Question: How important is physical attraction? Can you...

I think the initial physical attraction is much less important than the one that grows with time. We often notice people based on their physical attributes, but those only go so far in a relationship. As the relationship grows, I think you become attracted to their personality, their behavior, and their character. Those are parts of them that you can actually love - you can't exactly "love" deep blue eyes or perfect hair or rock solid abs. Awesome chemistry from the word "go" is important to some women, but I think for the rest of us, chemistry is something that just has to develop over time.

That's really for you to decide, honey. No one else can tell you what is important in a relationship. If you're struggling with this problem for a specific reason, I'd say, give a relationship with this person a go, and see where it ends up. At least then you'll know what is important. Just don't let it get too serious before you know what you want out of a relationship.

For me, I have to at least be attracted to the person, but I have a wide range of what I find attractive (from short, curvy black girls, to tall, skinny white guys) so it's not a huge issue for me. Personality-wise, however, I am super picky, so I found a guy I like a whole lot, and I've hung onto him for awhile. It's hard for me to find a guy I would find compatible romantically.

I think that if the person possesses the traits and qualities you truly want in a partner/boyfriend/husband they become attractive to you. Just like with women looks fade at some point too for men - for me I want to be 70 years old with my husband wrinkly and old and still love him for who he is... because we're definitely not going to look our best like when we met.

No matter what I want to be attracted to my husband, physically, as well as mentally. I mean I don't want to be doing him, look up, and see that he is not cute. Brains is always better than brawn to me, but still he gotta look good! I would go on a blind date though. 44

Everyone is different. For me, as long as they're in the ballpark & I don't find them completely unattractive, I think I could fall for them. Also, once I start developing feelings for someone, I become more physically attracted to them.
But, like I said, they have to be somewhere in the ballpark. If I thought someone was totally unattractive & there was absolutely nothing I liked about them physically, I don't think everything else could make up for it.
I've been in situations before where I was not physically attracted to a person (but also not repulsed) & then totally clicked with them & the physical attraction developed.
Everyone is different tho & I think it's a case by case thing.