I'm not sure if many people could answer this question, but I'm at a loss. I was sexually abused by my sister during childhood, and I'm now in my late twenties, and have only just started dating properly. In the few relationships I've had, I've been upfront near enough from the start about my past. A lot of people tell me not to be upfront about it because it will put men off. While I agree with this, I also think they should know because it does still affect me sometimes, and I have unusual ways of coping with things, so by telling them, it might help them to understand me better. Also, I don't want to get into a serious relationship and keep it from my partner, only for them to find out a few years later and break up with me for keeping it from them.
So my question is, when is the best time in a relationship to tell a guy about it?