Question: I cheated on my boyfriend of 6...

Dont go, its obviously a mess and not worth the time. no one deserves to be cheated on, and when it comes to that the relationship is over. find someone you care enough about to treat with respect, and stop being a hypocrite, saying hes being disrespectful ater what you did to him.

Hey everyone makes mistakes. You had a 6yr relationship with your ex and I think it's pretty normal to still feel connected to him. You're right in taking responsibility for your actions regardless of your reasons for doing it. When your BF said he'd work through it and then breaks up with you....it sounds fishy to me. Maybe he really can't deal with it and doesn't want to try and think about it so he's pushing it away and possibly you along with it. The fact you guys still talk is great =) the fact he's being an asshole about it isn't so great. I mean he still wants to have sex w/o strings attached. He doesn't want commitment but he still likes the physical things.

I don't know if you should bother with him any more to tell you the truth. Yeah you cheated ok...it's over and done with now. Yes I'm sure he's hurt among other things. And yeah it was wrong of you to cheat. But what right does he have to lord things over you about not wanting expectations but inviting HIS ex around his parents for the weekend. I think that's his way of getting even with you and showing you "what it's like" bullshit game. If he cared about you like I'm sure he's professed over and over in the past...what is one mistake against you when I'm sure he's made his mistakes also? I don't think his behavior towards you is respectful at all. I think he's trying to insult you by wanting his cake and eating it too. He wants sex with you but he also wants to hurt you and make you feel horrible for what you did.

Now you have to ask yourself....Is that the kind of man you really want? The one who plays games and tries to get even regardless of who's fault it is? Makes you feel bad and then rubs it in even more just because you had a lapse in judgment? I wouldn't want that kind of man in my life no matter what he was like before. It's going to be hard and it's going to hurt...and yeah it's life but you live and learn, sweetheart. I'm sorry he's being such a dick about it..I really am...and I wish I could give you a hug to make you feel better.

I think you need to think hard about what you want in your love life and in your future. Good luck sweetheart I hope it works out. If you need to chat look me up on skype at laberynthmaiden =)

I'd say cut ties, for the most part. I know it's painful, but you did something that you can't take back, and continuing to see him is only going to make things worse. He's going to continue to be reminded of what you did, and continue to seek revenge in ways that won't help either of you. If you want to remain friends, I would even suggest taking a few months' break from talking to him so much.

If he invited you, then told you not to come, and is just pulling your chain like that, you shouldn't even mess with it. Tell him that you're sorry, but given the circumstances, you don't think you should go. If another time comes up where he is being less resentful, you might take the chance to go sort things out with him.

The only reason why I say to go is to just tie up loose ends and make the break in person rather than over skype.

It's pretty clear to me that he doesn't want to be with you anymore because he doesn't fully trust you anymore.

While his actions might be viewed as "disrespectful" or "childish", do you really blame him? You cheated on him with your ex, and now he's hanging out with his. If they were really friends before hand you really have nothing to be complacent about.

You got yourself into this, you know that, but to fully take responsibility for what happened, you might have to let go of something you love.

Just walk away babe, I understand a cheating predicament and you taking full responsibility for it, but with the way he's acting. He's wanting to torture you from what I reading, I know you love him but if he wants to dance over your mistake in this kind of fashion, just walk away and don't look back.

No way. Don't do it. Long distance relationships are a waste if time anyway since most of the time they don't work. Then, the guy seems to still be hurt by the cheating. And if you Really loved him you wouldn't have cheated. Plain and simple. Cut the ties and move on. Being in love with no respect and have cheated can not be easy to come back from. If you bought tickets to go visit him I hope he has a nice spa on the other side of town. Go there, check in to a hotel and have a relaxing spa weekend to yourself. And Do Not call him. Take this time to refresh yourself. And don't cheat!!!!

you should go coz u need to face him u r the one who cheated so face its results..... should have never cheated him but since u did u need to carry all the results u r needed to...

Don't go. Yes you made a mistake but if he's going to hold this over your head forever then all it's going to do is continue to hurt you. Not to mention, if it was me I'd have a hard time going there after being told to have no expectations. It may be painful for you right now not to go but it will be much more painful for you to keep this dragging on.

i would visit him, but, as he asked, with no expectations. talk to him, try to clear this.
but, before you go, decide what you want, what you would most like to happen........
and, honestly, in some ways, i think he's right. he might be being "disrespectful" but its also likely hes in reaction to your cheating. its not suprising, cut him some slack. you say your taking full responsibility for your actions........ and i guess this is part of the results of your actions.

so yes, i would say go, but be prepared for anything that may happen, and be aware youve both been through a pretty rough patch, and that some of the actions might actually be "reactions"

best of luck....... hope it works out for the best for both of you