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she never said that she thought she was fat, only that she was uncomfortable in her body. And as for "real weight issues", being OVERWEIGHT is not the only one. It is very possible to feel ugly without necessarily feeling fat. As for advice for her however, I truly believe it's not that you are actually ugly. I believe it's just a self esteem problem. I am 160 pounds and 5'5. I'm a bit thicker than a lot of the girls I know, but I FEEL like one of those nude women in those paintings back when child bearing hips were "in". I am so beautiful. So are you. If you're comparing your beauty to someone else's, I suggest you spend a lot more time masturbating in front of a mirror. ;) always helps me.

Look in the mirror every day and say that you're okay. Emphasise the best part of yourself. Be happy with who you are. I am 90kgs and 175cm tall (190lb and 5'7'). If you want to tone up, then try exercise for half an hour a day. Dancing was a great way for me to get confidence back in my body and lose weight. Eating more fruits and vegies is good too.

thankyou so much for sharing that with us! it completely made my day!

One thing to always remember, is that men are all attracted to different beauty, what one sees as beautiful, another will not see that same beauty, which is why it all works, if men were only attracted to one type of woman i.e. the tall skinny blonde w/big boobs, then why are so many women who are not the tall skinny blonde with fabulous men who absolutely adore them? There is a reason. Also no matter your size, if you have a smaller waist and larger hips you are attractive, this is basic for men. Something I have learned over the years dealing with my own insecurities, love yourself starting now time is awasting.

This sounds awkward, but look at yourself naked in the mirror. It will force you to really look at yourself and your beautiful body and will help you learn to love yourself. This sounds corny, but you can't possibly love someone else fully if you can't love yourself to begin with. I'm pretty sure you're a beautiful girl and really believe that. Not asking you to be cocky, but asking you to be confident. Guys like that.

I used to not like my body and have a bad image of myself in my head, but what you have to do or what I did is, put everything aside friends, guys, family society and think about yourself. ask yourself
Do you like who you are as a person? Are you happy? It seems like you are afraid of what other people think of you. If a guy wants to be in a relationship with you then you aren't just some piece of ass which means he like you for who you are. He doesn't care about what you look like, he like YOU! If you own yourself and are okay with who you are in your own skin, flaws and all, you will be 3 times as hot to any guy. I don't know if this is helping at all, you just sort of have to, i cant think of another way to say this but give up in a sense and accept you for you and if you don't like something then baby steps to either make you comfortable with your body, by dressing up, and dress up for you not some guy. Just little things. Say you are having a bad day, wear pretty panties, it will brighten you day even if its just a little.
If some guy thinks your fat or tells you there is something wrong with you, he's not the one! The one will love you no matter what, if you gain 50 lbs or looking your worst, because he loves you and not what you look like.

i used to be this way with my body. im 5'4" and i weigh 115. i have smaller breasts and not such a small butt..if you're that uncomfortable, you're probably not ready for sex. the way i got over my body is first of all i didnt know that guys liked big butts so that helped.. plus my boyfriends always telling me how beautiful i am and how hot i always look and everything and eventually i was completely comfortable standing naked in front of him which no one before him had ever seen me naked... like after 7 years old... not even a doctor thats how bad i was

I'm 5'1" and I'm 130. Honestly, your weight is nothing to be worried about.

Weight and security in your own skin is mental not just physical...I mean not everyone that has plastic surgery needs it right??? Not every person that gets it done is suddenly so much happier with themselves either.

My self confidence started with me and accepting the little compliments people gave me like "I like your hair like that" or "you have nice eyes". Then I played up the things that I liked about me. Find that ONE feature in you that YOU love and play it up for all it's worth. If its your smile, wear a really dramatic lipstick, if its your eyes play with them up with eyeliner and maybe a metallic eyeshadow.
When it comes to clothes, find fits and cuts that make you comfortable and make you go "I look good today". Sometimes I change tops several times until I find one that just feels "right" for the day and I go with it. Everything else falls into place.
If you go out thinking you look good, then you're confident and other people notice that, they compliment you, you feel better about yourself, you start to believe in yourself and become more secure so you get this nice little cycle going.

If a guy is leaving you b/c you're insecure about your body and its making you not want to have sex and that's what he's nagging you about; then he's not worth it. A real boyfriend takes you as you are. You're worth that, everyone is.

True beauty starts from the inside.

I think that you should be made aware (and I'm not qualified to say that this is true for your case or anyone's case who has or will post on here) that feeling you're overweight when clinically you're at a safe/healthy weight, especially if you take drastic measures or plan them to fix them is a sign of a potentially serious psychological condition. It's not just eating disorders out there that people suffer from that affects how they/we view our bodies!!!

you are retarded if you think at 5'1" and 116 lbs you are fat...get over yourself! there are women out there with real weight issues!