Sometimes the best thing to do is remain unselfish. Know that the people who love you will always be on your side. There are always other ways of letting out frustration too. Journaling or (as cliche and juvenile as it may seem) talking to a friend about what's going on is always helpful. Plus it lets people know that you trust them along with letting you know that you have someone you can turn to. Going to a peer is a whole lot easier than going to an adult sometimes, but yeah. Find great people to be around so they believe you're a happier person (and you genuinely will be if you have wonderful people in your life).
Keep your head high at all times and put the past away. Life gets better when you have a good attitude and great people to rely on :)
I hope your situation gets better!!

I am lucky that I have never had a problem with cutting or anything like that but I know that when I'm feeling frusterated I work out at the gym or attend a yoga class. I know lots of people who "work out" their anger or depression so it could be something healthy for you to try.

I suffered from depression for years, and all of the pain seeking, self loathing and self absorption that went with it. I spent high school acting like a compete douchebag and am really embarrassed now that was such a jerk. I hurt and I wanted to take it out on everyone else, as well as myself.

I cut myself, slept around, and did some pretty heavy drugs. The worst part is that I date my best friend, a guy who spent years trying to get me to see him as more than a friend. He was a wonderful person, even if he had some of his own problems. I took his virginity and pretty much emotionally abused him for the next year that we were dating.

When I hit my early twenties, it all really came to a head. My life was a wreck, I was a wreck and I had alienated myself from anyone who could be a positive influence. Two things really helped me. The first was taking care of myself physically. I started working out and that helped tremendously to get help me to calm down. I started working out because I had chubbed up, but now it is more about things out. Sometimes you need to talk, but sometimes you just need to let yourself see that you can do things that you never thought you could. I think the masochist in me just likes the pain, because if you are really pushing yourself, there is some of that too.

The other thing I did was start volunteering at a hospice. It is hard to feel sorry for yourself when you are there to help other people. I developed a friendship with an amazing older lady who was suffering from Leukemia and has since passed away. I didn't have to focus on myself and my own pain. The hospice gave me a purpose greater than myself. Every week, no matter what else happened, I knew that it was up to me to take all of my personal stuff, push it aside, and be there for her. The staff at the hospice always thanks me for helping, but I don't think they'll ever know how much it has helped me to give them what I can.

When your life is unfocused, it is easy to take all of your energy and concentrate on your own crazy head. That's what I did. But when you are taking care of yourself and have an outlet for that energy, and then get to see yourself as the one who is helping others, it changes you.

I'm 27 now and have tried to explain to friends how I use to be. They just don't believe it, even when I leave out the really bad stuff. On the other side, I've had a couple of people from high school contact me on Facebook and don't even know what to think. They're kind of amazed that someone who use to barrel through and wreck everything is someone so concentrated on putting the world back together. It is a really great feeling, but it took quite along time to get here.

Basically, imagine the person that you want to be. Imagine the things that they would do and then, as hard as it is, do those thing.

I'm in the same place you are. A year ago I attempted suicide, and the memory of that eats me up. Worse is that no one but my parents knows. I want to tell my friends, but I can't. I don't want to be the needy, insecure one. Every time I close my eyes I think about what I tried to do to my parents...I can't stand it. It drives me crazy. If I thought life was bad in any way then, I had no idea what I'd be doing to it.

I am right where you are. I started cutting myself about 3 years ago and I had stopped during the summer. But then I picked it up again. I felt like I needed to, because cutting is just like an addiction to us. It just seems to make it all better, but I recently realized, it never did anything but leave me stupid scars. My family does not know I started it up again, and only a few close friends do. The best advice I'd have to give is just to try to find healthy alternatives. I used to journal, but I didn't like keeping a book where someone could read what I wrote. Now instead I write how I feel and then take the paper and either burn it outside, or rip it up and throw it away. A thing you can do with anger or a situation where you are upset with someone is you can write a letter to them about how you feel, and put it in an envelope, and the next morning just don't send it. Sometimes, even the people we hang around can bring us down. Now I'm not saying this applies to you, but a friend of mine was depressed all the time because her closest friend was hurting herself and that brought her down. And one of my friends always was pessimistic and criticizing me and telling me how to live. So, if you have that, it's best to try and find a new friend and avoid people who might trigger your depression. Also, you should try to see what you have in life that is GOOD. I know it's hard, believe me. I have a bunch of things that trigger my depression:
- insecurity
- loneliness
- anger and my out of control emotions
- my past experiences
- my present lifestyle

But despite all of that, there are people who i know will always be there. Unfortunately, I had to find out who'd really be there when I had a break down in the middle of a group of friends and acquaintances. But now I force myself to think of good things that happened during my day, rather the bad ones.

Everyone has their own way of dealing with this, and I hope I helped a little. If all else fails, talking someone close, or heck, even a doctor may help. Basically, it's all about how you take life's hurls and how you look at them. If you can work on trying to be more positive, you might find it's a little easier to live.

Oh, and another thing I always asked, "What's the point?"
Most people who are depressed asked this, and I think I may have found the answer. I personally do not believe in God, but we can't have just been put on this planet to reproduce and keep our species alive, not with the way we can feel and think. We all have a greater purpose, and in time I hope all of us can find it.

I hoped I helped a little, and I hope you will soon be healthy and happy.

ive gone through the same thing... but i found out what i was doing was not only hurting my friends and family, but making me hate myself even more. i eventually found other outlets, like running or crying, or just trying to focus on positives, even though it seemed impossible at times. keep up the fight, and thank your family for continuing to be there to support and love you :] youre luckier than you may think! :D

www.dailystrength.com is a good site. It's helped me.

