty!

you probably just miss having a relationship with someone, but not actually him, seeing as you only think of him negatively. just try to find someone else, because then you'll have the relationship but someone you like aswell.

im in the EXACT SAME situation. its been 2 months since i broke up with my bf bc he cheated on me. i love him with all my heart. he was my first love. but i could never happily be back with him. even though he calls me alll the time trying to get me back. as time has passed it hurts less, but i can honestly i still do love him. but he is toxic for me and i know that. if u feel like ur ex is toxic aswell do not go back. dont. cheating is a big no no in my book and is inexcusable.
you deserve better. its tough bc if u take him back he will think he can get away with it again.
be strong girl. demand to be treated like the princess that you are.

I am going throught the same thing right now, the guy i was with cheated on me with my enemy. I am being strong and not letting myself go back to him as i know he will then feel he can get away with anything. BE STRONG AND YOU WILL GET OVER IT! best of luck x

I went through something similar. & just forget him! He's so not for you if it keeps ending like this. You can rise above and be better than him. God has a plan for you and it probably wasn't with him. There are lots of guys out there and God has one picked out for you. Just be patient and he'll come.
Ways to get over him can be finding another guy for now to just talk to and chill with.
Pray to God about it!
Go out on girls nights(:
You'll make it.

i'm in somthing simaliar, theres this boy who i've liked hated for quite awhile and we've been on and off. when we're apart i miss him so much and last time when we were apart i told myself if we got back together i'd never leave him. sometimes if you give eachother enough space you'll end up appreciating how much you really do love them. i know i love him even though hes done things that have made me hate him and i've done things to make hom hate me but we realised when we were apart that that dosent matter cause i love that fact i hate him as much as i hate the fact of love him. i dony know whethere that was helpfull properly dont but bye x

I've been through this myself, though said guy will remain nameless, i can tell you why you feel the way you do, and what's causing it...

You don't nessecarily love the guy you just broke up with, but you miss the simplicity he brought to your life, i guarantee he probably made you feel safe, or loved, or generally just happier.. but your relationship ended because of certain issues either you or he had to work out, but i live by the logic that you cannot change people, regardless of how much you actually want to be able to.

So my advice is to just gear up, and try to find someone else. if your like me you could want them back for entirely sexual reasons, and you might not even want the relationship back at all. My guy made me feel whole, safe, happy. but we were built on lust, and not love, and that NEVER works out. 2 and a half years into it, we stopped having sex thanks to multiple reoccurring issues, that were "he'd cross a limit of mine" and when i'd tell him, he'd pick out personal flaws until i felt so shitty about myself that i'd just hang up and cry.. besides the sex and fighting we never had a relationship, so like i'd be talking to him, and he'd just stare at me, as though he was socially inept or something... He made me feel weird, cause he'd just...stare. :0 that's how i knew he was a tosser, and that i needed someone i could have a relationship with that wasn't just sexual.

omgg dis is the same situation im in only its bout to b a yr dat ive been single me nd my ex were togetha for 1yr nd 6months nd he cheated nd got a new gurl rite away nd now dat its gona b a yr since i was wit him it makes me think bout him even more =/ . but hes in fl now while im in ny & he gota gurl nd i havent spoken 2 him in bout 2-3 months but idkk i get mixed emotions

omgg dis is the same situation im in only its bout to b a yr dat ive been single me nd my ex were togetha for 1yr nd 6months nd he cheated nd got a new gurl rite away nd now dat its gona b a yr since i was wit him it makes me think bout him even more =/ . but hes in fl now while im in ny & he gota gurl nd i havent spoken 2 him in bout 2-3 months but idkk i get mixed emotions

your bound to miss him its natural but if his cheated is say his not worth times and healer jus try nd keep yourself bussy