i cant say anything cause i feel the same way :(

me neither... im in the same place. i keep telling myself that i just wont get as bad as last time but ive done that before and its really hard to stop when you get going. you love to wake up in the morning to find that your skinnyer than you were when you went to sleep. that the shirt you were too selfconcious to wear before looks better... its a nasty cycle. anyone have advice that will actually help??

My sister makes me do this every morning : Stand infront of the mirror. Dressed, undressed. In your panties. And pick one thing. ONE thing. That you find you like about yourself. Whether it be your eyes. Your hair. Your nose. The way a pair of jeans look whatever. And write it down. Do this once or twice a day for three weeks. If you find yourself doubting what you think, ask someone else what they like about you. It helps =]

Look, you gotta weigh your options: never being satisfied with yourself and healthy, or never being satisfied with yourself and unhealthy.
Look, everyone in my paternal side is overweight or obese, or was at some point in their life, and my maternal side has a huge array of eating disorders.
I know that I have to be careful with my health and weight, even though I'm only 14. I maintain a healthy weight, eat balanced meals with good amounts of proteins and vegetables, and have an overall healthy lifestyle.

Oh, I forgot to mention that both of my parents are sort of exercise addicts, so I can't overdo that as well.

Look, you really gotta find someone to talk to about this. It doesn't have to be a shrink, it can be a friend or a boyfriend, someone who can constantly remind you how beautiful you are and that they love you NO MATTER WHAT.

Remember, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

look ;) all girls say someday of there life there fat or no ? (sorry for my bad english), anyway anorexia is a problem, it costs to be healthy at all from this problem, i'll give you my opinion, if you KNOW you have this problem, what are your waiting for, its ok to want to be thin, but dont take the word to much! , you can starting eating those cereal bar, quakers, some of them are really taste and good :D , form that you will start winnin weight, and so on and so on , always lit a little bit more ;) and if this problem continues, and you look to yourself in the mirror and you look fat to yourself, YOU KNOW YOU DONT !, this eating disorder is from your mind, and getting help with specialist I only think it gets worst, try yourself really hard, you know yo can, you know ;), hopefully this helps you (:

nobody believes this when i say it, but I'VE LEARNED TO LOVE MY BODY, I have a slow metabolism, and yes, i have tried working on it, but after a while, my boyfriend and I would talk about me going to a doc for weight loss, i'm not really overweight, but i'm not just chubby either. I love my little stretchmarks, how thick my thighs are, my chubby cheeks, my short legs, my lack of height, my curly mess of hair, how adorable i feel in the morning when i stand in the mirror in my panties and bra.

i love myself.
so i stopped caring what celebs did to lose weight, or what makes you lose weight fast.

its all stupidity

I'm in the same position as you are. Even though I have never actually done it much, I have felt the satisfaction of seeming skinnier then I was before. I used to be really tiny, but I was forced to gain weight, and I got pretty big. I find that just going for a jog every evening helps. I feel better about myself after I get some adrenaline pumping, and it just makes me feel good about myself. Knowing that I am losing weight while doing something fun that I like is good. Just, hmm I don't know but try to find something to do that will make you feel better without hurting your body. Its not worth it, in the long run. Hope it helps, feel better soon. xo

i have gone through something like this, where i felt so uncomfortable with myself that i stopped eating. I'm 17, 5'7" and i weigh 175. i hide my weight well, and everyone says i look perfectly normal, but its the numbers on the scale that got to me. So one summer, one of my best friends took my scale, and took down all of the mirrors in my room except for one small one to do my makeup. She called me every morning to tell me good morning and she would tell me all the wonderful things about myself, not to make me big headed, but to boost my confidence. I realized that it doesn't matter what i weight, or what I think i look like, but what is on the inside. So try to bring out the positive things about your personality and yourself and make THAT what matters. Set that as your focus to improve, not your weight. Plus, i have a friend that only weighs 121 and she is the same height and age as i am and she hates being skinny, plus, guys don't like skin and bones either, so a little weight is a good thing(;

Good luck, and remember, we all have something amazing about us. and the outside DOES NOT account for that.

