Question: How do I get my boyfriend to...

In a way I agree with you Donatella. He broke up with her and she thought it was over, so she did what she needed to do to ge tthings out, which was through sex. So there really is no mistake in this situation.

men never completely trust their partner. especailly when another guy is involved. mostly because they know that if they were "the other guy" they would probably do it to. the only thing i can tell you is. never hide anything from him. secrets are just bombs waiting to explode all over a good relationship.

Maybe you should really consider the fact that you did sleep with someone else. I know these things can be very confusing, so please bear with me here, but if both of you are having problems so much....you should probably consider going your separate ways. It will hurt at first, but with the help of your friends you can pull through. I've been with a very jealous boyfriend who claimed that I was cheating on him with a guy I simply said Hi to. Maybe you need a guy who will really trust you.

you were broken up for a reason so why try to fix it??? you can see how well it turned out the 2nd time around.

I don't see how this is cheating or a mistake considering you weren't together at the time. You did something that was fine no matter how you look at it. Either the guy you slept with is trying to get your bf riled up for some reason OR your bf has something he's feeling guilty over. Maybe he's doing something sneaky but is trying to 'justify' it by saying 'oh you did it in my bed' you cheated blah blah. I'm not sure why it was considered a cheating thing to begin with or why you felt compelled to tell him anything. You did nothing wrong and what you do with your life when you two aren't a couple is none of his damn business.

I'm thinking there's an outside source that's causing this. It most likely has nothing to do with you, persay, but he's making it that way to try to cover his ass. I'd start asking him questions cause it's too random and sudden for it to be something you did. I'd try talking to him about it, see if you can get to the bottom of it. However, if he starts getting too defensive or angry or there's constant fighting and no sense of resolution, i'd highly consider dumping his ass. Because he's obviously gonna hold this 'mistake' over your head for the rest of your life and that's just sad

This is not even a trust issue on your part, he broke up with you. He should be the one explaining his bit, not you explaining your use of virtual freedom. Why is he being such a control freak? He doesn't want you, he wants you, he doesn't want you with anyone else, he doesn't want you. What is his deal? Get rid of the loser.

your just gonna have to work with him until he trusts you. he may never trust you again and youll just have to deal with it. If he does gain your trust back dont fuck it up again

Nice--- he broke up with her. Repeat - he broke up with her. Her issue is not that she made a "mistake" it's that he is making her feel guilty about doing something she had every right to do and he is unhappy about that. Boo Hoo. It sounds like he didn't appreciate her before he broke up with her and he doesn't appreciate her now. $10 says you ain't a gal at all, sorry.

You need to talk to him straight up about it. If he refuses to talk to you, then the relationship can't be fixed and you need to let it go and break-up.
If he accepts talking to you, you need to tell him that you two were broken up and that though you are sorry, EVERYONE makes mistakes. Especially when your emotions are running high like that... Make sure you tell him flat out that you are sorry it happened and do regret it, and you want to do everything you can to make things work. And then ask him if he can forgive you, if he can trust you.

I've been in similar situations. Though its possible that something else is going on to make him suddenly freak like this, chances are that it was simmering in him all this time and it hit the boiling point.

He probably needs his confidence back. Explain to him why you did it, explain why you won't do it again. And explain to him why he is better than your friend and why you have chosen to stay with him and working things out instead of dating someone else. Confidence and trust are so important in a relationship... and when your partner has been with someone else its very easy to wonder and thing about it every time you get intimate. You have planted the seed of doubt in his mind- help him uproot it.

Good luck =)

She asked for your help not for you to point your fingers and call her out... People make mistakes ya know, we aren't perfect. There is a lot more women who do worse things.