GirlsGuideTo | Question: Mr. Nice Guy...Okay, so I'm pretty sure...

Mr. Nice Guy...Okay, so I'm pretty sure we've all had a nice guy come into our lives and capture our hearts. This has happened to me recently. I really like this guy, and he's so nice! But the thing is, he's nice to everyone, He doesn't treat anyone differently so I don't know how he feels about me in particular. He isn't dating anyone or has a girlfriend, but sometimes I see him hanging out with some of his female friends hugging, and all that. He knows how I feel about him, but I'm pretty sure he's just ignoring it. All our friends say that we'd make a nice couple, but he just goes, "Nahh." and I'm always hurt by this. I don't want to take advantage of his kindness, but I don't want to be left out in the rain. When we talk, it's just regular stuff, nothing special. He's an awesome guy that thinks of me as a friend. I really want him to notice me as more than a friend though, can you guys please give me some tips on how to get him to notice me some more? Don't worry, I'm never going to change myself just for a guy.

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Posted by Anonymous on December 11, 2009 at 3:31 PM

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haha i know a guy like that. he is like the cutest, sweetest guy ever and whenever he is talking to you, he will make you feel like you are the most important person in the room- except that he does that to everyone. i used to have a major crush on him, well, so did like, every other girl. i still like him, but not so much as before and i felt that by liking him less, i am able to act more... normal around him? e.g i dont act stupid around him anymore. we communicate more and are less awkward with each other. i decided to just go with the flow and see how it goes

Posted by Anonymous on December 11, 2009 at 2:12 PM

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I've asked alot of my guy friends when i have been in similar circustances and most of them have told me that it simply comes down to whether the guy is romantically attracted to you or not. It doesnt matter how confident, good looking, funny, smart you are, if his not attaracted his just not attracted
But in saying that sometimes a guy may suddenly become attracted to a girl, but I'ld say just move on and if this happens good for you :D

Posted by Anonymous on December 10, 2009 at 9:05 PM

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Don't show him any attention and see if he does anything to pursue you.

Posted by Anonymous on December 10, 2009 at 9:05 PM

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Don't show him any attention and see if he does anything to pursue you.

Posted by Anonymous on December 10, 2009 at 12:57 PM

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There's a very good chance that he is "just not that into you" that way. That could be the "nah" comment, maybe because he's not wanting to get into a long winded explanation of "well i don't have those feelings for her..at all..so no but thank you." and at the same time, doesn't want to hurt you further more by saying that out loud. He's obviously trying to keep you as a friend. Think about it as if in reverse: that he really liked you and you just saw him as a friend. Without wanting to outright hurt him you'd probably do the very same things; ignoring it and shrugging off comments about you two making a good couple.
I think you need to let it rest before you lose a friend.
There are other fish in the sea. =]

Posted by Eleanor Young on December 10, 2009 at 12:21 PM

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u remind me of a mate named Maisie, she's in the same position but i think the guy is a total git, just do what u think is best

Posted by Anonymous on December 10, 2009 at 7:04 AM

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I reckon lots of confidence works wonders, guys think of you differently when you're confident around them, also i suggest having guy mates that you hug and flirt innocently with, if he does like you as more than a friend he'll start feeling jealous or protective of you, if not i suggest that you check whether he might be gay, because I had a guy friend that i liked and he was realy friendly for everyone and it turned out that he was gay! It's something to think about.