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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and recently he has been planning to move into his own place and he keeps asking me to move in with him and I keep evading the question because I don't know what to say. He's 22 and I'm 21 and I'm betting it's about time for me to consider moving out of my parents place. I asked him why he wanted me to move in and he said it's what he wanted and it would be something interesting to do. I love him and would like to move in but at the same time I'm scared and have my doubts like if things don't work out then what do I do? Also I know my parents probably wouldn't approve of this much at all. At the same time I'm 21 and able to make decisions for myself I just need some advice on what to do and if it's a good thing to consider doing?

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Posted by Anonymous on April 12, 2010 at 6:26 PM

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I think 6 months is quite soon to move in together. It's really sweet of him that he wants that but living together is entirely different from seeing each other once or a few times a week. You learn to know each other on a different level. This can be a good AND a bad thing. You'll get to know his annoying sides(and he'll get to know yours ;-) ), which everyone has but you'll grow closer to him too. It's possible that you're ready to do that but it's up to you. There's no minimal time you have to be in a relationship to move in together, it just depends on your relationship I think...Think it over a while, talk to him about it. ;-) I do think that your parents should let you do as you want, you're able to choose whether you want it or not, it's not their decision. Probably they like to keep you at home for a little longer. :P But you're an adult and entitled to your own life so it's your choice. Good luck whatever you decide!

Posted by Anonymous on April 8, 2010 at 6:07 AM

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what do you have to lose? if things dont work out its not like you cant move back in with your parents...you could even get a place of your own or something. the big things in life are worth taking risks for...is this big enough to take a risk? :) it will probably be awkward at first, but after you get used to seeing him 24/7 i'm sure you'll be fine. you have to have more faith in yourself hun. or you arent going to be able to do anything without second guessing yourself.

Posted by Anonymous on April 7, 2010 at 5:55 PM

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it's your decision. i moved in with my bf of 6 months it's been great so far but ultimately you have to make the right decision.
make sure you don't regret it later!

Posted by Anonymous on April 7, 2010 at 4:38 PM

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talk to him about it.. and if you both feel confident about it, hey. your old enough to make decisions, and if you truly love him, then go for it.

Posted by Marie Nichols on April 7, 2010 at 3:39 PM

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You have the most to lose if it fails so make sure u really think it out first. Some people are worth taking the risk for...you gotta figure out if he is. But be careful sometimes you think moving in with someone can bring you both closer but sometimes it does the opposite.

Posted by Bridget Cooper on April 7, 2010 at 3:12 PM

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If you're really unsure about than don't move in with him. There will always be other chances, and if he loves you he will understand that. On the other hand, moving out because you're 21 is not so easy anymore. With the way the economy is, kids are staying home until much later ages these days. But, if you're cool with it, than move in, it's not like your parents are going to banish you from ever returning if things don't work out.