Question: I am now married to a guy...

i've had this situation before, and trust me, especially seeing as you put "I have kind of gotten used to liking the extra attention.", which im not critisising btw, it is nice to be noticed sometimes, but thats where these feelings for the friend are coming from, he likes you, so he's paying attention to you, so naturally you gravitate to the source of that attention. But under the surface this friend is just another guy, and this may not be the same, but trust me, you find out they can sometimes be a completly different person once you really get to know them. Talk to your husband about this, and maybe avoid seeing this friend for a few weeks until he's gotten over you, guys who would tell a woman he 'likes' her a week before she marries someone else is probably pretty fickle. If your lucky he'll get over you and move onto his next crush, and after a while everything will be fine between you. Luckily, that is how it worked out for me, but would you rather lose the man who you have commited your love and life to, or the friend who has a crush?

I had a similar situation my fiance now and his best friend liked me at the same time but neither of them had talked to each other about it. My fiance (obviously) asked me out first so I fell in love with him. I know if it had been the other way around I could have easily fallen in love with his friend. We used to (and still do) hang out all the time without my fiance. One day we skipped school together to go to a movie and while we were eating dinner he told me that he really wished he had asked me out first. We had a talk about it and it was sort of an awkward rest of the day but it seemed perfectly okay to the both of us. We had talked it out after all. Since it was a really bad snowstorm that day (the reason for us skipping) my fiances dad refused to let him out to drive with us so even though we tried to pick him up we ended up spending more of the day alone nothing happened we just hung out as usual then he took me home. When my fiance called me that night I talked to him about the day, leaving out what we had talked about at lunch. The next day we had a snow day but my fiances dad needed him home to help shovel and do some other stuff so it was just me and his friend again for a good part of the day until he was free. When we all finally got together he apparently noticed that we were acting a little odd because when he dropped me off he asked what was going on. I was completely honest and told him what happened right away and told him that it didn't matter because I loved him and I would NEVER cheat. My fiance was upset for a while so his friend and I didn't hang out alone together as much for awhile and whenever we got into an argument he would end up saying "well why don't you go off with (his friend) if i'm such a bad boyfriend!" It took a little while but he's gotten over it now because he knows all the flirting that may happen between me and his friend is completely harmless and its just because we are good friends and it never goes too far. He knows that the both of us love and respect him too much to ever betray him like that, his friend is either going to be the best man or possibly the officiant at our wedding even. So, in light of my experience TELL YOUR HUSBAND! It is very possible that he is going to get upset and he may not leave you two alone in a room for awhile but all you need to do is talk to your husband and let him know that while you may like the attention there is no way you would EVER act on it. However, if this other guy does not back off and things keep escalating between you and him you need to tell him to back off and get the support of your husband in this. You may end up losing a friend but its better than losing your husband and the man you love enough to promise to spend the rest of your life with.

how can it be a what if, if the dude only told you he liked you a week BEFORE he knew you were getting married?? I'm sorry if the dude had seriously liked you, he would have said so a lot earlier on and not before a major step in your life. The timing alone gives off major red flags. Tell the dude to shut up and back off. I don't see why you're even considering him period since you love your hubby. This guy is just trying to get under your skin on purpose in order to cause you some issues that you don't need. Tell your husband about it so he can talk to his friend after you tell him to a take a hike. A serious what if moment is if someone whom you had been insane about came back into your life and was trying to win you back or something, not someone who wanted to throw a wrench into a girl's thoughts right before she's about to walk down the aisle

When people spend too much time thinking about the what if's they miss out on the what is. It's flattering to have a guy who is not your husband hitting on you like that but think about it like this: If the situation was reversed and it was your husband and your bridesmaid instead. Bet you wouldn't think your husband was in a dilemma. Because it's simple: He should tell her to back off! And you wouldn't want to be friends with someone who hits on your husband. Your husband wouldn't either. The more you delay the worse it will get and the more betrayed your husband will feel when it eventually gets out (of course it will). Hope I helped.

its not that i would ever cheat on my husband. NEVER EVER!! its that everyone always has a what if...this is mine.

whoa. seems to me that you may actually be considering this guy but since your married already, you don't want to 'cause your "tied down". you need to rethink this. you shouldnt even be considering this guy or even thinking "oh yea i wouldve dated him if i met him first." you should be thinking "oh crap. this is wrong! i love my husband and i dont want this jacka** ruining the trust me and my husband have." i was in a similar situation before and i never considered the guy. instead, i thought to myself and told him if he dindt back off, i would havce to tell my hubby even though i didn't want to (as not to cause drama of course.)

tell him that he can't keep hitting on you, and if he does you'll tell your husband. don't think of the 'what ifs' you're happy now, and that's what matters.

tell buddy to fuck off and leave you alone

Tell him to leave you the fuck alone. Youve tried telling him nicely, and if he doesnt stop you will be forced to tell your hubby.
If he doesnt take the hint, seriously, tell your guy. One of your husbands jobs is getting rid of freaks who wont leave you alone- regardless of history they share.

tell your husband, and see how things pan out other wise it is going to continue on like that and then get really sticky to fix later.