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Posted by Anonymous on August 5, 2010 at 12:18 PM

To date or not to date? My friend has mentioned to me that her brother is interested in dating me. Which, normally I'd think that was cool, maybe give the guy a date and if it didn't work out no hard feelings. But the problem is, her brother is 8 years older than me, got divorced a few months ago, and has a child. I'm not even old enough to drink. Having grown up with a brother who is nearly a decade my senior, I understand the difference those years can make in life, so I'm really unsure about giving him a date. I mean, he's clearly at a VERY different point in his life than I am. It really separates us on a lot of levels. Not to mention that the idea of dating someone who is about as old as my brother really freaks me out (and mildly disgusts me). So I'd really just appreciate feedback.

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  • Posted by Anonymous on September 21, 2010 at 7:44 PM
it is worth a try. if you dont click that oh well, and even thow he may be as old as ur brother, your brother is your brother, they will discust you no matter what, so just caus he is the same age it dosent mean he will act the same.
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My advice would be to stay away from him -- you may be getting yourself into lots of problems down the road, especially if this is your friends brother. You risk jeopardizing your friendship!
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  • Posted by Leashie V on August 8, 2010 at 8:31 PM
No, dont do it. Stick with men at your age...and just concentrate on getting your life together.
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I think you clarified the answer yourself. Even if you don't "disgust him" just the age difference, it'll eventually bother you so much you'll be driven away. I would say wait a few years and see if he's still single. He probably wouldn't be looking for something serious with you, especially because he has kids and you're definitely not old enough to be a mother yet!
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  • Posted by Anonymous on August 5, 2010 at 9:52 PM
I should probably clarify. The guy himself doesn't disgust me. The thought of him being around the same age as my brother does.
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Well let's see, you just listed about a billion reasons why NOT to go on a date with him & even a reason why the mere thought of it kind of disgusts you. Soooo your question is???!!!.......................
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  • Posted by Anonymous on August 5, 2010 at 5:58 PM
i have no clue about the older guy part but dating a best friends brother can be difficult. i tried it and when i broke up with him i very nearly lost my best friend
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  • Posted by Anonymous on August 5, 2010 at 2:10 PM
Sounds to me like you're already leaning towards "no"; go with your gut on this.
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I wouldn't have ever dated a guy who disgusts me. Ok, I did once, but I learned from that mistake. Ok, wait, I did that three or four times, sorry, I am old... (LOL!!!!) I am married, to a great guy now for 9 years, and he doesn't disgust me, never has, well, except for maybe leaving his boxers in the bathroom a while back...ew! anyways, that is besides the point. Just tell the dude, and the best friend, not your type, would never work out, you need someone without so much baggage (don't tell him or her that, you don't want to offend anyone) but when you add children or a divorce into the mix, it just complicates things.
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  • Posted by Sarah Hoey on August 5, 2010 at 12:29 PM
I suggest, that if you are doubtful without it even starting, then it's probably not going to work out. I don't see a problem with him being 8 years older, as my boyfriend is 7 years older than I am, and we've been together for 3 years now. It's not like it's your brother that you're going to date. Lol. It's true, he's experienced a little more in life than you have, but you can learn from his mistakes and accomplishments. If it were me in your shoes, I would give him a chance at least, because you never know, but like I said, it seems you are already doubtful about it, so I would just stay friends.
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