Question: Hi Ladies! First off let me say...

I'm 22 and a virgin, but I haven't really had a problem with it. I've dated five guys, and only one of them I actually wanted to have sex with, but didn't, and then later, when I said I was considering sleeping with him, he wouldn't let me, because he knew I wanted to wait until I got married. Such a good guy. :)

I don't even really date anyone, because I think it's a bit meaningless until I find my soulmate, and I don't think I need to be with a bunch of guys in the mean time. I just live my life knowing we'll either meet or we won't, and whatever happens, being happy is the most important thing.

Ahhhhh! I love that you are a 23 year old virgin! I am a 20 year old virgin! I am also the only one of my friends who is a V. And darn proud of it! I am also waiting for marriage/the right guy who won't love me and leave me, hit it and quit it, wam, bam, thank you mam, you know? I love myself too much for that. I have 3 female friends.

1. Only had sex with her first (16, and 16) once and never spoke to him again, they were both virgins and she claims to have no emotional attachment to him. She has lost count of her partners.

2. Was dating her first (15 and 16). Had sex with him a couple of times later. He already had sex, broke up with her about 3 mts after the sex. She still had feelings for him until she met this piece of crap she is dating now. She has also lost count of the men she has had sex with.

3. She was raped at 15, counts in as her first time (I don't). Had sex a year later with her boyfriend at 16, he was 16 as well, she took his virginity. She has had sex with 5 guys and had no emotional attachment to any of them.

I know how I am which is the main reason I do not want to lose my virginity to the first guy who ask. I KNOW I will feel an emotional attach, and I do not want to be like my friends and try to fill the void of the gone guy by having sex with upteen partners, losing count. To me, that is not caring about yourself. There are too many STDs out there NOT to know who you have had sex with. When I DO lose my virginity, I will get checked WITH him, and take the proper precautions to prevent pregnancy and most preventable STDs.

But when my friends do talk about sex, I will usually ask them questions really. I want to be informed as much as possible when that time comes. Book educated as well as friends experiences. If they do talk about something I know (oral, hand jobs etc.) then I will usually partake in the conversation so I can tell my experiences and can get advice to improve my skill.

With you being a 23 year old virgin, what have you done with your guys to "keep them" sexually?

I can definitely relate. I think there's a lot of pressure to be sexually active. And we're not always ready for it. I think you should wait until you're ready and completely comfortable, whether that's a 23 or 43. If you make it clear you're uncomfortable discussing anything, true friends will respect that. :)

Girl I can completely relate!!! All my best friends have done something with a guy while I've only kissed a guy before. But just jump into the conversation with them. They can give you some pretty good advice about it and jank. But don't regret wanting to wait. All my girls have all said that they wish they had. But if really aren't comfortable with them talking about sex ask them to stop or change the subject :)

I think you need to consider the emotional side to it too. You get way more attached with sex or the guy does and you hurt him. Sucks your friends are all knocked up, but pretty much all but two of my friends are sexually active and have been for years and are not knocked up. That is a lazy that that most people chose. Either not having the pill or because sex without a condom feels better. One of the two. They should make better choices! And I DEFINATELY don't regret not waiting. I lost it to my best friend. And I had sex with guys who turned out to use me or guys who weren't good at it. In the end it clarified who really loved me and who didn't.

Girl i'm 2o and a virgin...and it is hard!! Saving yourself is going to be the most tough decision you will have to make before you are married...the world puts it this way that casual sex is a normal thing...and porn has been premiered freely on sites...IT ruins relationships.

Sex doesnt make anything better...its all lust...and it messes with your mind. I've had friends who were sexually active, and half of them are pregnant or mothers of like 3 kids from different daddies! You need to find yourself first and explore other fields other than sexuality.

If sex is all that your friends talk about...then maybe you should tell them how it makes you feel uncomfortable...and if they can't make it easier on you..then you need to find some better friends.

I've been placed in situations where i wanted to have sex with my boyfriend...but...i have to think about the consquences of it...and for myself...if i do it once...i'll want to do it again...and it will get casual..and before i know it...i'll have sex with every guy i date cuz i'll feel like i need to do it order to make the relationship keep its sparks.

Don't put yourself through that. WAIT. You are making the right choice.

Yeah... I'm definately not a virgin, but two of my best friends are and they are 25 and almost 21. It is a topic that comes up A LOT. And I usually forget they're not, because they're guys and toss out sexual jokes or comments, but as the conversations continue I realize and feel bad. Oh and just advice to everyone on this page. Props for waiting. Wait for someone who matters, but also don't expect much. First times suck! But I was lucky to lose it to my best friend in the entire world. :o) I'm not really sure what to tell you all though, because I'm sure you don't want everyone in the room knowing you're a virgin. Try changing the topic? Doing something hilarious? Saying "hey! more shots!?!" at a party? I dunno. It's going to happen though.

Same here! 21, and there used to be a couple of us but now I'm the only one and I can't help but feel like i get treated as slightly niaive by my friends who have now 'lost it'. tbh i don't care too much but it is getting a bit hard being the only one - i'm still determined to only do it with someone who will make a commitment of some sort to me and want me for who I am, not the fact that they can sleep with me.

I too am 23 and am a virgin and find it at times difficult. Although, I find the topic of sex to be very personal and do not always enjoy when my friends spend hours talking about sex. At the same time I try to learn from my friends experience making sure I learn from their mistakes and what works from them. I am lucky enough not to be the only virgin in my group but the numbers are dwindling as we are getting older. Make sure when the topic comes up or if they are getting to detailed for you tell them. My friends laugh and then we switch the topic. In the end you have to do what is right for you because YOU are going to live with your decisions. Good luck!

Well, if they only talk about sex, you could ask them not to, or start the conversations and steer them the way you want them to go. If they start talking about sex, then you could try to move on to another topic really quickly. Definitely don't just give in and have sex with someone to feel like you can now fit in. You will only regret that. Just try to talk to them about how it makes you uncomfortable, or you feel left out and if they could talk about other things.