Question: I really need some advice. My new...

first off everyone is beautiful in their own way and always tell yourself that everyone feels ugly at sometime but you can write out what you like the most about yourself on sticky notes and post them all around your mirror. don't linger on the things you hate but accentuate what you love about yourself. no one is super smart and that's why you learn your entire life. you can never learn everything but what you do learn you can surprise yourself with. instead of comparing yourself to others, look at pictures of your family and see how little things like the shape of your eyes or nose has been passed down throughout generations. Everyone is beautiful and don't let anyone tell you otherwise and if they do theyre just jealous. Stay strong

i used to feel the same way! i like my self now. you really have to belive in your self..coz theres no one else like you out there :) + if you find anyone that hates you.. Jealous lol !

I have struggled for many many years with this same thing. I hated myself. When I was a kid, I even hated how my toes looked so bad that in the summer time when I walked around bare foot, if there were people around, I would actually curl my toes under and I actually learned to walk that way even though it was painful, it was better then people seeing my toes. Now, I am 37. My toes arean't ugly and they never were but my mom used to tease me about them for some reason and I applied the ugliness to them, in my mind and it actually affected me in a bad way. Now, my mom shouldn't have made fun of my toes but I know she didn't intend to make me feel so awkward. Now that was just supposed to be a short intro but it turned out a little longer. For most of my life, I would have guys tell me I was pretty and even beautiful but in my mind, I knew I was not and that they were just saying that so they might get me to sleep with them. Unfortunatly I did do that a lot because it made me feel pretty and better about myself. At least at first but now, all these years later. Boy do I regret that behavior but it was never about wanting the sex, it was about feeling if someone wants me then I have to be hot. I was very naive. That behavior actually later added to my low self esteem. It is such a horrible cycle when you look for things beyond yourself to see the beauty within yourself. Forget about looks for a bit and list all of the nice things you have done in your life for others, even just babysitting or helping someone pick up their books. Think about when it's springtime and you smell the lillacs, it's such a beautiful smell. Think of yourself as a living part of this world that fragrances those who come in contact with you. You are a unique person and I am sure you have affected many people in a positive way and have been a good friend to someone. Those qualities alone, make a person beautiful. Take some time and soak in a hot bath. Lay your head back, close your eyes and just feel the warmth caressing your body, allow all of your muscles to relax and try to clear your mind of negative thoughts. If your having a hard time, just either say it softly out loud or in your mind, the word "peace" just keep repeating it, it will help keep your brain from thinking. Once you have allowed yourself to relax, lift your arm up and look at your wet skin and it's little hairs. Notice any little beauty marks or spotting and think, hey, this is me, this is unique to me. You have to delv deep into yourself to find your own sense of beauty and when you do, it will show and other people will see it!! After your bath, wrap up in a towel and go stand and put your face real close to the mirror and look deep into your eyes. At a point it will almost feel uncomfortable but try to keep looking deep within your eyes and know that you deserve to be happy in the skin you are in. It is really weird to look in the mirror like that, without actually seeing yourself but almost seeing within yourself. before you stop, pull your focus out and look at your pupil and then the color from your pupil on out. whatever color your eyes are, actually look and see how you almost can see a mountain range in there. It's really cool and a beautiful thing. Next, smile at yourself, even if you don't mean it and tell yourself that you are one of a kind and you, no matter what you look like on the outside, ARE beautiful. There is no one else like you and you know your stregths and you need to start boldly using them! I always used to be shy, let everyone else call the shots, follow them all around, never let my ideas be known. You need to take that step and the more you do it, the more confident you will become and the more beautiful you will feel because instead of feeling trapped within, you are giving yourself a voice and even if in appearance you are the most beautiful woman, you will never feel it until you find your voice and use it. Now lastly, take a pen and a pad of paper. Write your whole name down the paper. One letter on each line. Skip a line and do the same with your middle and then your last name. Lay in bed or somewhere comfortable and don't try to "think" too much but just start going down the list of letters and put positive words next to them like if your name is linda write
L oviing
I nteresting
N ice
D aring
A mazing

I know this sounds like a simple little task but once you do it with one letter, develop it into a poem, your own unique poem.

