GirlsGuideTo | Question: So my friends have set me up...

So my friends have set me up with this guy after I've been single for 9 months, he's nice and funny and I feel so comfortable with him (means a lot to me) but I feel absolutely no attraction there, in fact I don't really want to be seen as a couple in public with him yet. Will the attraction grow? In the meantime I feel I've been leading him on, I gave him a kiss after several dates, but it does nothing for me. Ok so my self-esteem has been steadily increasing but should I throw in my lots and accept what I'm being offered now or should I keep waiting (possibly for ages) for Mr Right or at least someone else that cares for me?

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Posted by Fallow on February 5, 2010 at 6:50 PM

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It sounds like you've been with the guy for a while. If there's nothing after several dates, don't pursue it any further. Cause if there isn't any by now, there most likely wont be. How fair is that to him?

Posted by Segun Yakubu on February 3, 2010 at 4:04 AM

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Well, I’ll advise u to follow ur mind. If you know that both of you don't worth seeing together then there are some discrepancy between the both of you which need to be fix and if not possible u have to let go of him. Because there is no manage in a relationship neither it will finally lead to breakup which will lead you to serious pain.
“There is only one way you can severely torment your heart”, i.e. by going through heart break. So think wisely before going any relationship.

Posted by Anonymous on February 3, 2010 at 2:01 AM

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I personally think you should give him a shot. Although, you feel no attraction it doesn't meant there will be no attraction. Maybe, you just have to get to know him more before you actually start to like him.

This happened to me before. At first there was no attraction between me and this guy. And, later on, after spending a lot of time hanging out with him and such I can't stop thinking about him.

I'm not guarenteeing that it'll work out. But, just give it a shot. You never know what you like until you've tried it.

I Hope my advise helped you in some way.
Good Luck. :D

Posted by Mandy Wright on February 3, 2010 at 1:23 AM

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Don't feel like you need to "just accept what you've been offered" just because you've been single for 9 months. Being too anxious is not good for either person. Maybe you will like him and maybe you never will, but you shouldn't force it if it's not meant to be. You could both get hurt that way. Sometimes, when we stop looking is when the right one walks in. Don't be too anxious and be content with your current singlesness.

Posted by Anonymous on February 3, 2010 at 1:07 AM

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In my experience, attraction is either there or it isn't. There's no inbetween and I've never had is "grow" after getting to know a guy. If you feel like you don't want to be seen with him as a couple then pretty much there's you're answer - no matter how great he is, he's not the guy for you.

Posted by Anonymous on February 3, 2010 at 12:39 AM

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i would give him a chance. the best relationships have that "comfort". it gives stability to the relationship which opens up many doors such as trust and honesty. if you feel comfortable with him then you can always depend on him and never have to worry about how loyal he is to you.