I, too, have had an eating disorder and getting healthy was one of the toughest things I've ever been through. However, whenever I had (and if I ever still have) the urge to go back there I think about how miserable I was during that time, about all the people who love me & hated to see me hurting myself, and the dreams that I set for myself. Trust me, I know this isn't easy and you're going to have good days and bad days but you're so much better than this disease. All the time you spend picking apart & doubting yourself is time that you'll never get back... And as morbid as it sounds the truth is at end of our lives it's not how you looked people will remember but who you were as a person.

One of the things that I started to do & still do was every time I looked in the mirror and I wanted to pick myself apart -- I would think of something positive about myself even if it was as simple as I finally did my laundry. All of this takes time/work/effort so you have to be patient with yourself but if you can overcome this -- you can overcome anything! I believe in you and you need to believe in yourself! xoxo

you have to ask yourself, who's all that starving yourself for? who are you doing that for? yourself? all you're doing for yourself is making yourself sick and causing yourself more problems. i was thinking just the other day that this year has gone by so fast. i'm only 21 and i'm realizing that i keep worrying about my weight, the way i look, what people think, and it's making me miss so many other things. my life will fly by and i'll miss it cuz i'm worried about how i look. instead of looking at myself in the mirror and killing myself to loose that few extra pounds, i'm just getting dressed, and going out to have fun. if anyone around me is looking at me weird cuz i've got love handles, screw em. i'm having fun and they obviously aren't genuine people. i'm a size 13 and i'm finally ok with it. like this other girl said, look at marilyn monroe(however you spell her name), she was a size 14 and men couldn't get enough of her. love yourself girls! your beautiful! and once you realize that, and know that, and show that you know that, you'll be unstoppable!

Don't read celeb. magazines, (teen vogue, Lucky, Allure, etc) they give girls the impression that they aren't good enough at a "healthy" weight. I'm a skinnier girl, but I exercise (dance and a gym class) every week. I'm a muscular girl and I've figured out that weight isn't everything, its being happy with yourself just as you are. Find out the size of jeans or dress from a doctor that a girl your age and height should be, go out and purchase jeans or a dress in that size (don't go smaller or larger). Work your way into that size, whether it be lose some weight, gain a little (muscle), what ever just in the end be happy with how you are not what others are(models, celebs, etc) You are your own person, be a healthy you!

The world itself throws all these lies through adverising telling if a girl isn't a size 2 or 0, they are fat. And that's not true! Listen girl...

Don't let the world tell you who you need to be. Be comfortable in your jeans and love yourself for who you are!

I know eating disorders are by far more often now these days for many young women. But your body needs food to function and to grow. If you feel fat, be careful what you eat. Start eating healthier..more fruit, vegetables...and portion your food to healthy amounts.

Exercise. Love yourself for who you are. No one else can you any better!

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.
-- Judy Garland

there was a girl that came into the shirt store i work at. she was so so so thin, i was legitimately worried for her...and i don't even know her. she said she couldn't buy some dress because she said she was "too fat". I looked at her and smiled, and said "hun, you're not fat at all, you're beautiful". she told me i made her day. keep in mind that all these images you get from the media are not reality. skinny is not beautiful. EVERY guy I am friends with will agree; they would prefer a healthy girl (someone who by media standards is "fat" but in reality is very healthy) to someone who is bone thin. If I were there, I would tell you you're beautiful because although I have no idea what you look like, I'm sure you are. People struggle with this all the time; all kinds of addictions. Believe in yourself and keep telling yourself WHY you stopped in the first place.

that's how i did it.

