Question: My boyfriend of over a year now...

My boy has mentioned stuff about his ex's before, at first I really didn't mind, but then I met the ex he did the most with. I've never been truely jealous until that day. I like that I don't see her much since she's an old high school gf. He used to ask me if I would do things and then explain that he had tried it with her. I got a little hot-headed and finally admitted I didn't like that he said things like that. He understood; however, since then, I've never really cared if he mentions her or any of his ex's. I realized I was being silly, but he has pretty much ceased to mention any of them, so all is good.

The take home message: Talk to him about it. Most guys don't realize what upsets their girls. Mine didn't. He was totally surprised that it upset me.

Have you ever considered sitting him down and talking about how it makes you feel? I know we as women are afraid of a man's reaction...and what would run through his head if we admit we are jelouse...and the thoughts such as "Will he think i am being to clingy or naggy?" run through our heads instead.
I think its time to ask him if he is still in love with her...i know its a painful question but you can't put yourself into his ex's shadow for the rest of your relationship...its only going to make you weak and vulnerable.
Communication is key. Instead of going to your girls...go to your man. He's the one who needs to give you advice...about the situation.
Okay? No girlfriend should be positioned to be catty jelouse feline preying on every woman her man talks about...

Anyone who says its not worth it is stupid!! TALK TO HIM, so many girls dont TALK to their boyfriends. You gotta tell him STRAIGHT up i dont like it when you talk about your ex, so don't. Guys dont take hints very well and you gotta be straight up.

My boyfriend does that, he used to do everything for his ex and doesn't do anything for me. It does my head in. I tried talking to him about it and he says that he does stuff for me that he never did for her. It passes though, he doesn't really do it anymore, if you love him and he loves you then I wouldn't worry. He will eventually forget about her, there not together anymore so it obviously didn't work out. You'll just have to be patient if he's worth it, otherwise find someone new! :D

i don't know how u can pass this knid of emotion.my bf of 6 months used to date my BEST FRIEND!!!!!!!!! can u imagine that?????????? for a while there were issues between us but nw i think it is over for her.my bf and my best friend are nw bk to be close friends and sometimes this gets me agitated and i feel jealous when i feel that they r close to each other with me outside the loop:s.i can't tell u how to get over these feelings except that u should try to talk to ur bf and tell him about what gets u jealous. and best of luck!!!!!!!!

Really, the best thing you can do is to just let it go. Obviously things didn't work out between the two of them, so you have no reason to get worried or upset over it. You two may be in love, but it may also take him a while to get to that point with you.

my husband had a relationship before me with a married woman, and it pisss me off to hear what kind of things they did together or things he planned or things she did for him. i sat him down and i told him that it hurts me that he would do that stuff for her but not for me and that i did not want to hear anymore about her. at first that did not work, so i did what he did. i told him things i had planned or done with previous ex boyfriends that i havent done or planned with him... he got the hint.