Question: The other night my boyfriend and I...

yeah I do believe that guys and girls can be just friends.
on another note that site about the whole "ladder" theory is complete garbage.
"There are some interests you can show in a woman that will help you to f**k her: a healthy interest in destroying her self-esteem and in fucking her friends more than her seem to work wonders." This is not what women want. I can't believe a site like this exists, how wasteful trying to tell women and men how they should act towards each other.

Yes. Guys and girls can be just friends but in that close proximity feelings may arise, even if it's only for a minute. It's happened to me in pretty much every friendship I've had with a guy :P

I think that men and women can be friends, normally (in my opinoin) when the girl or boy is a close mutual friend of both partner's in the relationship.

What a load of crap!! This site (girlsguideto) is about women empowering women to lead more fulfilled lives by giving advice that is honest and true and you post this!!

I got, maybe halfway through the "Ladder Theory" before i couldnt take anymore, and the following is an extract so the following ladies that may want to read it dont waste their time:

"Novelty - Let's face it, if you're like every other guy who works a normal job and tries to live a good life, you're probably like just about every other guy. Chicks don't dig this, and why would they? Who wants someone who is just like everyone else? Something different is more attractive. Like someone who does not have to work during the day like most people because they have lots of money from business or selling drugs. Or like someone who has stabbed a man and went to prison for it. Different and a veritable ticket to getting laid."

For goodness sakes, let us empower eachother to lead successful and happy lives without BS like this!! Let us share real life experiences that relate, let us enrich our lives with funny antidotes and take part in the glory that is to be female!


To answer the question that was posted - yes it is possible for males and females to be just platonic friends - 3 of my 5 closest friends are male, and I cherish each of their friendships as I do my girlfriends - and there has never been anything sexual between us.

*Live life, love honestly and speak freely*

What a load of crap!! This site is about women empowering women to lead more fulfilled lives by giving advice that is honest and true and you post this!!

I got, maybe halfway through the "Ladder Theory" before i couldnt take anymore, and the following is an extract so the following ladies that may want to read it dont waste their time:

"Novelty - Let's face it, if you're like every other guy who works a normal job and tries to live a good life, you're probably like just about every other guy. Chicks don't dig this, and why would they? Who wants someone who is just like everyone else? Something different is more attractive. Like someone who does not have to work during the day like most people because they have lots of money from business or selling drugs. Or like someone who has stabbed a man and went to prison for it. Different and a veritable ticket to getting laid."

For goodness sakes, let us empower eachother to lead successful and happy lives without BS like this!! Let us share real life experiences that relate, let us enrich our lives with funny antidotes and take part in the glory that is to be female!


To answer the question that was posted - yes it is possible for males and females to be just platonic friends - 3 of my 5 closest friends are male, and I cherish each of their friendships as I do my girlfriends - and there has never been anything sexual between us.

*Live life, love honestly and speak freely*

I KNOW men can be friends with women. One of my best friends is a guy and he's in a happy relationship with another of my best friends. He also happens to be friends with all the other girls in our little group of friends and there's nothing between any of us, except friendship. None of us could fancy him, because we know him far, far too well! :D

I KNOW men can be friends with women. One of my best friends is a guy and he's in a happy relationship with another of my best friends. He also happens to be friends with all the other girls in our little group of friends and there's nothing between any of us, except friendship. None of us could fancy him, because we know him far, far too well! :D

that ladder theory thing is pure shit!
and guys and girls can be friends, and if they both like each other in that way, it will probably just improve their relationship to have had that friendship.

Yes, BUT
at one point one of them will develop a slight crush and it may grow or just fade away

I agree its fucked up but it does have aslight point. When you first meet someone you subconsiously assess them. If they get a high rating then you think about them and potentially go out with them. If they dont rate high enough then you dont think about it again, and you become friends. Its the same for all people (and for the most part subconsious).

As for can guys and girls be friends. YES!! Even if one is attracted to the other they can be friends. Everyone is attracted to more than one person in this world, so there is no reason why you cant have attractive friends, as long as it stays that way.
As for your BFs reaction, I think he may be attracted to his female friend on some level but wont say so to you as it may make you uncomfortable, or not trust him enough to spend time with her.
My BF has a best friend who is female. They went out years ago for a couple of weeks, but it didnt work out. I know he is attracted to her, but also know that she isnt interested as she thinks things are better as friends. As I have been with him for over a year now, I have gotten to know his friend quite well, and we get along great. I admit when I first met her I was a bit paranoid and jelous, and they both predicted this, so he didnt spend as much 'alone' time with her as they would normally. Now he still asks if its ok if he goes over in case im PMSing or have heard rumours etc.
Basically if a guy can be trusted he can have female friends, however there are a few guys that have problems keeping their pants on at the slightest sign of attraction. Its all to do with the individual.