Question: So my boyfriend and I have been...

I went to college while I was still with my high school boyfriend of 4 years at the time. I was fine staying with him and still enjoying college, but he wanted to do other things. So then the relationship got really rocky because he wanted to party, do drugs, and apparently have sex with other people, while I wasn't like that at all. I wanted to just walk around campus at night together or do stuff together or with friends. We ended up breaking up a year later, and I still did the same things I wanted to do with him, when we broke up. So I didn't feel like I missed out on anything from college, I still did what I wanted to do.

You should just talk to him, and share what you both want to do. Maybe you both want to party a lot, but are worried about what the other one will say. You just need to talk about everything.

Honestly, it was a high school fling. Move on and get over him. College has too many guys to worry about one. Most people really don't end up with their high school sweetheart anyway. People usually grow up and change. I say you both go away single, so that you can experience college and not be tied down. Next thing you know you will be writing on here how you want to go o parties more but guys hit on you too much and you want to stay faithful to your current HS boyfriend. College is a chance for new experiences, and that means leaving your old baggage (boyfriend) behind.

First of all, talk to him about what he wants. If he thinks he'll have more fun 'experiencing things' such as having other women besides you and that that's the only way that he can experience things and have a fun college experience, then it's clear that you two should break up. But if you two love each other and if you both agree that you want to make things work even with the different schools and the distance, then you know what? You should stay together and make it work. I mean, my boyfriend and I both go to different colleges in different cities, and I know that it's not several states away so it's not exactly too long distance and I get to see him once a week, but it is sort of the same situation. You know how we work? We talk to each other for a few hours every day whether it's by phone or text or email or IM or something, we at least see how the other is doing for the day. And we're both patient with each other. And he still expriences A LOT of things that he wants to. Having fun in college doesn't mean that he has to be with other girls or other women. It just means that he has to be doing what he enjoys. Does he enjoy cheating on you or bein with other women besides you? If he doesn, break up with him. If he wants to try to be with you through all of this, then give it a chance, don't run away because you're afraid he might not be having fun because he can't get some action. If he isn't having fun and wants to be with other women, I'm pretty darn sure that he would tell you and break up with you then instead of cheating on you unless he is a complete bastard.

So stay with him. You have fun at college, let him have fun at college, because it sounds like a long distance relationship don't nag him about how you feel neglected and he needs to come back, but also don't think that because he might be feeling lonely it means that you have to break up with him. If he really gets sick of it and feels like you're holding him back, trust me, he'll let you go. And don't worry about him cheating. If he says he will keep his hands to himself, then he will.

If it's meant to be, it will last. Give one another free rein. Remain friends via phone and e-mail. If you want to, see one another during breaks. BUT - you have to be free do do what you want when you're apart without jealous nonsense.