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Posted by Anonymous on October 17, 2009 at 10:19 PM

Is it possible to be in love with someone within 3 months of knowing them or is it simply infatuation???

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  • Posted by Claire on January 18, 2010 at 11:44 PM
Absolutely. I knew my current boyfriend for probably 3 months when I realized I loved him. Still going strong :3
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  • Posted by Anonymous on October 25, 2009 at 9:00 PM
The same thing happened to me. It has definately made me more cautious of guys like that.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on October 20, 2009 at 12:37 PM
I went out with a guy i'd known for about a week and we had an amazing relationship that worked really well even though it was long distance. I think you can but it all depends on the person and the circumstances x
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I don't believe in love at first sight, but I suppose it's possible love can form pretty quickly. When I met my boyfriend I had this gut instinct that I should get to know him, so I did. After 6 months of casually dating, we made it officially exclusive (bf/gf) and within a month (maybe a little over) we realized it was love. So it took us over half a year which I feel is probably average. Of course love is work, so it took time to mature. We've been together now for over 4 years.
However, I question whether you truly are in love with this guy. Why? Because you're questioning it yourself. You say that you "think" you're in love with him and are asking us if we believe one can fall in love in such a short amount of time. In short, you've answered your own question. It's probably lust, so I would ride it out, enjoy the relationship and NOT tell him you love him (especially since you wonder about it yourself). Believe me, you'll know when you are. :)
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  • Posted by Em Curtis on October 18, 2009 at 1:59 PM
Depends really. I knew my boyfriend for two-three months before realising I really, really liked him (and it was mutual) so we started off dating just on a mutual crush really. But luckily things developed into something more through time, namely because we didn't ever rush things and took things as they came. However, love is different for everyone and some people will experience it at different rates; for us it took a few more months until we were saying it to each other, but for some people it takes a year or so. If you feel strongly about someone don't try and label it straight away/try and define it. Just let things happen, and if it is love you will realise. (Granted love and infatuation are easily confused, but in the long term love usually becomes stronger).
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Ohhheemmgee =) Yeah It is deffinetley possible. Like for me I have known this guys for Four months and we've had this on off relationship. I'm still so in love with him. He just doesen't see it. Like he "loves (ed)" My bestfriend and I was so pissed off about it I actually stoped talking to her. Like she's Really flirty, yeah but that's beside the point. It is sooo easy to fall in love you just got to realize that it's going to take a while to get over him if he's hurt you.
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Ohhheemmgee =) Yeah It is deffinetley possible. Like for me I have known this guys for Four months and we've had this on off relationship. I'm still so in love with him. He just doesen't see it. Like he "loves (ed)" My bestfriend and I was so pissed off about it I actually stoped talking to her. Like she's Really flirty, yeah but that's beside the point. It is sooo easy to fall in love you just got to realize that it's going to take a while to get over him if he's hurt you.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on October 18, 2009 at 12:14 PM
I think it's truely dependant on your situation and on your relationship. The easiest way I can compare love is to compare it to family, but multiplied several times. You are most likely always completely yourself around your family, and if you're able to be like that around your guy, there's a good chance that you do care for him very deeply. In my experience, and from what I've witnessed, saying "I love you" early on in a relationship can go one of two ways:
1) it may be real and it may last or
2) it may not be real and won't last and someone, or both people, will get very hurt.

I've been in love twice before I met my current love, and neither of them ever said "I love you" back to me. I knew my present man for a few months before we started dating, and I'd only known him for some weeks before I started to fall for him, seriously. Fortunately for me, he felt the same way. He told me he loved me very early, VERY early. It threw me off a bit, becuase I'd never had someone say it back to me, and it took me a while to say it back to him.
But, two years later, most days it still feels like we're in our "honeymoon" phase. So really, it depends on the situation.

My advice, guard your heart, but not too closely, and be open to heartbreak because it's part of life. =]
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  • Posted by Anonymous on October 18, 2009 at 6:03 AM
I was seeing a bloke who was insistant that he loved me from the moment he saw me and took it as read that I felt the same - I didnt, he became more possessive and I finished with him after 6 weeks - it was then he turned into a psycho ex and I had to get the police to talk to him to keep him away from me - if he had truly loved me he wouldnt have behaved like he did - I,m not saying love at first sight etc doesnt exist but I would tread very carefully until you know someone well enough to not feel any niggling doubts
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  • Posted by Anonymous on October 18, 2009 at 4:05 AM
No ones ever said love at first sight doesn't exist. I knew my bf was special when i couldn't stop thinking about him while i was on holiday. Love happens
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