Question: So I just got out of a...

Hi, I'm 27 and I have a friend with benefits in another state. I asked him if he considered me, or what we were doing, to be slutty. He's the only person I've had sex with in a year, and he said he didn't consider that slutty. He didn't seem to care about how many people I'd slept with, as long as I practiced safe sex (which I always insist on). I think he was more concerned about my emotional state and attending to my needs (sexual, physical, emotional) than how many people I'd slept with. It's your life, and you live it the way you see fit. One of my friends has decided to sleep with one man forever, and that's her choice and upbringing; but I think it's all apart of the experience of life. Just make sure you stay safe (you know what I mean)

Buy a vibrator!!

Much better than sleeping around, pleases your needs, and you can do it as much a possible.

dude. im in triple digits. enjoy life. screw everyone if it makes you happy! dont worry about what other people think, the only person you need to please is yourself. go for gold!

I feel you! Maybe go back to an old guy & say just for benefits? I'm sure one of those guys woul dbe willing!

after coming out of my first proper relationship (which was terrible) i had about a year where i just let my hair down and done whatever i wanted with whoever i wanted, always used protection, had regular checks at the GUM clinic and never had a problem. I had a couple of 'FWB' which worked really well for me and in that year i got up to about 30 guys. The only person that knows my number is my best mate and thats because me and him are so close that when someone called me a slut i had a moment where i needed to have someone back me up. it doesnt make you a slut to sleep with a few different guys. its a matter of personal choice, just like its a matter of choice to not sleep with anyone until your married, i personally could never do that, and cant comprehend it but that works for some people, for others having a fwb or two works. its just the way it works!

How ridicolous some of the postings above are. I think a 'friends with benefits' deal would absolutely be perfect for you! You don't want a relationship and don't want a number of one night stands, so it's perfect, isnt it? I don't know what you're worrying about. Have fun! Only remember to be safe.

First of all 15 is nowhere near a huge number.....secondly there isnt anything wrong with friends with benefits...I've been sleeping with mine for 2 years now!

Im in the same situation as you its so annoying but I havent racked mine up too much only two more people but its only been three weeks. I find that neither of them could satisfy me like him and it makes me so aggravated.

Sex is sex. People have been doing it for millenia. The whole "sex is meant to be shared between two people who are in love" is romantic, but not for everyone. Your "number" doesn't mean shit to anyone but yourself, or, obviously, to the people with more romantic notions about sex. If a guy asks your number and you're not comfortable sharing, just wink and say "wouldn't you LOVE to know?" then just shrug it off if he insists on knowing. It is, after all, YOUR business, no one else's. If you do get into a a serious relationship and your man asks you, or asks you again, you can decide whether to tell him or not then.
Yes, I do think sex is something special to be shared with someone you love, but if you're not in love or in a relationship, it's just sex. Humans have sex, because it feels good, and they like it. There's NOTHING wrong with it. Judgement is called when people aren't responsible. I chuckled at your "15" because honestly, lots of people out there, men AND women, have much, much higher counts. So be responsible, be safe, take care of yourself, and have fun. =]

I personally don't think that the number matters, I have racked up a good number myself but I have found that it's not the women who have issues with the number of bedpartners because they are generally more understanding.
My current boyfriend never got over the fact that I had a higher number than him. he's the greatest guy but he can be so condescending about this. Partly that has to do with insecurity on his part but still sleeping with more men doesn't make me or you for that matter a bad girl. My boyfriend is also the first I told my number of bedpartners to, before I would always say it wasn't their business and in my experience that is just the best way.

If I have to give advice it would just be that you should just do what makes you happy as long as you don't hurt other people in the process, that is at least what I always tell myself.