Question: My biggest pet peeve is when people...

No offense. But your overreacting, Think of it this way, maybe your just early.

I dealt with the same stuff last year. I always drove everywhere bc my car gets the best gas mileage, and is the smallest (living just outside Tampa, it helps), and this never bothered me bc I love to drive. BUT my best friend was always late. Id be waiting outside her appt complex for like 15-20 mins. I started showing up later than I said bc it was the only way I could think of. So Id call her in the am, she'd say she was getting in the shower so Id sleep for another 30 mins then jump in the shower myself.

I totally think you should be late! They need to learn what it feels like. Not only should you be late once, but as many times as they need to get it in thier heads that it hurts!

I agree with Cheryl. It's not rude to expect something as respectful as being on time. It's one of my major peeves as well. I've had friends who not only have made the plans with me, but would show up hours later than what they said they would, with no explanation or reasoning and not caring. That irks me even further. I feel it's rude to do something like that. I mean if they call and say something has held them up and they're running behind, then it can be somewhat acceptable... but otherwise, it's unfair to the one who is on time and could be doing other things. But they respect their friends or whomever enough to show they want to be there by being on time.

I'm not saying all people who are late are bad. I mean everyone can have possible late days (I've had a few when my bike broke down on the way to work. I was late five mins tho lol and I called work to warn them I was gonna be late) but if someone is always late and just rolls their eyes, it can be hurtful. It's like saying, it doesn't matter what you think, I'll do what I want. And there's no respect there. Least that's how it can come off. No the world doesn't revolve around anyone, but respect is something that seems lacking a bit too much nowadays. Being on time is just a way to show that whatever plans that are made are important. But that's just how I feel about it

How I do understand you!!!!! I have never been late, not even once!!!!! My friends have a habit to be late for about 30 minutes!!! ALWAYS!!!!!!! So I just tell them to come 30minutes earlier, and I go 30 minutes later, so we all get there in time :))))))))

I am chronically late as well. I know I always disappoint my best friends and family because of this. I even started a new job and can't seem to get there on time. There really is no excuse for this and I constantly feel guilty and like a bad friend/family member/employee because of it. How do I break this habit? I feel like it is possibly related to maybe having mild depression which makes it really hard for me to leave the house. Could this be an issue w/ your best friend/bf?

It's not hard to be on time, You just need to plan a little. If it means starting to get ready 25 minutes earlier so be it. it's a pain in the ass for people who are punctual like myself to be stuck waiting forever for someone who isn't ready on time ever.

I am one of those late people. I know it's horrible. I just can't seem to redirect myself to be punctual. I feel like.. .. time limits are restricting. I am on time to work. But..in life.. there is so much to see..and be a part of. So much that distracts me..and sends me on a mission of inspiration.. I can't seem to stay focused on my destination. Free spirit here... Eventually... I may redirect my efforts. Until then... most know I run behind..so they tell me earlier. ( I've also taken the time.. to put my appointments in at earlier times... that seems to help me a lot. )

How is expecting punctuality over reacting? Public transport don't wait for you if you're late. Your employers aren't going to be happy if you're late. It's a social etiquette. If someone is making effort into getting some place on time, I believe that person has every right to expect whoever she is meeting to also get there on time.

You're right, people don't revolve around her, but this isn't the issue with her. The problem with late people is that they have poor time management, and that is the issue with them.

I'd just tell them an earlier time than what you want them to be there. I have friends who don't care about me, or my time too, so maybe you should just stop hanging out with them and when they ask you why, tell them that you're time doesn't seem to matter to them and that they never seemed to try to be on time, so you just decided to stop trying.