Question: My fiance and I have been together...
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Posted by Anonymous on April 8, 2010 at 3:15 AM
My fiance and I have been together for 3 years. We broke up at the beginning of our 3 year mark because, mutually, we felt that we wanted to experience life with other people. Turns out that he was able to move on and started hanging out with this other girl, while I was finding it extremely hard to move on. Then three weeks after we broke up, he called me and told me that he couldn't do it. He couldn't live without me. I find it so hard to believe that because he was messing around with someone else only a few days after we broke up. They never had sex, and they don't even talk anymore, but after we got back together, things changed. We used to fight ALL the time and, thankfully, we don't as much anymore. BUT we don't communicate as much either. If I ask him a question, he gives me short answers and I feel so distant from him. I don't know if he really did miss me, but he sure has a funny way of showing it. I try talking to him and telling him that we need to work on our relationship TOGETHER, but he thinks he is trying and gets upset. I don't know how to talk to him about it without him getting mad anymore. Is there any way I could possibly hint it to him, but not subtly because he will never catch on haha. I love him more than anything, but I wish he would step back and see that he really isn't trying that hard. It feels like it's all on me and I have no idea how to get him to realize that. Thanks.
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We ended up getting back together and just recently are taking a break, and in the last month it's gotten physical between another guy and myself. It honestly finally took that for me to be able to let go what he did with that other girl during our break up because, experiencing it myself, you have to understand it was purely physical and guys are built very differently than girls are. They're taught to move on and not deal with stuff or dwell on it, whereas we overanalyze everything. So take it from someone whose still very much in love with my ex but has had a physical relationship with another guy recently. Whatever happened with the other girl did not mean to him what being with you did.
He is probably short with you & doesn't communicate because he's afraid of feeling guilty or afraid maybe that you'll start an argument. You have to find a way to tell him how you feel in a non-threatening way and talk things out calmly.
Longest post ever but I'm going through something so similar so I get what you're going through. Hope this helps :)
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