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I can empathize with what your feeling right now. 2008 and 2009 were not good years for me. I also tried to commit suicide,was in and out of bad relationships, lost jobs, became completely unmotivated, went to rehab, etc. Right now you may feel that everyone around you is watching you closely because they are worried you might try to kill yourself again. All you can do is tell them that when you tried it, you had a realization of how doing that to yourself would affect those you love and those that love you, and remind them that you no longer have feelings like that, and that you realize that by killing yourself you are in essence committing a selfish act. Let everyone know that you care too much about those around you to try that again. Be honest with your feelings to the people you are close with, when you are having a bad day, be open about it.show them that you are seeking help for your depression issues that brought you to that point in the first place. but most of all, dont be scared to reach out for help. ask for help when you need it, but dont just ask, be willing to accept the help people will try to give you. In June of this year, my best friend committed suicide and its torn me up inside. I had thoughts of ending my own life when i heard about what happened. But when i realized how badly he had hurt me by ending his own life and not reaching out to me or anyone for help, i also realized i could never do that to my family and friends.No matter how bad it gets now, that thought is always going to be a passing one because i know how it feels to lose someone you love due to the fact that they are depressed and unhappy with their own life, they feel hopeless and helpless, but cant attempt to reach out for help. I suggest seeing a therapist, depression and suicidal ideations dont usually just go away on their own, and a therapist and sometimes a psychiatrist can help you out tremendously. i know they have for me...

I've also sadly attempted suicide, a number of times, early this year. It's wrecked my life, no doubt about it. I love my family, my friends, and to be honest i can't remember what led me to do it. My feelings just took over and I didn't know what else to do or where else to go at the time. I feel so guilty about attempting it, about what I did to the people around me. I've had depression for 3 years now, and I used to cut alot. Sometimes I really hate myself and can't even stand looking at myself in the mirror. But the thing thats been helping me, is finding people who you really trust. To chat to whenever you feel suicidal or the need to cut. Maybe you could talk to them about your feelings, or maybe just something completley different to get your mind off it for a while? I know what you mean when you say you still want the pain, but how you also feel you can't and you've got to stop yourself because of the people you love. That's what makes it so hard. I hope I could help in some way, take care x

Hey girl...what you need right now is a lot of love and support from your family and friends...
I understand you are in a lot of pain...a few years ago I did something really stupid aswell, until one day someone started blackmailing / threatening me... I also suffered...
What I believe in is that when you make mistakes ( unwanted mistakes that you are not aware of that you make them or awareness of your actions) , when you make mistakes you have to take the consequences...suicide is not the answer... when you fail to... that memory stays with you for the rest of your life... when you succeed...you have thrown away the most beautiful gift God has ever given you: life!!! I know its hard for you to understand right now...and very, extemely hard to believe,, but life is something wonderful!! We all make mistakes, girl... we all regret them...
All I can say is: if you have hurt your people...apologise, make it right and tell, at least, the ONE person who you trust more than anyone in this world what it is thats bothering you... and ask them for they're support...all you need is LOVE. Its all about love, L.O.V.E.
With Love, support and friendship...you WILL get through it!!! I give you my word...

Life is beautiful...the world is filled with colours...the sea is blue, the trees are green, flowers come in different colours... you only need to see them...and once you do...you'll know you're happy...

Live your life in every second of the day...when you feel happy: smile, when you feel sad: cry, when you love someone: tell them, when you are tired: sleep, when you feel hyper: dance, move, sing, live it up!! Live every moment!!! Live the experience...when you feel like talking to someone...then talk to someone... that...is how you enjoy life...

I wish you the best of luck for the future, I hope I helped somehow, I promise you...keep fighting for a good life!! It is possible!! Take care... xxxxxx Love you!! ( rebbie.honeybee@gmail.com)

Always remember that you ARE NOT alone; a lot of people have suffered from similar feelings -- including myself. You also have friends and family who I am sure would be willing to help if you were to ask. You need to find the courage to ask for help, to admit you cannot stand on your own.
I once wished to kill myself, but then I realised that there's a lot of life I've still got to live. Why end it when everything could be so much better in the future?
Next step is to move on, find happiness. Focus on our friendships, and possibly relationships.

this is something that i have gone through.

and i have one thing to say... therapy...

it is the shit! it helped me stop cutting, and make me a stronger person

same thing is happening to me. i am NOT going to some happy-go-lucky couselor for two hours a-day to "talk" i was doing pretty good for a couple months but my best girl friend ditched me and is acting like we were never friends. i cant explain it to anyone. i always feel alone. i know it sounds like crap but i need SOMEONE. any help?

I've been a cutter for 10 years, I tried to commit suicide in 2008, not for the first time and afterwards everyone was watching me like a hawk. I felt so guilty for upsetting everyone, then I'd feel angry because I wanted time on my own, and then I'd feel even more guilty for being angry at people who were only trying to keep me safe.

You can't change what has happened but you can learn from it and put it behind you. When you're feeling better it will show, and your family and friends will be able to put it behind them too. There is obviously a reason for your cutting and for why you tried to take your own life, before you can move on you need to work out what drove you to do it and work on putting that right. If it's something you can't do alone you may want to consider therapy or visiting a drop-in centre when you need support. If you struggle talking to people face to face you could always try calling a help line like Samaritans. It may sound a bit corny or like a cliche, but when you're feeling desperate or just need to get stuff off your chest, they can really help.

If you can't pin point a specific reason for your suicide attempt, there's a possibility you may be suffering from depression or another mental illness, if you think this may be the case you should talk to your doctor and take it from there.

My last suicide attempt highlighted my Bipolar Disorder [Manic Depression] I'm now on meds and in EMDR therapy which really helps, it doesn't take it all away, but it makes it a little easier to deal with.

Hope this helps and good luck with everything
Kizzie x