How can I "take charge" in the bedroom without feeling intimidated? My fiance and I have been together for two years, and have actually been sleeping together longer than that. I have been in a handful of long-term relationships and can count on one hand how many people I've had sex with, while he had a reputation for being amazing in bed (for lack of a better term, he was quite the man ho) and can't even remember how many people he's had sex with. That was back in the day though, and he's settled down and wants to marry me. For our entire relationship, I've been too intimidated to take charge, even though he is tired of always being the dominant one and would like to try something new. I don't like being on top, or being in control. It intimidates me and I, for whatever reason, am so terrified of it that even the thought of it completely puts me out of the mood. I don't know if it's because I'm intimidated by him for being so experienced or what. We've talked this out on numerous occasions, and while I love him and am completely comfortable with my body around him, I still can't do it. Neither of us can find a reason for me to flip out like that. I feel bad because he loves me and isn't afraid to go out of his comfort zone for me and I can't do it for him. Any suggestions? I really want to get over this!