I know alot of people that suffer with eating disorders its a mental thing you have to be able to find some part if yourself you are happy with and honestly not eating does not do anything but destroy you inside and out i have to keep in good shape i am a hockey player i cant be to thin or i get crushed i cant be to big or i cant menuever around as easily i am small as can when it comes height wise and weight wise but i also am always walking running or doin somethin to keep me goin but i also pounf myself down with protien such as meats and shit to build it into muscle i take my dog for a walk atleast 3times a day and i feel great after a walk and that works for alot of my friends as wel lafter a good walk with their dogs they feel great but you have to be able to eat properly to be able to keep active if you are active you have less time to worry bout everything else and you need the energy as well

go to the gym, exercise releases GREAT feel good hormones. i had the same problem, i would binge eat and then make myself feel bad about it later. i HATED my body (i was average shape) but i thought i was hideous. it's been about a month since i joined the gym and i have never felt better about myself. ever. even when i starved myself and i became like a skeleton. or if you need to seek professional help from a counsellor. talking about your issues really helps if you can find a good one.

I'm fat. Even according to BMI I am close to obese. And I hate myself because of it. If you are healthy weight now, embrace it.

I wish I had your problem! I can't seem to keep any weight that I lose off.

I know this is weird advice, but ive always hated my body and my stretch marks....my friends forced me to enter a amatuer contest at a strip club...i felt so much better after. I dont know y and its not that i like strip clubs but i just felt way more confidant

Try starting a diary of "What I Like About Me". Write 5 things that happen, you see in yourself, you like about yourself that day. It helps remind you what you see in yourself that's wonderful every day instead of focusing on the negatives. Healthy people are people who are happy with themselves inside and out, no matter what society puts in the tabloids as "in" or fashionable. Be yourself & love yourself for who you are. Remember, God made each of us the way we are supposed to be & wants us to love ourselves as well as others.

You have to improve your self esteem. You have to begin to like yourself again and KNOW you’re beautiful and FEEL IT. You know? Here’s some advice about self esteem:
First, you need to find things that you like about yourself. And put them on a little card to carry around with you. Things like "I am____" < Insert word. (Attractive, easy to start a conversation with, creative, etc. Just find good things you think about yourself.) You can pull it out and read them whenever you feel down. But you also have to look in the mirror (so youll be looking into your eyes) every morning and night, and also whenever you feel down, and say those things to yourself. Feel it, and try your hardest to believe it. The more and more you say it to yourself, the more you will believe it. And also, you can say stuff to yourself that you wish was true. I am ____ < insert thing you wish was true. Say it to yourself enough with EMPHASIS and you'll begin to belive it and then you'll become it.
The mirror works better than the card, so make sure you do the mirror most of all. The card helps when no mirror is available. Like when you’re out in public and you feel down. Just pull out your purse and get the card and read it. It will all help you a lot.
Also, if you believe in God, give your worries to him. Ask him to help you.

remember that we are ALL our biggest critic. everyone criticizes themselves. You just have to be less harsh about it to the the point that it is unhealthy...that isnt good. you're beautiful in your own way! :D

I totally agree with Zoe.

I have one part of me I really really like, so when I get ready to go out somewhere I dress, and make the focus of that outfit that one area. (I don't like my lovehandles, stretchmarks, and body shape...) but I absolutely LOVE <3 <3 my eyes... so wit my makeup I focus the attention to my eyes, with crazy mascara, eyeshadow and eyeliners.
plus, I don't mind my legs... so I show them off too...

Just find a part (or more than one) of you that you really really like, and focus your outfit for the day/night on it (them).

In time, you will like more of yourself and the way you dress will change.

I'm sure every girl has days where they feel
*too fat
*too skinny
*too shiny (skin)
*too greasy (hair, skin etc)
and whatever else.

Just remember that you are you, and you should be proud to be yourself. don't let others tell you how you should look or feel.

self confidence comes from within yourself. only you can change it.

best of luck...

oh i also find that eating healthily and drinking a lot of water helps me to look fresh, and feel healthier.
hope this helps
:)

Watch the Tyra Show! Her show always makes me feel great about myself. Her show is very inspiring.

