Question: I'm 22 and I've never had a...

I totally agree with everything she is saying ! ^
When the right man comes, you won't stand letting him go. Plus, the one who's worth it and really loves you won't give up. To be honest, the perfect man for you might be right under your nose, but your just looking too hard. A bestfriend? A family friend? Someone you work with maybe? Either way, Love can't tell time. It will happen when it should hun. :)

if you don't think any of this helps, honestly, i say stop trying to talk to them in a flirty way and start buliding friendships with guys, that way you will find out more about him and you get comfortable talking to guys. After that, you could slowly start to playfully flirt, so when another guy comes around, you have a sense on what not to do. :)

tru dat

Hey, do you remember that one movie called the 40 year old virgin? ok, now THAT is pathetic, and that dude got the girl in the end, and was a really nice guy...He was also the STAR of the show, and in the end, everyone was cheering for him, including himself!
22 IS NOT OLD. 40 IS!!!!!
besides, young guys take time to get it right anyways, and 22 is a great age!!!!!
Slow down, and enjoy yourself. Visit some popular hangouts, and hang with your age group, Love will happen! eventually, you will feel more comfortable in your skin.
good luck!

You need to remind yerself that if you can talk and carry on conversations with girls, you can carry on conversations with guys. Guys are simple (will I get flamed for this?? haha) girls are sooo much more interesting to talk to, but guys can also be sweet and comforting in a way no girl can ever be (unless yer lesbian or bi :D .)

You need to work on balancing your confidence and shyness.
Confidence is easy to pretend to have... (why do you think so many girls bleach their hair and have memberships to tanning salons year round?)

Just ease yourself into the idea that "this situation is no big deal, but HE is."
That way you don't continue to brush him off.
It's so easy to fall into a shy little girl act, but it's way more fun to speak your mind and learn through your own experience what it takes to carry on a conversation with a male (not much haha.)

Well, let me tell you something. I was the same for a very long time, but now I'm 18 and I found a great guy. Granted, he's not perfect, but he's great nonetheless. Here was the funny thing, I knew him for two years before we started dating, and honestly, I had had feelings for him since day 1, but I never let myself be with him. He was pretty persistent for a while there, always asking me out, and I would say yes and then last minute I'd back down and cancel whatever plans we had. And then one day he told me about this other girl that he kind of liked, and how even though he liked me, nothing was happening between us and he was giving up. I was okay with that though jealous at the girl and extremely upset with myself. And then one day, when I kind of got over the idea of being with him as more than a friend, he asked me to "hang out" and honestly, I must be so dumb that I actually thought he just wanted to hang out. Turns out that it was just a date, and I think in the back of my mind I knew that, but I ignored it. And then we started to hang out all the time and when he kissed me it almost sealed the deal until he asked me to be his girlfriend. Again, I almost backed out. I told him I needed to think about it, but I never really gave him an answer until on his facebook he put up the "In A Relationship with ______" thing and I had a choice to accept it or not, and I did.

But every other guy that I had really really REALLY liked before him, I had turned down. With him, it was totally different. I didn't expect anything to come out of it and I kept telling myself that I would never love him like he loved me, but we've been together for nearly 8 months now and I'm so happy that I didn't turn him down.

I think that maybe just once you should take a chance. If your mind or your body tells you don't, do the opposite (unless of course it's illegal, harmful to your body, or could get you pregnant, then you should definitely say no). There is probably a psychological reason why you continue to do what you do, and once you figure out what causes it and what it is then you could probably fix it much better. If that sounded rude, I really didn't mean it to. It's just that I'm taking a psychology class right now (my second semester) and honestly it's really helped me to understand why I am the way I am, or the possible theories why I do what I do. I'm sure that it could help with you also if you let it. But honestly, I think that you should just take a chance and don't think about it too much, as hard as that might be. It worked for me, so it might work for you too.

same here . I'm 17 and I've pretty much turned down every guy that approached me ... even guys that I seriously liked ...
And now I'm heart-broken because I think that I'm losing the one guy that has my heart :( ! A.K.A my best friend whom everyone says he has feelings for me ( and they have been saying that for a really long time now-more than 2 years-) but he keeps denying that (but i think he's lying) and i'm 2 shy 2 say anything !
So yeah I feel ur pain :(!

i eventually got a boyfriend when i stopped trying
just be yourself (and smile)

I'm almost 19 and I'm in the same situation. Guys have liked me, approached me, and I turn them down. Or if I like someone I don't really know how to show them because I keep my feelings inside. I would just say keep at it. Keep trying. Also what helps is having guy friends. It helps you know what guys like to talk about and stuff like that (even though I know that when romantic feelings are involved it's a whole different ball game).

I do exactly the same things so I know how you feel. I even made an attempt to talk to someone I was interested in, but it went badly, because I tried to act as if I didn't care. He was really great w/ me, but I didn't reciprocate. I am 18, and as much as I say I want a boyfriend....I really don't think I'm ready.

I was the worst at shutting guys out; however, they were guys I wasn't interested also. But I also never gave any of them a chance either.

"Even telling him that you're shy and not used to it will help out as well."

I agree. I did this with my first (and now still) boyfriend. I told him that I was shy and didn't keep a conversation up very well. He kept me talking throughout our entire first date. And then told me later, that in the beginning he had thought I wasn't interested at all in him cause I wasn't talking; however, he remembered my shy comment and worked to keep me talking. We haven't a problem talking now.

Take a chance. Goodluck.