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Question: Hey ladies, I've been in some of...

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Posted by Anonymous on June 14, 2010 at 11:56 AM

Hey ladies, I've been in some of the worst relationships known to ladies e.g dated cheaters, money suckers and one who took my virginity and never called after that. So naturally I am now wary of men and though I feel lonely I think being single is better so I don't get hurt again. Anyway recently I met one of those guys you can only dream about, who calls when he says he will and who is just shy of perfect, but then my insecurities are now popping out again... He has a son with an old girlfriend and I'm really afraid of dating him cause of that and I ask what if he ever decides to get back with her or what if his son doesn't like me bla bla. How do I get over this insecure feeling so I can maybe hang on to a good man and find real love for once??

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  • Posted by Anonymous on June 15, 2010 at 2:23 PM
not every person is the same. imagine if this guy has only ever dated bitches and golddiggers? imagine if he thought about every woman like that? it wouldnt be fair and it definatly wouldnt be true so why just because he's a man he should automatically be labeled as the 'typical all the same kinda bloke'? give him the benifit of the doubt because if you cant take a chance on this one you will never take a chance on anyone
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Sometimes you just have to let go of your fears and go for it. You can't ever hope to find love again if you don't risk it.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on June 14, 2010 at 12:11 PM
Not every man is the same. Having had awful relationships is not nice at the time but are you not more clued up to what is good and bad for you now? Use your experiences to your advantage and if you want to move on you do need to trust. When you feel insecure..stop and ask yourself is it validated. Acknowledge how you feel and put it to rest in that moment.Don't let it fester. As for getting back with his ex. If he does he does and there is no way of knowing, you have to take a chance if you feel he is worth it. Take your time with everything and dont worry about his son, i'm sure it will be fine. Good luck.x
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