I know I have rambled on but I hope in some way this helps..
I don't know you but I know you are unique and special!! Take care!!

Those are really good ideas! You wanna know what I do?
I post little sticky notes around my mirror, saying good things about me, or little quotes that inspire me.
Try this one:
"You don't burn out from going too fast. You burn out by going too slow and getting bored."
So have fun! No one cares if some guy didn't talk to you. They're probably secretly gay, or SUPER nervous. :)
You should talk to THEM first! :}}

For starters act confidently, even if you aren't down inside. People are attracted to confidence and when you exhibit it, they respond to you. Also, this may be a bit shallow, but I used to work as a bartender in a sports bar and every shift I either had some guy(s) giving me his phone number or they'd throw a compliment my way. Newly being single when I started working there, this really boosted my ego. After a year of it, I actually got tired of getting hit on! If you don't want to work at a bar (which can be very good money, especially in this economy when jobs are scarce) go to the bar as a patron. Go with one girlfriend and smile a lot, shows you're open to talk. Going with a pack of girls is intimidating for guys and don't go with guy friends either. Getting hit on, even if you're not interested, is very self-reassuring. Hope this helps!

My boyfriend gets low and 'unselfconfident' alot of the time. so what i made him do now is write all the bad stuff about him on a list, and all good things. The list with the bad things. we burnt it. so they are gone. (:

Everyone has their own beauty. I thought for a very long time that I was ugly (I was a pretty awkward high-schooler), and that, along with my general anger at the world, made me a unattractive person. It wasn't anything physical; it was because I lacked confidence and had a bad attitude.

If you don't have confidence, fake it until you do. Confidence makes you glow, and really helps with how you feel about yourself.
If you want something new to try, go for a haircut or some new clothes. Try something that you've never tried before, but that will flatter you.
If you see a guy checking you out, take it as a compliment. It really does help, knowing that someone is attracted to you. Even the geeky check-out boy at the grocery store works. Trust me, he doesn't have lower standards than the hot guy at the gym. They all just have different tastes.
Go on some dates, if you aren't in a relationship. If you are in a relationship, revel in it. Remember that someone thinks you're beautiful. Having others love you helps you love yourself.
Go out and do things you always wanted to do, but never have before. It will make you proud of yourself, and generally happier.
Put your focus on your work (be it school or a career), and excel. Knowing that you are intelligent and driven is just as important--if not more so--than knowing you are beautiful.

Regardless of how I feel about myself every morning when I wake up.. I make myself point out a positive when I am done getting ready for the day. One compliment... if I see more than one.. I tell myself those too. It's amazing what one little good comment about yourself can do. The 50 things on a list idea is brilliant..but sometimes it's hard to be that detailed about yourself on short notice. Best of luck..and to all of us here.. We are beautiful & like the above mentioned.. precious. We must not lose sight of this. :) Be Strong.. and let yourself Love you.

ok hun here goes, please don't take this the wrong way because you are meant to take this on as a positive comment. There will always be someone prettier, smarter, slimmer than you. There will always be someone richer, more succesful and more able than you. But that does not mean that you are not pretty, or smart or succesful or any of the above. You are unique and there is only one you in the world. That is precious, you are precious so never lose sight of that. Life is too short to worry about petty things like this, so live your life, enjoy every single moment and remember that you are beautiful.

I can honestly say that this frame of mind and constantly reminding myself of the above has helped me when I'm feeling down.

Hope this helps.

Wish I could help, but I'm in the same boat right now. Tried doing a list of things I liked about myself...it didn't help all that much. Tried the smiling in the mirror deal...and realized that wow, I look really, really creepy when I smile! XD Any other ideas, ladies?