Question: So, I have this overwhelming fear of...

Just ask him go 4 it, i did same recently. we didnt get together but we r better mates n nw i know where i stand

Ask him, before its too late!

Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. I too am cursed with this fear of rejection.

Unfortunately, I was recently head over heels in love with this one guy. He was handsome, intelligent, funny. And, he seemed to be as into me as I was into him.
Then came college.
I stayed in High School, and he went away. We didn't stay in touch, since our feelings for eachother were kinda foggy. I think it was awkward on both of our parts.
Im finally able to spend time thinking of things other than him, but I will always regret that I never asked him, or made my feelings more clear.

teehee i know exactly how u feel! im the same way!

i know exactly how u feel! first just see if he likes you. youll be able to tell by his body language and how he talks to you. then u show him that ur interested. try to stop flirting with other boys and hang around him more than u already do. then either he'll ask you out or you'll ask him out. the worst that could happen is he says no. then you go find someone new it that happens

i always thot it was fish in the ocean???

i can fully understand your situation...i NEVER approach guys,i find it difficult just to smile at them to show some sort of interest. For me to even show any interest i usually have to get blind drunk first,and then of course only the w@#kers come running. Whats funny is...i have been talking to a new guy friend (who is absoloutely gorgeous) and he tells me that most guys have a bigger fear of the women than what the women have of them...think about most relationships...its usually about the women, and for most marriages too =p
i think you need to work on yourself first to be honest, thats my game plan anyways, obviously you have an issue that holds u back from being able to even ask friends to come along to a social gathering. cliche i know but confidence is everything....i have 2 friends...1 very pretty and the other one quite average...BUT the one thats not quite as pretty usually gets all the boys and lots of numbers...why?because she is one of the most confident people i can see when we're out, sometimes being shy can come accross as being snobby, as ive been told personally quite a few times...so im trying to make myself happy first so that i truly dont care about what anyone else thinks

i can fully understand your situation...i NEVER approach guys,i find it difficult just to smile at them to show some sort of interest. For me to even show any interest i usually have to get blind drunk first,and then of course only the w@#kers come running. Whats funny is...i have been talking to a new guy friend (who is absoloutely gorgeous) and he tells me that most guys have a bigger fear of the women than what the women have of them...think about most relationships...its usually about the women, and for most marriages too =p
i think you need to work on yourself first to be honest, thats my game plan anyways, obviously you have an issue that holds u back from being able to even ask friends to come along to a social gathering. cliche i know but confidence is everything....i have 2 friends...1 very pretty and the other one quite average...BUT the one thats not quite as pretty usually gets all the boys and lots of numbers...why?because she is one of the most confident people i can see when we're out, sometimes being shy can come accross as being snobby, as ive been told personally quite a few times...so im trying to make myself happy first so that i truly dont care about what anyone else thinks

I think you should just go for it - you've got absolutely nothing to lose and maybe something lovely to gain - you obviously get on. Don't live with the "what if's" as life's just too short for that - grab every opportunity that you can - it's the only way to grow and learn.

If you're seriously afraid of out and out asking, why not try an open ended comment. Like if you guys are talking about a movie that's coming out soon, or already in theatre's you could say something like "I really want to see that, but I hate going to the movies alone" OR you could say to him "We should go out for coffee sometime" There's no real rejection that you need to worry about from those types of things and if he's into you, he will hopefully take the bait!

Think about it. Why is this guy spending so much time hanging out with you, just you, if he doesn't like you? If he likes you enough to hang out with you all the time, chances are he definitely likes you enough to at least give dating a chance. No need to make it sound like a big deal. Start out with no pressure, just make sure he knows you like him. Subtle hints appreciated, extra long hugs will get noticed, that sort of thing. You will know soon enough whether he wants to be more than friends. Maybe ask him if he wants to grab a burger after practice.