Belly dancing.
It sounds silly, but i got these really good dvd's by dolphina or whatever off of amazon to get fit with, and since i've been doing them i've become far more confident and a lot happier with myself.
Also, picking your favourite music turning it up as loud as possible and dancing like noones watching is great too (espesh is noone IS watching)

Just totally go with it, have fun and never listen to the negative things people say. they're just jealous. You gotta remember though that it is exercise and to eat properly and all that jazz ^_^
x

I have to say that I go back and forth in the body confidence department. Things that always perk me up about my body and health are hitting the gym. Also eating healthy works too. You won't feel guilty about eating a salad! You just have to remember to splurge every now and then because we all deserve a treat here and there! I know it sounds like an old school answer but it ALWAYS works for me. And if you feel like you need to talk to someone every now and again there is nothing wrong with that. It takes a strong person to seek therapy I think. The week person denies that there is a problem at all. Please don't think this is coming from someone who has run marathons their whole life either and who has no idea what it's like to dislike their body. I have been that overweight, unhealthy, unhappy woman and it sucked! So everything I wrote was and is things I do to keep my self healthy and confident. Not that there aren't days when I refuse to look in the mirror.

Something that works for me is Yoga... I hate running and usually im too lazy to go to the gym. Yoga is great stress relief, it makes me feel good and keep in good shape. Having other people and teachers n class I find encouraging, and its not competitive. Try it out :)
After doing yoga on a regular basis, your body can automatically crave a healthy diet.

The truth is no one is every satisfied with how they look. I went through a time where I started to develop an eating disorder and it stemmed from a guy telling me I wasn't as hot as the rest of the women in LA. One is a shi@t and we are no longer even friends and two I was not fat but definitely came across as unattractive because I felt that way about myself. It took me a long time to be happy with the way I look but a huge part of my becoming comfortable in my own skin came from making changes in other parts of my life. Work, friends, relationships had made me very unhappy and it wasn't until I started to make changed there did I feel good about how I looked on the outside. So maybe start there...take a look at the other things in your life that have nothing to do with how you look and see if you like them. And if you don't maybe slowly figure out what would make you happy and begin to make some changes. It's not easy but you can do it. This could help you start to see yourself as beautiful on the outside and on the inside. Also I had help with making these changes. I sought out a therapist who was fantastic. I'm a person who cannot always talk about such things with my family and friends and having her there really helped me. Good luck and always believe in yourself!

i have had the same types of problems along with other mental conditions that i was hospitalized for a few years back. i weighed 92lbs when i went to the hospital and had actually gained 10lb the couple months before i got there. after medication i have gain a ton of weight(i now weigh 133lbs) and think that i am really getting fat. i know im not and actually at a healthy wieght now but it helps that my significant other reminds me every day that im beautiful and healthy. he even has a pic of me that he keeps of when i was that small and shows it to me when i feel that way. it does help.

find something youu likee about yourself - anything - and go out shopping. find one or two things that draw attention to that body part, and be proud of it. i'm quite ugly - or i think so anyway - so i wear tight belts around my waist to show off my skinniness (is that even a word? oh well . . .). its the same princible for being fat or short or whatever :¬)

a thing we did at one of my treatment centers was to write "you're beautiful," "hello gorgeous!" and similar phrases on mirrors and on sticky notes all around the house. i'd also suggest putting it on things you'll carry around and see a lot. hope you (and i and everyone else) will eventually feel a little bit better!

I've gone through the same thing. I got on weight watchers, lost thirty pounds in three months (with no exercise!) and I felt more beautiful and healthier than ever! Even if you are at a good weight for your height and size (which can be checked by any online BMI calculator), this "lifestyle change" is healthy and makes you feel FABULOUS.
Also, belly dancing does up your self esteem. I have my little shimmy skirt hanging right beside my bed in case i ever feel the need for a sexy workout ;) and in case you can't get to, find, or afford a class, there are free instructional videos on youtube :) So good luck, and remember "YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL"