Question: Do you believe in cutting off all...

My ex and I wanted to stay friends once we broke up, because we were very good friends before we hooked up. We gave each other some space after our break up: a month or two. When we eventually did start hanging out as friends again, it felt strange. We had to respect each other's boundaries - ie. don't try to get back together, don't flirt with other people in front of each other, stay off hard topics. I had a long, intimate chat with him about what went wrong once we'd had our away period. We handled it like adults. We gave each other confidence, and I think we're better friends. We said very little bitter words to each other. I did call him a few nasty things, but I apologised later, quite heartfelt, and said it was out of anger. So now, we can hang out again - just the two of us as friends. Before that we were hanging out as part of a group, which made it easier to see each other. At times we would discuss our feelings, but it would be in private and away from our group of friends. It took some time to get over it, but I am dating other guys now (no sex) and it has helped me get over him. It will be a while before I am over the sex with my ex before I can start comfortably enjoying sex again with anyone else. I don't discuss ,my private life with my ex and he doesn't with me either.

yes! Please cut off communication with the ex! If you don't you'll have problems with your new relationship, and you'll cause them unwanted heartache especially if that ex is crazy and still has feelings for you. ( My BF didnt cut off communication, and didnt believe me until his ex tried to sleep with him - literally snuck into his room and woke him up out of a dead sleep to try and seduce him when i wasnt around) Granted most ex's arent that crazy, but when your in a new relationship, you got to ask yourself how thats going to make them feel if your still talking to an ex? I know it made me feel horrible, for years. Sadly i'm still dealing with it. My biggest advice is put yourself in your new significant others shoes and ask yourself how they would feel if you continued talking to them? or how you would feel if they continued talking to their ex? Whats it really doing for you anyway? You cant move on from the relationship if your still holding onto the past. food for thought.

Yes, you cannot move on and forward by including the old in your life. Any normal new man in your life will not like you talking to your ex anyway. It just isn't healthy for the grieving process for that relationship or the process of moving on with a new man.

I think you can absolutely be actual friends with an ex! Take for example, my current friend and ex (let's call him person A). I became friends with person A for a bit before we went out, because I was interested and wanted to get to know him better. We went out. I broke up with him. For a bit, we didn't really talk much, but eventually we started talking and texting again. He asks me for the "girl's POV" on stuff like relationships, and it's actually fun helping him, even if it can be a little weird at times. I just suppress the weirdness. We hang out and it's great; I really am happy we can still be friends.

It all depends on the circumstances in which you broke up. I know of many friends who remain great friends after their relationship failed. In my case however, continuing communication only served to hurt me and gratify my ex-boyfriend.

In either case of harmonious or hostile relationship end, it is best if you give yourself one month to learn to live without your ex-partner.

me and my ex just barely broke up like a few weeks ago, and i've really been trying to be friends with him.. but i think he's offended that i got over him so quickly.. so, i would suggest waiting a few weeks (possibly even months) before you even try to be friends again. but, don't avoid him alltogether, just go through your regular routine how you would anyway, and if you run into him, then at least make eye contact. Don't avoid him alltogether, that's what he's doing to me and it just makes me feel like crap. i'm sure guys are the same.. maybe.. :/ but anyways, just make a routine for yourself that doesn't completly cut him out, but don't like stalk him, either! hope my ramblings made at least SOME sense.. :)

Yes, I believe in no communication. If you've broken up, the time for talking has already passed. I think the reason people keep talking is they don't really want the relationship to be over. Talking makes it harder to move on..

Yes, I do also. Whether its a clean break, or a bad one. You need time to come to terms with it alone. Maybe eventually you can be friends, or something, But you have to heal first.

Yes I do. You need that time to heal emotionally, especially if the break was clean. You both need a little time to get yourselves back together. If the break was clean and there were no hard feelings about what had happened, after awhile, you can start up communications again, but you have to be sure that you are OVER the person first.