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Posted by Anonymous on December 15, 2009 at 12:55 PM

Do you believe that marriage is really something that lasts forever? With all of the divorces we see and cheating scandals we hear about - is it possible to love and be with someone forever?

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YES! It is possible. sure, it takes work but it's possible.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on December 17, 2009 at 3:27 PM
Love is about risks, chances, and sacrifice. And neither party is willing to take or make any of those it might not last. People often think only of themselves in a relationship. And it doesn't help when in movies, T.V. shows, even commercials, and songs there's usually a point where someone cheats on their other. Because some people look at that and think "Oh...then it can't be so bad. If I make that mistake it could be worked around or it wasn't meant to be." Like brain-washing.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on December 17, 2009 at 4:09 AM
Hey anonymous from the first anonymous lol thanx for your caring comment and you are more than likely if we new one another would be one of the beautiful people in the world who would help us along with all the stuff we have gone through, just simply from knowing you and being able to chat to.As i said by writing all that bla bla we have both had to face during our marriage you can still love one another even if it is a bit battered by circumstances, i and my husband still know that if we had to be without one another because of death we would be very sad, definately but we also will know that when things got tremendously tough we still loved one another until the end and wouldnt want it any other way, we are not trying to be big heads lol but for some reason both of us have been chosen to have a difficult life and we certaainly have learnt if nothing else who our true family and friends are and that has been a great thing to know. So im sure if u have already or still haave to meet someone special in your life i guarantee you will be a wonderful keeper lots of love and many thanx for taking the time to notice my ravings xxxxxxxxxxx
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  • Posted by Anonymous on December 15, 2009 at 8:57 PM
i know it doesnt help, but i just dont know........ works for some people...... but obviously not for others....... i dont know......
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  • Posted by Anonymous on December 15, 2009 at 5:04 PM
I truly believe people can have a marriage that lasts and a love that lasts forever. I don't think we should compare our marriages with those of celebs...
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  • Posted by Anonymous on December 15, 2009 at 2:47 PM
your story brought a tear to my eye - i can't beleive that any couple should be that unlucky and still make it through okay. i truly hope your future looks up a little bit. xoxo
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  • Posted by Anonymous on December 15, 2009 at 2:34 PM
the last 6years has not really been the same man for obvious reasons we are all still a loving caring family. After awhile he lost the sight in his other eye too and so is totally blind now, It was and is still very hard on him and until only recently when technology has enabled us to find out what had caused all this to happen, unitli then no dr had any idea why his retina had died, why he had blood clots all throughout his body and other unexpected things happening to his body initially when he first went to hospital. It seems he was born with multiple cavenous haemngiomas(strawberry birth marks) all through his brain and a piece of that had broken off and gradually caused the brain haemorages,made him have a stroke and finally mde him lose his sight. Today 9years on i am his fulltime carer and have helped him through a operation to remove a tumour and also just this year major serious spinal and neck surgery, more than caused from his accident years ago. With our dreadful waiting lists for operations in the public health system he had to wait two and a half years to have this done, during this time was house bound!!! God love him after all this difficult life he has endured he now has been teaching vision impaired students over the internet in Australi, India, England and the USA to learn networking on the computer with special talking programs used by most blind people!!!!!! I have written all of our life history so far to try to say to anyone thinking about marrige and whether it will last or if it is worth risking that yes it definately is and that if you love one another enough you will get through anything and everything and after being married for almost 32years we are definately living proof. I assure you we have both had our tough times and had wondered why we even had met and have had to suffer so many difficult times and we will never know. We still battle alot financialy and live week to week but with family help and good friend help and support we have survived so far. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxgood luck in finding your perfect partner as we both have done oooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
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it definatly can be something that last forever. My parents have been married for over 30 years and still love each other you can see it just by looking at them. My grandparents were married for over 60 years and they still loved each other as well. love changes as we get older but its love and we need to understand that.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on December 15, 2009 at 2:07 PM
a time none of us have ever really gotten over totally. Luckily a little over a year later with alot of support and information geneticlly wise i delivered a healthy baby boy, yipee and it helped our other kids to get passed our sad time of our poor little son who died. Then about 5years later and out of the blue my husband had a brain heamorage and was seriously ill for about two weeks but it took about 6months to recover. It was another hairy scary time for us all but gradually got through it as much as possible. Times were financially,emotionally difficult still but we just had to plod along with things. My husband suffered dreadfull headaches after his brain trauma and again 3yrs later had another haemorrage which he luckily survived and ended up with even worse headaches to live with!!!! Four years later things were seeming to settle down and we moved to another area and a fresh start. Yep again my husband was seriously sick again. This time he suffered a stroke and was at deaths door for about 3weeks,during which time he did not remember us for awhile and also lost his sight in his right eye. My youngest son was showing signs of learning difficulties and was becoming very hard to deal with because of all this upheaval in all our lives.After 5weeks of a whole lot of medical help my hubby was coming home, sadly he didnt have much memory of our home or even our dogs amongst a whole lot of things.He was unable to walk,shower or do much for himself at all and couldnt talk very well at all. Never the less with alot of physical work from myself and older kids and alot of big discussions trying to help my husband understand everyday things again we got through it!!! I do add he was only 43yrs old and apart from all our emotional scars and dealing with a man who for at least
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  • Posted by Anonymous on December 15, 2009 at 1:44 PM
Yes and i agree it takes a lot of compromise and give and take and its very hard. My husband and i have been married since we were both 20yrs old and our first big hurdle we went through was his parents did not agree that we should get married so young and did not even come to our wedding. Eventually around 4yrs later after having nothing at all to do with them, through another family member we gradually slowly got back on friendly terms. We then went on to have our first two children then my husband had a terrible accident which was both medically, emotionally and financially devistating.He and i were 27yrs old and were facing a nightmare time. around 6yrs on things were still very difficult and i had now been working so as dean could recover and retrain at another type of career, i could only work partime as he still found his injuries affected him alot with trying to look after our 8 and 6yr old kids and found a few things very hard to do at all. Around xmas i realised i was pregnant again unexpectedly but the four of us were all happy and were looking forward to our new family member.The due date was in September and i had the worst pregnancy of all the kids sick basically for about 7 months seriously. We were going through alot of stress with deans court case about his accident and my difficult pregnancy didnt make things much easier, i basically was sick all day and night,went to work and came home and went to bed as much as i could!! We were all thinking that in amongst all this terrible time that the baby was such a wonderful surprise and also something to really look forward too. Well around 38weeks again our world was turned upside down, i ended up having an emergency csection, and gave birth to a baby boy. He died 3days later of what ended up being from a genetic blood disorder we were not aware of at the the time.Without going into all the details i can imagine you would realise what a difficult and complex time we had to deal with just
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