Question: I NEED HELP WITH MY BOYFRIEND. He...

Thanks!!! It really does work to just take a few steps back and give them the space that they need. It might feel like you're suffocating them. And if you continuously talk to him about it, it will drive him crazy and will only push him further away. So go out and do stuff. If he knows that you're just waiting around for him to come to you and give you what you want, it will never happen. Guys prefer chasing after a girl. It gets boring after so long when they get you and then you give it all to them. Hold back some and be mysterious. He'll love it!

Sounds like you hit on something girl! Men don't like clingy women anymore than women like clingy men. However, here is something to think about. We women tend to spend a lot of time and energy trying to figure how what to do to get men to love us, pay attention to us, want us, marry us, notice us....blah blah blah. WHY IS IT ALL ABOUT WHAT THEY WANT? Why? because we make it that way-we give them the power. Get busy with your friends and your life. Stop wasting time trying to figure them out and you find a guy who respects you for being a women who has a life and interests of her own.

you GO girl!

I'm having the same problem but on top of it all I'm also pregnant by him...

So I was going through this with my boyfriend also not too long ago. I eventually started doing the same thing to him. I would ignore his phone calls or texts and go out with my girls. I would act like I didn't care...or should I say, like a man. After about a week of "reverse psychology," everything went back to normal. Actually, it's been better than it was before. Like I earned his respect.

Me and my boyfriend have been through this and continue to go through this ... it all depends on the guy and how he shows his love. With my guy, when we are together he drowns me in as much love as he can ... but when we are apart he bairly shows me anything. This is because to him it doesn't feel real or have the same meaning when saying "I love you" in text. I think that all relationships go through this to some degree ... communication is key, talk with your man! Let him know how you feel, if you are in it for the long haul and really love him then it will all work out ... eventually.

I had the same problem. Something in my boyfriend at the time just changed and after not seeing him for a two months when I came to see him he took a nap then went out with his buddies all night who he'd been hanging with for those entire 2 months. I broke up with him but it wasn't a clean break-up because he could always convince me that he wanted to be with me then ignore me again. I should have just ended it but instead I let it drag out. Now that I've told him it's completely over he wants to get back with me and change. It's obviously lies.

In short, there is a fine line in a guys mind between being a good girlfriend and being "clingy". For every guy it's different and it seems like your guy can't deal with your own personal degree of "cling". It seems to me like he's only with you because he hasn't found someone else yet (typical guy pattern). If he doesn't love you for who you are and what you do naturally he isn't even worth paying attention to!

I have this same problem, and it drives me up the wall. But contrary to the Anonymous comment above, my boyfriend and I are long distance. And when he's so unattentive, it really does not give me much faith in our relationship. Anyway, I also go through the same cycle as you, Original Poster. I'll bring it up, say I feel lonely or something, and he showers his love upon me. Then it'll slide back into crapiness. I don't even think he realizes what he's doing. So I would suggest to you that you have a serious talk with him and make him realize that this bothers you a lot (if he's similar to my bf in that he doesn't realize..). Wake him up! Hope all goes well :)

i'm having the same problem... been with my man almost 2 years. we've been living together the whole time. it's weird, he used to "care", used to txt, used to hug and kiss me, hardly fought, was always nice, we used to have a lot more sex than we do currently. it just all seems different now. i think it could be that we don't spend enough time apart to appreciate actually spending time together. i suggest you talk to him about it and if he doesn't come through with some answers - move on. don't waste your time with somebody who doesn't seem to want to give you the "time of day" to give you the attention that you deserve in the relationship.

maybe he's going through some emotional stuff - guys aren't good with emotional things i've noticed. how long has this been going on for? how long have you been together for? it depends on alot of things. just talk to him. about everything.

maybe he's going through some emotional stuff - guys aren't good with emotional things i've noticed. how long has this been going on for? how long have you been together for? it depends on alot of things. just talk to him. about everything.