Question: I just finished with a three-month-long breakup...

He broke up with me. I would have been so happy to stay with him, but he broke up with me.

I know how it feels, but the thing why did you break up with him? what was your reasons? I mean if you truly love him, i'm sure you wouldn't break up with him or maybe you feel that it wasn't the right time.

He probably realised that you ended it because maybe he assumed that you don't feel the same way about him or he probably just wants to move on and be with someone else. There are so many questions we want to know why and how did it happen? Sometimes for us when we move on with our lives being with someone else, it doesn't generally means that we don't feel the same, they are so many reasons why we do it, love does crazy things. You can't always get what you want, life's unfair and you got to let him go unless if you really want him back then you have to FIGHT for it.

Hope you'll get better soon and hey there's plenty of fish out there so don't worry :)

i know how this may sound now, when you are still grieving, but nothing is forever: neither your sadness, nor your love for him, nor his relationship with his new girl. think about things that are larger than life, it may be sad and maybe you wont be happy all the time, but if you think about things this way, nothing will be able to bring you down

The break up lasted three months, and the relationship lasted about a year and a half. But we were close, extremely close - we did everything together, all the time, and everything it is possible to do together, we did. I seriously thought I was going to wind up with him, and I think for a while he thought he'd end up with me.

He'll miss you.
Maybe not today, maybe not next week, maybe not even a year from now, but one day, he's gonna wake up next to some girl, and think of you, because he hasn't taken the time to now.
And it's gonna kill him, because he lost you.
But you're not gonna think about it, because YOU are going to be the happy, strong, beautiful girl you are, and forget about him. Your life is about YOU. If he doesn't appreciate you, then he doesn't deserve you. There are MILLIONS of other guys out there. Forget Mr.PatheticExcuseForABoyfriend and find someone who makes your life better ! I know it's hard, we've all been there, but trust me, if you keep looking, you will find your Prince Charming. Obviously he wasn't it. But there's some gorgeous guy out there waiting for you. You just need to find him. After tons of heartbreak, I found mine. Have faith in yourself hun. ♥

I am going to agree COMPLETELY with Grace!

When I went through this a few months ago (we were together 5 years and living together when he found someone else), I got a piece of advice saying that I should say I was happy for them (even though it wouldn't be true) until eventually I meant it. I attempted this and found that I couldn't even get the words out in my thoughts, much less say them out loud. I choked on them and decided I couldn't even try anymore. So instead I told myself I didn't care. That one was easier.
It took awhile, but it eventually worked. At least, to an extent. If I think about it too hard, it still gets to me. So instead I try to avoid it in my head altogether. But if I don't dwell on it, I find myself okay with how things were.
But that takes time. And no matter what the advice is you're given, the chances that it will help are slight. No inspirational or deep saying is going to make it hurt any less.
So maybe this will. I joked about it with my friends and family. There is no better tool for getting through these things than them. The more you joke about it, the less it stings. And not only does it make you laugh a little, but it feels vindictive which (while some people will tell you isn't healthy) it feels damn good.
Also, I spent a lot of time in front of the TV after my breakup. Again, probably not the healthiest way to deal, but when you're hurting you need to worry about yourself and what makes you feel better. It would be great if we could all be perfectly mature and grownup about the whole thing, wishing them well and doing all the right things, but love and heartbreak is not rational.
So just worry about yourself. Let yourself be sad: cry, scream, beat a punching bag. Because I can promise you this, it's going to get better sooner than you think. The ache will fade much sooner than you anticipated. And because you let yourself purge like that, you're going to heal so much better. And once you've healed, you're going to be so much happier while he's still going to be hurting and missing all your little quirks (even if he doesn't show it) because he never gave himself the time to be sad. Then you'll be the one that doesn't need HIM, and really, isn't that the best revenge of all?

You have taken your time to be angry and hurt, now realize that it's time to let go. You have to force yourself to go on with your life. Start by making yourself go through the little things then move on and force yourself to do things to keep you busy. It also helps to not be alone. Surround yourself with people who love you and who you love. Lean on your friends. They will be there for you. You just have to stay busy and not think about it as best you can. It's going to hurt for a while, but no one deserves so much power as to have the ability to bring your life to a halt. This is your life, your one life. Don't waste it being sad and jealous and lonely. Things happen and you've got to moving past it. You can do it! Believe that you are a beautiful and wonderful woman that he probably didn't deserve anyway!

All I can say is, try to close this chapter of your life, mentally. If your relationship didn't work out it doesn't matter how much love there is between you. You have broken up and each of you needs to find a new life. It might mean diving into another relationship although I find that unhealthy. You need to let go of him, mentally. You didn't say who initiated the breakup but maybe he wanted it so that he could be with this new girl? This won't get you anywhere, though, fretting over it.

I'd suggest that you try some relaxation, do things that calm you down and that indulge you, stuff that is purely for you, like watching chick flicks on DVD (sad ones, preferably), having long baths, trying yoga or meditation And whenever he crosses your mind, take a deep breath, acknowledge the thought and then let it pass. Don't punish yourself for thinking about him but don't think further about it, either. Just try to calm your mind, take a few deep breaths and think about something else. There are just thoughts. It's not the thoughts that are hurting you, it's the memories, and you can chose to remember or not. You can move on. This, too, shall pass!

First, I'm confused... did the relationship last 3 months?? or did the break-up last 3 months?? So, either way, if you were only dating 3 months, then there is absolutely no way to really know how in love either of you were. Sure, can fall in love pretty quick. But time is always going to be the kicker. Alternatively, if the break-up took 3 months, then you both have abandonment issues. The fact that he moved on so quickly would tell me that he is a guy. Probably a guy that hates to be alone. They tend to be in love with the idea of being in love, more than actually being in love with the individual they are with.

My advice, get over it. I know it's easier said than done, but you need to evaluate your own circumstance and not worry about him. If you were that easy for him to replace, then obviously he was not the man you thought he was in the first place.