Question: Do long distances relationships work? I've been...

LDR relationships will work if they have a constant communication. TRUST, LOVE and PATIENCE should be there too but the most important thing is If they're both praying for their relationship and if they really do love each other. I just moved here in US, i left me boyfriend on our home country, we we're 1 year and 4 months that time, we know each other very well, we've been through a lot as in through a lot. We've almost died together. Since it's an LDR, yes it's tough. esp. trusting him. but now we're okay, very much okay. We have constant communication. I'm planning to go home soon, we're both waiting for that time, we dream together, plan together. At first we almost gave up, but now we're 2 yrs and 2 months. Like what the quote says "Anything worth a damn, ain't easy to get!" We should sacrifice first then play later. :D Don't lose hope! Horaaaay for LDR :D

they can work and you are doing the things to make sure it works - talking to each other, communicating and going to see him. come to beautiful australia and experience what he is experiencing here for his gap year.

Definitely, if they're worth the time and effort to you. It's hard to do, but sometimes relationships work out better if you start out long distance, or have had that component somewhere in the relationship. Cause then you know how much you mean to them, and usually it means that the worst is over. "Oh yeah, this part of life sucks, but atleast i'm not 16 hours away from you." that kind of thing. If you can make it through the long distance part with someone, you can make it through anything.

Like i said, if they're worth it.

I've been in 2 LDRs in the past 2-3 years. I've known both of those guys for 10+ yrs. The first one ended after 1 1/2 yrs partly due to not seeing much of each other. The one I am in now, we see each other almost every weekend. We split up once about 5 months into it becuz he said he didn't know what he wanted. After 2 months, we talked about things and got back together. Things have been good. We haven't had a major fight yet. They do work, and can last, if the effort is put into it from both sides.

Hey. Im the writer of this question and would just like to say thanks to those of you who replied with your answers :) yes its really hard, but as most of you have said about trusting each other alot, i trust him 100%, seein as ive known him since i was little and know everything about him and i love him so much! thing is ive always had a soft spot for him since i was little, so i spose that helps to stay in love too :). We talk EVERY DAY which is awesome, coz i thought we wouldnt, but as i said in the question, im going to visit him next year, so ive only not seeing him for 10 months really, but eitherway its going okay so far between us :) and i agree communication is the key!

one of my buddies has a similar problem... shez been with her guy for a long tym now and hes goin away... shes broken but theres nuthin they can do abt it..... what do you think she shud do? shud they break up? any ideas?

i was in a long distance relationship with the love of my life for about 2 years ... each situation is different and very complicated ... and even though mine didnt work out per say (once again comlicated haha) im also confidant that they can work ... it is dependant on your relationship and what you both want out of the relationship

A LDR can work if you are willing to put the time and effort into it. My hubby and I spend 2 years in a LDR because he is in the military and they had him stationed 3000 miles away from me. Phone calls, emails, instant messaging, and skype will keep you sane! If it's meant to be it will be. I'm a strong believer in making LDRs work if you are willing to make them =]

LDR's do work, as long as you: 1. Both know you are on the same page!
2. don't mind being "single" in that your not actually single, because your still "attached" but in the way that it can get lonely. Being busy can help!
3. don't mind the costs: to travel, to call, email, text, etc.
4. Both know that it is for a certain amount of time (I'm currently at Uni in a diff city to my bf) he visits me, i visit him.

It is hard, but what relationship isn't?! You have to be patient, and yes, it is a test of commitment! Not in the sense of marriage proposals or something like that, just that you are both apart and have the same risks involved.

Risks: not seeing each other for weeks/ months at a time.
It's hard but call/ write and email at least once a week. keep each other in your lives, even though your life is busy & distanced from the other.
Encourage them to call/ text/ email/ and write "old fashioned" pen & paper letters.
( I'm a real sucker for actual "Mail" in the mailbox, rather than the usual bills and bank statements! )
hand written letters also give you both a chance to be a little more detailed and intimate! (not something most of us want to write online!)

I'd also suggest doing something special when the other person does come visit.
(IE because I am in the "new" place, I decided to explore it, and learn special places... to later bring him back to.) so far this has been a fun way to explore parts of ourselves as well as learning a new location!

Because I moved away from him & Home, I have had to develop and grow new connections with people and places here. Then again it is just as hard for the person left behind.

Yes, Missing your significant other is hard, and it doesn't get easier. You just learn to deal with it a little more and a little better.

LDRs can work. Right now my boyfriend lives in Canada and I live in Florida. I've known him for four years before we actually decided we meant something more to each other. We are both willing to do what ever it takes to be with each other. He understands I need to finish getting my education here before I can move to Canada and so he is willing to come and visit me as many times as he can till I can be with him there. If you really love him, it will work. It will be tough, but it will work.