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Posted by Anonymous on November 6, 2009 at 4:49 PM

Subtract about 10 years from the "40 Year Old Virgin" and that's where I find myself. I'm 26 and I met this guy who is 29 and he is great! We get along really well, share the same interests, both are ambitious, completely attracted to each, etc. But he's a virgin. He's never had a relationship ever. And from what I've gathered he has a super needy mom that demands his attention. I really like him though but it worries me that he's never been in any type of relationship at this age. I would totally commend him for still being a virgin if it was because of his belief system but again it worries me that he is completely inexperienced. Am I being unfair? Should I give him a chance?

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  • Posted by Anonymous on March 13, 2010 at 8:56 AM
I bet mom is very proud of you, oh misser of points.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on March 2, 2010 at 1:24 PM
spell FFS properly then if you dont like it being spelt wrong
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 31, 2010 at 11:54 PM
amen to that
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 31, 2010 at 11:49 PM
every mother ive dealt with in relationships from my first boyfriend and beyond had been exactly the way you described. only son, first child, only child, i seemed to attract them, and every one of their mothers hated me for absolutely no reason at all. I told myself the first guy i meet that his mother actually likes me is the one I will marry (that turned out to be true but not for that reason). So i know where you are coming from.
I say give him a chance. but dont dive in head first, be cautious and watch for warning signs. Have an open relationship and gently, slowly, sever the umbilical cord. as for him being a first timer....don't worry, they catch on quickly, and take advantage of the fact that you have the chance to train someone properly :) theres not enough of those out there. Its easier to train than retrain and break bad habits am i right lol
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 14, 2010 at 12:53 PM
Wow, sounds familiar to me, VERY familiar to me, like its almost exactly what I have, minus the age (I'm older than my guy).
I think you are being a little unfair, because you've sort of answered why he's never been in a relationship: he has a needy Mom.
My fiancé was a virgin when we started dating almost 3 years ago. His Mom (and his Dad really) are both VERY needy; like at least once a day one of them would call and demand he do something for them because they were literally too lazy to do it themselves. Its lessened greatly since we got engaged.
I say you're being unfair because like you said, he has a needy Mom, which probably means he has never really had the chance to have a real relationship; she probably pulled the same lines my future mother-in-law pulled (and tried to pull with him and me) by saying 'you've changed' whenever he tried dating someone.
Even if it isn't a forever match, sometimes being that girl who helps him be himself without a nagging mother on his back, will do wonders for a guy. Who knows, he might even be your 'one', I know mine is.
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I think you should, it's not fair to judge someone based on abstinence, no matter the reason. It's not like it's permanent either, give it a try, you can always end it.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 4, 2010 at 11:27 PM
I- I love you now.

Also, I'm dyslexic too and I HATE EVERYONE that uses it as an excuse not to spell words right. It's called "proof-reading". FFS.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 3, 2010 at 5:17 AM
Her biggest issue is his mother... That's the cause dear, she isn't being shallow. :]
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I am very sorry. I hope you find happiness, with him or someone else! I hope if you really like him, maybe you can get him away from her, enough so he can have his own life! Both of you, that is. Have a happy new year!
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They weren't trying to be mean. The 'U' was just an example to point out that you abbreviate a lot and it has nothing to do with your ability to spell.

:)
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