Question: I have been with my boyfriend a...

I understand the connection, its common among moms. I remember when I was pregnant with my first I found out I was pregnant and I was in love with her right away. You need to ask yourself 3 important questions.

1) Are you ready for a child?
2) Are you able to support the child?
3) Can you and the father (if he's involved) support the child?

i totally agree with most of these comments. if you chose to have an abortion it is very likely that later on you will live to regret it! you should be making the choice together not having him dictate to you what to do, think very carefully about what you really want.

Even if she's not ready for the responsibilities it doesn't mean she has to keep her appointment. She will have to live with her self for the rest of her life!!! She could give birth to the baby and put up for adoption and give it to a family who can't have their own.

please consider placing your child in adoption there are lots of options with that sort of thing. the baby growing inside you is a human baby and has feelings, and dreams give them a chance to live maybe not with you maybe with a different family but just give them chance

First of all it's not just for eighteen years. You take care of your children as long as you live, this is a lifetime commitment....not just until they are out of the house. As a young mother (17 when I became pregnant), I am extremely happy I kept my daughter, and it was a miracle she came out as a normal human being. Even if she had been born with a deformity, I would have been ready and prepared to care for her for the rest of my life if need be. This is a decision you have to make for yourself, and for your child. There are other options like adoption. It's your body, and although he helped make the child-it's not his decision to carry it. I was pressured by my ex as well to abort my beautiful baby girl, and I felt the same way as you-that there was a deep spiritual attachment already.
However, having a child is VERY expensive and requires ALL your energy all the time. You will no longer be able to think of yourself first, but your child. Think about it's future and what the possibilities are for you, for it, and for everyone around you.

Good, you did the right thing, you asked his opinion, but you obviously dont feel the exact same otherwise you wouldnt be asking. Go with what you want. If you cant see yourself having the abortion, then dont. ITS YOUR BODY. Yea, you might have a kid and struggle for a while to take care of it, but thats what child support is for(as long as he's not a deadbeat dad), and trust someone who's been there, an abortion is traumatic and should only be done when you have NO OTHER options. What about adoption? What about....there are so many options. You did the right thing by asking his opinion, but remember, he's not the one having the kid, you are, and if you dont want an abortion, then you dont have to get one. This is no time to choose a man over whats growing inside you. And if you do go through with it, next time you get intimate with someone, wear a condom. And if you get it because he feels so strongly about it, he should pay all the medical costs for it, and not expect you do do a damn thing...

I just had my son in May and although I thought about the option to abort, I chose not to and it was THEE BEST decision of my life. You will love your child more than anything in this world. Parenting is an awesome experience, whether you go it alone, with the baby's father, or a future significant other. Don't kill your child if you don't want to. It's your life.

I just had my son in May and although I thought about the option to abort, I chose not to and it was THEE BEST decision of my life. You will love your child more than anything in this world. Parenting is an awesome experience, whether you go it alone, with the baby's father, or a future significant other. Don't kill your child if you don't want to. It's your life.

chances are he won't stay with you even if you get that abortion. but if you have the baby, they'll be with you for life. you're right to be against abortion...it's a horrible thing. a friend of mine had an abortion, and she struggles with the guilt of it every single day. the future is uncertain, but i think you'll be happiest if you have the baby

Being honest with yourself is the only way you are going to be completely happy. If you want an abortion... get one. If you think you can handle it. It comes with a lot of emotional pain, and it sounds as if your boyfriend is already putting the pressure on you to do so. Are you doing it for him ? Or for you? Being a single parent is extremely difficult. It takes dedication and an ability to see past the stressful situation you may find yourself in. Adoption is a much more excellent option. Giving a baby to those who cannot have one is the best gift you would ever give anyone. Being a single parent is also very rewarding. It is the best thing I have ever accomplished in my life. ( I am a divorcee who's ex only sees his kids when he is supposed to. ) The unconditional love of my children makes every day bareable. I work full time, I take 3 classes in college, and I attempt to have some sort of normal life as an adult from time to time. Just because you have found yourself in the position of a pregnancy doesn't mean you need to make any irrational decisiosns.

Please make the RIGHT decision for you and your body. Best of Luck!