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Posted by Anonymous on January 19, 2010 at 1:01 AM

Does age matter when it comes to relationships? I recently met a guy who's about 8 years older than me and I really like him but I just feel like he's a lot older than me.

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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 29, 2010 at 6:03 PM
I'm going to have to agree with what other people are saying, it depends on what age you are at the moment (do make sure its legal, that helps. lol). You two may be on very different levels psychically and emotionally, which would make a relationship more difficult. This is not always the case, sometimes people can connect through whatever! In my opinion, as long as he doesn't treat you like "you're so much younger than me, so that makes you completely ignorant" I think it should go just fine. :)
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 29, 2010 at 6:03 PM
I'm going to have to agree with what other people are saying, it depends on what age you are at the moment (do make sure its legal, that helps. lol). You two may be on very different levels psychically and emotionally, which would make a relationship more difficult. This is not always the case, sometimes people can connect through whatever! In my opinion, as long as he doesn't treat you like "you're so much younger than me, so that makes you completely ignorant" I think it should go just fine. :)
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 26, 2010 at 12:36 PM
It's different for every couple but really it just comes down to maturity. My husband is almost ten years older than me and right now we don't feel like there's any sort of difference or huge gap between us because intellectually and emotionally we are on similar levels. My grandmother's husband is 7 years older than her and she says they didn't start to feel the age difference until they were in to their 70s =]
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 20, 2010 at 2:58 PM
it depends how old you are but if he is interested in you and you aren't too young than go for it ! it's fine.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 19, 2010 at 11:24 AM
If it feels right, give it a shot. I'm actually older than my bf by 4 years (I'm 28 and he's 24) but no one can really tell the difference (sadly I look like I'm 19 lol) you can't always second guess things, or else you miss out. If you feel uncomfortable with it, then don't force yourself. THat can cause issues. However, if you like him a lot and seriously don't think about the age when you're with him, then why not?
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My fiance and I were talking about this last night. I am 19 and he is 23. I asked him if he ever thought our age difference was weird and he said "no, it's just a number. i love who you are."
It just depends.. I say give it a shot! Good luck! :)
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 19, 2010 at 9:31 AM
I'm 21, and my boyfriend is turning 25 in June. I couldn't be happier about our relationship, and it seems like we're the same age sometimes.

Everyone else is right about the maturity point. All that matters is that you love each other and that you're both as mature as each other.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 19, 2010 at 7:42 AM
It's true. It's all about maturity level, and it's all about the guy.

When I was 20, I met a guy through some friends, and we instantly clicked. Only... He was 36. The friends that we'd met through had no problem with the age gap because they could tell we were a perfect fit. Other friends of mine who had not met him, as well as my parents, were absolutely /mortified/. After a while, everyone started to warm up to our being together because they realized what a great guy he was and how great we were together. I act a deal older than I am, and he never quite outgrew his inner child; sometimes people mistake who's the older of the two of us.
Moral is, had I balked at the idea of dating an older man, or given in when others told me I was making a mistake... Years later... I wouldn't be happily married with a wonderful son. Trust your instincts and let others form their own opinions, not yours. If you believe in him, and believe in a relationship between you two, GO FOR IT! :D
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 19, 2010 at 7:16 AM
It varies with person to person. I'm a mature 21 year old ( I know. Rare.) so, I wouldn't be surprised if I dated a guy quite a bit older than me, but for me personally I probably wouldn't go more than 15 years. Me, personally, I don't want to date a guy who's old enough to be my father, because that's just creepy. In the end, it all depends on the person and what they believe.

Although, I do find Gerard Butler pretty sexy, so, I would date him, but that would be pushing it since he's 20 years.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 19, 2010 at 3:32 AM
im dating 35y guy and im 20y and we are cool...being older is agood thing cuz he knows life better..i always asking him if i need help..besides with him i dont feel he's older...if you really like him listen to your heart and forget ur mind :D..just be happy...GD Luck
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